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  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
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    bingles said:

    Close but no
    Close but no cigar....Becky....Central Jersey here....oh and Fay....I love Earl Gray...

    Hey Pat and all the "Tough
    Hey Pat and all the "Tough Ladies"
    I was born and raised in Central Jersey Pat! Ocean Township/Asbury Park area. My parents retired to Virginia in 2004, we followed them! If any of you are ever in the Virginia area let me know. Let's see my beverage of choice would have to be some Lemon Zest Tea! Love and hugs to you all. Keep up the good work moving forward! See you soon.
    Tina in Va
  • debbieg5
    debbieg5 Member Posts: 167
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    bingles said:

    Wouldn't it be awesome if....
    ...we could all sit in the same room?? share a pot of our beverage of choice ( meaning coffee or tea... ; )) and see both the pain as well as the hope in each others eyes.
    We all seem to share the exact set of horrific circumstances....and have lost people that were and still are as vital to our exhistance as the air we breathe.
    We are all some pretty tough ladies and I know that the loved ones we have lost would be incredibly proud of us.
    I had one of those funky moments of lose today....Verizon was here to trouble shoot my DSL and I was a nervous wreck that they were going to mess something up and I felt very alone....but handled it well....obviously they fixed my DSL and no they didn't mess anything up....but a short appointment turned out to be 3 hours...thought I was going to have 2 guys for dinner....been awhile since I shared a meal with a man let alone 2... ;)
    Keep moving forward...
    Pat

    virtual group
    As I have been reading through this thread (came upon it a little late) i was thinking the same thing...wouldn't it be great to have all of us in the same room to talk, share stories about our loved one and encourage each other.

    I guess it shouldn't be surprising considering the board we are on, but it still just seems eerie that so many of us have lost our husbands in the last few months. the start of 2011 has been a rough one for many. My husband, Ken, passed away on January 8. He had been battling throat cancer for the last 8 months. this was his second fight. the first one was in 2007 and although it was tough, he made it through. I expected no different this time but it wasnt' meant to be.

    It has only been 5 weeks so things are still a little raw some times. I think keeping busy is the key to sanity. I have no choice since I have 3 kids (2 at home, 1 at college) and am trying to catch back up at work. Focusing seems to be one of my biggest problems right now. I know what needs to be done but just can't seem to get the mental focus to do it some times.

    so here's to our virtual, widow support group....you ladies can raise your cup of tea if you like, I'll raise my glass of Riesling. :-)
    Hugs to you all.
    Debbie
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
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    debbieg5 said:

    virtual group
    As I have been reading through this thread (came upon it a little late) i was thinking the same thing...wouldn't it be great to have all of us in the same room to talk, share stories about our loved one and encourage each other.

    I guess it shouldn't be surprising considering the board we are on, but it still just seems eerie that so many of us have lost our husbands in the last few months. the start of 2011 has been a rough one for many. My husband, Ken, passed away on January 8. He had been battling throat cancer for the last 8 months. this was his second fight. the first one was in 2007 and although it was tough, he made it through. I expected no different this time but it wasnt' meant to be.

    It has only been 5 weeks so things are still a little raw some times. I think keeping busy is the key to sanity. I have no choice since I have 3 kids (2 at home, 1 at college) and am trying to catch back up at work. Focusing seems to be one of my biggest problems right now. I know what needs to be done but just can't seem to get the mental focus to do it some times.

    so here's to our virtual, widow support group....you ladies can raise your cup of tea if you like, I'll raise my glass of Riesling. :-)
    Hugs to you all.
    Debbie

    Focus
    I can assure you that having trouble focusing is normal, whatever normal is. I lost my husband almost 16 months ago. I still have trouble focusing at times. Those first few months were particularly hard, though. I had to be particularly careful in the car. I figured that out when I scraped the car on the garage. After that I made a mental note to always center myself before driving. Take care, Fay

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