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when will it get better

Geri1959
Geri1959 CSN Member Posts: 37
in Emotional Support #1
My Husband has been gone since October 5th 2011,when will I feel better the two things I love to do is work and cook and I can't seem to do either it is like life is beeing sucked out of me I feel like my brain is working in slow motion. I am going back to work 1 week from this Wed I pray I am going to be okay
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  • palmyrafan
    palmyrafan CSN Member Posts: 396
    #2
    Loss
    I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. I wish I had adequate words in my vocabulary to tell you how sorry I am.

    All I can advise you is to take it one day at a time. One minute, one hour, one day at a time.

    You are in my prayers.

    Teresa
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  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer CSN Member Posts: 738 Member
    #3
    so sorry
    I am so sorry for your lost I don't know if it every really goes aways but in time I think it gets better. I will be praying for you. Much love and hugssssssss

    Anne
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  • jimwins
    jimwins CSN Member Posts: 2,107 Member
    #4
    Hugs and hang in there
    Hi Geri,

    I'm so sorry your husband passed. You are strong and will
    put the pieces of your life back together albeit a few of them
    will be missing. There is no time frame on all of this - people
    process grief in their own way but it will get better.

    I posted something on the Grief and Bereavement board that
    might be helpful when you are ready. The guys seems really good
    and discusses many things that you are facing or will face.

    http://csn.cancer.org/node/228539

    Hang in there and know you've got friends here,

    Jim
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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay CSN Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #5
    Sorry
    I lost my husband two years ago. I can well remember those first few weeks of grief. I definitely had the fog of grief. This is not something you will get over, it is something you will learn to live with. It takes time, though, and sometimes outside help or meds. Try not to be too hard on yourself. This is a real blow. You are facing many changes. I'll never forget the first time I had to mark the widow box on a form. So many things will hit you. Sometimes they are little things, sometimes big ones. I have pretty much given up cooking. I go out to lunch almost daily either with friends or my iPad. It was just too painful to cook for one all the time or sit at the dining table by myself. Give yourself time. Find your own way to grieve. Lean on friends and family. Take care, Fay
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  • 3Mana
    3Mana CSN Member Posts: 811
    #6
    It takes time
    Geri,
    It has only been a few weeks since you lost your husband. It's going to take time & the hurt of losing him will never go away, but it will become easier. I lost my husband 19 months ago tonite & I know at 10:00 all the memories of that night will come back to me. I miss him so much & still have bad days, but try to remember all the happy times we had. So just take a day at a time & try to keep busy. I think the worst part is eating alone, and being alone at night. Be strong & remember we are all here for you.
    One who knows, Carole
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