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What to expect in the last stages

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Hello. I do not know exactly where to begin this email or even if I am doing the right thing. My mother, who is 58, is in the final stages of primary liver cancer. On Wednesday 6/4/3, her physician indicated she has approximately 4-8 weeks to live. Last night, Saturday 6/7/3, she fell into a hepatatic (sp?) coma. Her physician and two friends of ours who are also physicians, indicated that she was not in any pain, so we could still keep her at home, but that she was probably very close to death. Accordingly, her priest came and adminstered last rites. In the middle of the night - at around 4:30 this morning, however, she awoke suddenly and asked for two Dannon yogurts and a large glass of Vernors. She had a third yogurt this morning around 9:00 a.m.

I guess my question, is, what is happening? None of the physicians seem to have an answer, and I am feeling really confused and scared. Last night I thought it was the end and stayed by her side for hours until I fell asleep. My Dad is also taking this very hard.

I have never posted a mesage before or been involved in any kind of chat room, so I am not sure how this works. But, if anyone could lend some guidance, I'd be very appreciative.

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I'm contaminated with hepa b and I feel the symptoms of weakness, headache, muscle aches... I don't know what to be in the last stages...


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MY BLESSING TO YOU. I understand that you want your family to be taken care if. I too was told that I only had with in a year. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU

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Keep a positive attitude and don't believe everything you are told. Stats are based upon those who open their files to the docs. Everyone reacts differently. Attitude is a main thing and you should surround yourself with people who are positive. The dooms day folks can go back into the closet. I have had Stage IV cancer for almost three years. I was diagnosed in January 2011 and my children were told that I had only three months to live. I am still around and functioning. I may not be functioning 100% prior to being diagnosed, but I am able to move around and hug my family and friends. I have neuropathy in my hands and feet due to side effects of treatments. I believe a positive attitude is a key to maintaining to improving your health. I have undergone radiation treatment for my colon/rectum cancer and it is has been in remission for two years now. I am battling the liver cancer with the knowledge that I have two tumors that are inoperable and located in places (portal vein) that they never will go into remission. But, I can fight it with the drugs to maintain the size and not spread to other parts of my body. When I am undergoing chemo, the doctor puts me on a 5,000 calorie/day food intake. It makes sense if you think about it. Chemo burns up approximately 2,000 calories a day. You need the other 3,000 calories to account for the nourishment you need and the times you vomit it back up. In all honesty, I have never been able to eat that much food in a day, but I try. The main thing is that I have kept my weight within the 10 lb. radius of my origiinal weight prior to being sick. I keep the resources in my body to help fight the cancer. I don't stress about what is good for me to eat, whatever I can eat and keep down is a positive thing. Food doesn't always taste the greatest, so I use Carnation Instant Breakfast or diet beverages with a lot of protein to help me reach my food intake. I love to prove the stats wrong and have a great relationship with my doctor: he keeps me going and I will make his stats look wonderful. There are thousands of chemos out there. I have gone through six different types so far. Some have had horrible side effects (i.e. the skin looks dry and flakey and no matter what cream you use, you look scaley, colostomy, etc.). The thing is that if one doesn't work, go to the next one. I know my liver cancer is not primary, but I still go through the same things that primary folks do.

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Thanks for the encouraging words.

My mother was diagnosed with stage IV liver cancer about six months ago.

I guess I'm still a little baby, but the news has shaken me to the core.

She went in for a PET scan yesterday and today the doctor has found that the cancer has spread to her lower spine.

I'm at a loss for words, but I understand that I need to be strong for my mom.

I will pray and cheer for you too.

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Hello. My mom was diagnosed with liver cancer on April 29th, 2012. The doctor told me she would not make it to see me graduate on May 29th, 2012. She has surpassed what the doctor said, & now she is staying cold, loss of enegy, having sharp abdominal pains, coughing up blood, & there is blood in her fecal matter. She refuses to go back to the doctor, she also has multiple sclerosis. Can somebody please help me.. I have no idea what is going on, or what to expect next...

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My dad has a large tumor on his liver and a smaller one on his esophogus. We are waiting to get his biopsy report on where the primary tumor may be. i do not think there is much the doctors can do at this point. But I have hope in alternative methods. i know Dr. Thomas Seyfried from Boston College has a ketogenic diet that uses a monitored high fat, low carb, no sugar diet to kill cancer cells. Basically cancer cells need sugar to live, whereas normal cells can use ketone bodies (an alternative fuel) to function. He's very good with his emails. [Content removed by CSN Support Team]

Additionally, hyperbaric oxygen treatment has also shown very good results. You can check out scientific papers on hyperbaric oxygen on pubmed (scientific paper database). There is also an institution called Hippocrates Health Institute in Florida, where they use natural methods and food to help with healing.

Chinese Traditional Medicine has also very promising effects. There's 2000 years of trial and error behind this medicine, that we westerners often overlook.


this is a good website to look for some information. People think some Chinese Traditional medicine is toxic, but the thing is any medication is probably way less toxic then chemo.

And I think most importantly, it's about being there with the loved one, wholeheartedly. I'm dropping everything to be with my father. I hope you can too.


Best Wishes


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This is my first time on here. My dad has cancer in both lungs and also in his glands ( I think ) . He was given 9 months and we are just gone past the ninth month. Myself and my mam is here caring for him but lately my mother keeps  sleeping. Last week I went back to work and this is 9am to 5 pm as I was falling into depression and I needed to do something. 

I feel a bit guilty but I was no use to anybody the way I was. It's really only since I started work my mam is sleeping too much. My dad has carer s calling everyday but he is able to dress himself and walk around. He is an alcoholic and every night I buy him his drink. The way all my siblings look at it the drink is what he always had and why take it away from him now . But my mam hates us getting the drink. My dad is on morphine tabs and he is slowly going to die and maybe this is what my mam cannot accept. 

I am thinking of leaving the job and wait until my dad goes so I can look after the both of them as after working that week it has helped me get up early and I feel a lot better now. 

I do not know what to do with my mother . Do I contact the palliative care team and explain to them or what else ? Has anyone got any suggestions. 

Thanks for listening



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My morher was home with Hospice care and had gone 10 days without water and we were waiting for the end. My brother from Florida came there and she perked up and talked to him, talked to his wife and daughter on the phone, asked how they were. She then fell back into her coma induced by the morphine I was giving her. The nurse explained that at a certain time, when they've been waiting for someone they can muster energy from somewhere to find the strength to wake and talk and that it's not unusual. I was shocked.. she became lucid and then went back into her coma. I wondered if I could stop the morphine and we could talk again, but I didn't want to mess with the plans Hospice had given me. Test things. But - she did wake up... she died shortly after that, after everyone had left the room, also not unusual. 


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