lost husband to brain cancer april 2005

ll7114
ll7114 Member Posts: 3
edited March 2014 in Surviving Caregivers #1
My husband died of brain cancer in April 2005 after a 27 month battle with this horrible disease. He was only 44 years old. I was with him every day through this and watched him fight so hard to keep living. I feel as though my life has no meaning since his death. We had such a bond before and during his illness that I need to know how to go on without him.

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  • Tdboo1
    Tdboo1 Member Posts: 1
    #2
    Sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost my husband to cancer, osteosarcoma on June 10, 2005. He was 45. We have 4 children 15, 8, 5, and 4. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Our marriage had fallen apart a year before we found out he had cancer. We had stayed together for the children. He did'nt tell us the chemo wasn't working until he couldn't do it alone anymore. He was such a fighter. We began to love each other again. He died 5 months later. I struggle every morning to get our children dressed and all of us out of the house so I can go to work. Keeping busy is the key for me. When I drive somewhere I see things that bring him back to me and then the tears come because he's not here. I try to explain to the kids why he left us and why he's not coming back but it's real tricky because I'm still trying to get through the day in one piece without anyone noticing that I'm about to fall apart. What else can you do but go on. God doesn't put on you more than you can handle. For my children I ignore the nausea feeling and cook them dinner. For my children I laugh and smile so they can see that everything is ok and that we can live a different life without a man who ment so much to us all. I tell them we a starting a new life. And we are. Moving forward one day at a time.
  • pjenks57
    pjenks57 Member Posts: 112
    #3
    Tdboo1 said:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost my husband to cancer, osteosarcoma on June 10, 2005. He was 45. We have 4 children 15, 8, 5, and 4. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Our marriage had fallen apart a year before we found out he had cancer. We had stayed together for the children. He did'nt tell us the chemo wasn't working until he couldn't do it alone anymore. He was such a fighter. We began to love each other again. He died 5 months later. I struggle every morning to get our children dressed and all of us out of the house so I can go to work. Keeping busy is the key for me. When I drive somewhere I see things that bring him back to me and then the tears come because he's not here. I try to explain to the kids why he left us and why he's not coming back but it's real tricky because I'm still trying to get through the day in one piece without anyone noticing that I'm about to fall apart. What else can you do but go on. God doesn't put on you more than you can handle. For my children I ignore the nausea feeling and cook them dinner. For my children I laugh and smile so they can see that everything is ok and that we can live a different life without a man who ment so much to us all. I tell them we a starting a new life. And we are. Moving forward one day at a time.

    Thank you. Thank you for your strength and your compassion. I have not lost my husband to this horrible diesease but I feel that it is only a matter of time. My husband has stage IV colon cancer and they say about 2 years and that is just around the corner (Oct 21, 2005 will be 2 years) I know that noone knows what, when etc. There is only one God and he holds the key to EVERYTHING. I just read your post and find that there is strength and luckily you believe in God. He is what gets me thru now and I know that he will be there holding my hand all the way thru the rest of my life. I have a 9 year old daughter and she & I know that we will be able to make it without daddy and we will be fine cuz we have God and our church.
    Sorry to ramble on and on but I just wanted to say thanks.
    God bless you and yours
    PJ
  • aur445
    aur445 Member Posts: 1
    #4
    I am sorry for your loss.My wife died of brain cancer june 23rd this year.She was only 44 and a wonderful person.I watched her as she deteriated.She had been told that she had lung cancer in march but it spread to her liver and brain and she went fast.I know how you feel,i have gone through different stages up and down.You need to get tuff as i need to do.Life is for the living not for the dead.I know your pain as i share it.I hope that we as well as everyone else that goes through this can get through it and live our lives out in happiness.We have to try.
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