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What to expect in the last stages

klbk
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Joined: Jun 2003

Hello. I do not know exactly where to begin this email or even if I am doing the right thing. My mother, who is 58, is in the final stages of primary liver cancer. On Wednesday 6/4/3, her physician indicated she has approximately 4-8 weeks to live. Last night, Saturday 6/7/3, she fell into a hepatatic (sp?) coma. Her physician and two friends of ours who are also physicians, indicated that she was not in any pain, so we could still keep her at home, but that she was probably very close to death. Accordingly, her priest came and adminstered last rites. In the middle of the night - at around 4:30 this morning, however, she awoke suddenly and asked for two Dannon yogurts and a large glass of Vernors. She had a third yogurt this morning around 9:00 a.m.

I guess my question, is, what is happening? None of the physicians seem to have an answer, and I am feeling really confused and scared. Last night I thought it was the end and stayed by her side for hours until I fell asleep. My Dad is also taking this very hard.

I have never posted a mesage before or been involved in any kind of chat room, so I am not sure how this works. But, if anyone could lend some guidance, I'd be very appreciative.

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meh_oregon
Posts: 4
Joined: Nov 2013

Hi,

Keep a positive attitude and don't believe everything you are told. Stats are based upon those who open their files to the docs. Everyone reacts differently. Attitude is a main thing and you should surround yourself with people who are positive. The dooms day folks can go back into the closet. I have had Stage IV cancer for almost three years. I was diagnosed in January 2011 and my children were told that I had only three months to live. I am still around and functioning. I may not be functioning 100% prior to being diagnosed, but I am able to move around and hug my family and friends. I have neuropathy in my hands and feet due to side effects of treatments. I believe a positive attitude is a key to maintaining to improving your health. I have undergone radiation treatment for my colon/rectum cancer and it is has been in remission for two years now. I am battling the liver cancer with the knowledge that I have two tumors that are inoperable and located in places (portal vein) that they never will go into remission. But, I can fight it with the drugs to maintain the size and not spread to other parts of my body. When I am undergoing chemo, the doctor puts me on a 5,000 calorie/day food intake. It makes sense if you think about it. Chemo burns up approximately 2,000 calories a day. You need the other 3,000 calories to account for the nourishment you need and the times you vomit it back up. In all honesty, I have never been able to eat that much food in a day, but I try. The main thing is that I have kept my weight within the 10 lb. radius of my origiinal weight prior to being sick. I keep the resources in my body to help fight the cancer. I don't stress about what is good for me to eat, whatever I can eat and keep down is a positive thing. Food doesn't always taste the greatest, so I use Carnation Instant Breakfast or diet beverages with a lot of protein to help me reach my food intake. I love to prove the stats wrong and have a great relationship with my doctor: he keeps me going and I will make his stats look wonderful. There are thousands of chemos out there. I have gone through six different types so far. Some have had horrible side effects (i.e. the skin looks dry and flakey and no matter what cream you use, you look scaley, colostomy, etc.). The thing is that if one doesn't work, go to the next one. I know my liver cancer is not primary, but I still go through the same things that primary folks do.

vchovcho
Posts: 1
Joined: Jun 2013

Thanks for the encouraging words.

My mother was diagnosed with stage IV liver cancer about six months ago.

I guess I'm still a little baby, but the news has shaken me to the core.

She went in for a PET scan yesterday and today the doctor has found that the cancer has spread to her lower spine.

I'm at a loss for words, but I understand that I need to be strong for my mom.

I will pray and cheer for you too.

elizabeth94
Posts: 1
Joined: Mar 2014

Hello. My mom was diagnosed with liver cancer on April 29th, 2012. The doctor told me she would not make it to see me graduate on May 29th, 2012. She has surpassed what the doctor said, & now she is staying cold, loss of enegy, having sharp abdominal pains, coughing up blood, & there is blood in her fecal matter. She refuses to go back to the doctor, she also has multiple sclerosis. Can somebody please help me.. I have no idea what is going on, or what to expect next...

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