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Should I make the suggestion?
Hello all. First post here. A little background: My 36-year-old wife of 16 years was diagnosed last summer (at 35) with stage-4 colon cancer after giving birth to our second child. Actually she had to deliver two months early because of illness which we found out shortly after to be the cancer. Our first child passed away…
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My song for all of you
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DhX8kYb3jc0&feature=share Lay back, turn your speakers up a little with a glass of wine and enjoy. It's my blessing you all of you for your bravery, courage, diligence to those you love.
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My adult kids can't handle my grief
My husband has had cancer for three years, the last two in stage four. It is now inoperable following a liver resection and lots of chemo and radiation. I am so tired from dealing with our family deaths in the last five years (three parents and a sibling) that have involved ugly, slow deaths, that I feel I can hardly face…
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She's gone
My wife died at 10:00 November 22nd. Her 2 adult chidren, their wifes, my daughter and myself were at her side. She died "Peacefully" (as if there is such a thing in death) but did not appear to suffer. I did my best to be her caregiver, it was an honor, a privilage to care for my soul mate. David
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The end is nearing
My wife was diagnosed one year ago (November 11th) with Leiomyosarcoma (very rare, go figure) We went to Stanford for clinical trials that did nothing. She opted for traditional chemotherapy knowing there was no chance of a cure and stopped last March because it made her too ill She has not eaten in 2 weeks. Sips of water…
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She passed away on friday
We took her to the ER on thursday as she was breathing harder than usual. She has been looped from the meds for a few weeks since her last hospital stay, inspite of my steadily reducing the doses. Tests and xrays were fine and they didn't see a reason to admit her. We brought her home and she died that night in her sleep.…
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PTSD
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Ranting for the sake of ranting
So, here is yet another post about my mother and the constant rant my family has going. This past week, my mother has been on edge. Her head has been hurting, she is complaining of weakness and cramps. Now, there are several drugs she is detixing off of, which may be the cause for her angry mood but they were stoped almost…
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Loss of a long time friend
I lost a good friend this past week to a head on traffic accident. Blindsided all of us. I spoke with him about a week ago. He was supportive to me and my wife who is suffering from her cancer. I have a voice message he left on my cell phone that I forgot all about. When I heard it tonight that did it-the tears flowed.…
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DNR
When my husband started hospice he was terminal but still able to do everything for himself. Hospice asked him if he wanted to sign a DNR but he declined because at that time it was hard for him to think about being in that position. Over the last few days my husband has gotten much worse and now he'a confined to the bed…
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Can open...worms everywhere!
Sooo...I am caring for my mom since her cancer diagnosis almost 6 mos. ago. It is terminal. She is mostly bed ridden so I have been unable to go back to work since I got laid off in July. (She was only receiving a small amount of SSI so it's not like we could hire someone to come in and take care of her) She and I have…
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So, today's events... A rant.
Today, I helped my mom clean her hair. About a week ago, she had a craniotomy, where they removed a tumor about the size of a marble. This week, she was finally allowed to wash her hair. However, my mother has very frizzy, curly hair that does not brush or detangle easily, so you can imagine that after about 2 hours of…
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So, today's events... A rant.
Today, I helped my mom clean her hair. About a week ago, she had a craniotomy, where they removed a tumor about the size of a marble. This week, she was finally allowed to wash her hair. However, my mother has very frizzy, curly hair that does not brush or detangle easily, so you can imagine that after about 2 hours of…
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Mother has metastisized breast cancer - What questions should we be asking?
My mother-in-law has stage 4/metastisized BC - Ductal Carninoma, lungs, lymph nodes. She cannot get a PET scan because she can't lay down due to coughing and mucus. So were not sure where else it has spread. She was working with a natural health practitioner for the last six months and refused medical treatment until just…
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I'm a college student and my mom has cancer
So, my mom has cancer. She hasn't been fully diagnosed with a particular type but it is cancer. While she was in the hospital, there wasn't much I could do. I am trying to maintain my classes, help my family, and maintain a semblence of a life. But more and more, I feel like im slipping away in all of the daily living.…
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Steroid Rage
I have posted a few times about the change in my husbands personality. The doctors told me "steroids cause mood swings". After taking my husband off steroids(dexamehtasone) for two weeks and his calm personality returning we went to the doctor only to be told that the dexamethasone along with the revlimid are what fight…