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Archives for October 2017

Pushed to my limits
First time posting... Probably should have saught help years ago. I met my wife almost 8 years ago, she had multiple cancer spots and thankfully some have been successfully defeated. She takes her meds but doesnt talk about it... Only to remind me in an argument that she has cancer... Thinking i forgot. I have sacrificed…
The beginning and not sure what to expect.
My dad just got diagnosed with stage IV melanoma last month after breaking his femur due to a tumor that had weakedned it. It feels like we've been getting information piecemeal and we're at the point where they're trying to figure out what kind of treatment he is a candidate for. It's been my sister and I that have taken…
Hard to watch
I seem to be the only one here. Makes sense - after 2am here in Ottawa. Sitting by my sister's bedside. Gave her meds (PO) at 1am, decided to sit with her until she fell asleep. Fifteen minutes later, vomiting. She's resting now - hurts to talk - doesn't want replacement meds subQ just yet. She's palliative but some days…
Treatment is done...feeling more stressed now
My husband just finished his treatment for stage 3 rectal cancer. He had 28 days of raditation and chemo, surgery which ended in permanent colostomy and then more radiation. He had his ct scans done and things look good at this point. This has been a journey to say the least. My issue right now is being critical of…
I have one nerve...
PSW, scheduled for three hours tonight, phoned to say she'd be here i 15 minutes BUT has a "heavy cold" and will try not to give it to my sister. Said she was actually not feeling well when here last night. WTF? Why, I asked, did you not call this morning for a sub? Oh, you'll never get a sub on a holiday weekend, she…
anticipatory grief
Hi everyone I'm a newbie here, and I will start the caregiving 'journey' tomorrow. I always thought that journey was something to look forward to...not anymore. I think a new word needs to be used, since journey sounds too nice for what's coming. I don't mean to sound pessimistic- it's just that I'm so scared. Scared of…
anticipatory grief
Hi everyone I'm a newbie here, and I will start the caregiving 'journey' tomorrow. I always thought that journey was something to look forward to...not anymore. I think a new word needs to be used, since journey sounds too nice for what's coming. I don't mean to sound pessimistic- it's just that I'm so scared. Scared of…
Dying spouse hates me now.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung and brain cancer with multiple brain tumors on July 14th, and is now in the end of life stages. He has daily gone downhill these last two weeks, and can no longer stand up, even with help, and either can’t, or won’t talk to me. He has quit eating a couple of days ago, and barely…
How to handle "I won't be around for that"
My husband has Stage 4 prostate cancer with metastasis happening quickly to several organs, and is now exhausting treatments. I think we're looking at a year or so. I'd like some advice on how to respond when he says things like, "It is probably my last Christmas" or "I probably won't be around for that". Lately, nearly…

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