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I'm the daughter in law going nuts as I witness denial and suffering
I just posted about my 83 year old father in law in the esophageal forum. Wanted to cut and paste here but feel free to read here's the facts he was diagnosed a year ago with esophageal cancer no one has ever mentioned type or stage due to age and previous stroke surgery is out one round of chemo radiation the entire year…
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Caregiver for Dad
Hi everyone. I'm the new kid on the block. My name is Amanda. I'm 28 (for like another thirteen days..ahh) and I'm from Indianapolis. My dad (age 57) was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 Esophageal Cancer. Adenocarcinoma. He has mets in his brain, liver, and lungs. He was diagnosed in May. His only initial symptom was…
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Am I the right one for this job?
My husband had been diagnosed with cancer of the larynex last Thursday, still waiting for PET scan for full staging etc. He will be given radiation 5days per week and chemo once per week. Prior to this we were heading fast to a divorce because of his alcoholism. Now we are here, very hard to put away the bad feelings, we…
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Pain medication/personality changes
Hello. My husband is stage IV and has responded well to chemo twice, with the last time including treatment to 30-40 bone mets. His oncologist wants him on a chemo break for 4 months - we are at month 2 and his pain is so bad that he takes 240 mg of oxy a day. It creates personality changes, he becomes like a drill…
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OMG - I'm at wits end
My wife went through breast cancer 5 years ago. Discovered while she was 32 and 12 weeks pregnant. We are both nurses. My problem is, I can't be her caretaker. I take care of people for a living, day in and day out. I took care of her while she dealt with cancer and pregnancy. I took care of our first born when she didn't…
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Great to connect
It was so gratifying to see responses to my first post. I have really needed to connect with other caregivers for awhile, and this is helping me deal with the constant stress. Right now my husband is going thru a "delirium" phase....I think it is called Sundowner's Syndrome. Too many pain and other meds, and now he is…
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Feeling Lost
I went to a local support grp & it was too much. I hate crying in front of ppl. The r/CancerCaregivers sub on Reddit isn't very active & it feels wrong to vent in the r/Cancer sub on Reddit. I don't even feel like venting would change anything, rly. I just need ways to cope so I can be strong for my Mom. She has leukemia.…
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32 year old daughter diagnosed with breast cancer
My daughter was just diagnosed with breast cancer. She's a single mom of my four year old grandson. I will be going to the doctor with her this week so for now I don't have a lot of information. She is going to have a lumpectomy but they are giving her some heavy duty meds for a month before hand. I don't even know what…
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My Mom is gone
I found this forum during my own caregiving time with my Mom who battled BC, and I took great comfort in reading everyone's stories, shared in your pains and struggles, and appreciated all the advice and encouraging words. I hope by sharing some of my own here, it'll help give comfort to someone out there. April 2016 - Mom…
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Mom's First Day of Chemo....
Today is my mom's first day of chemo. She was diagnosed with Breast cancer and had a mascetomy last month. I've felt really detached from the whole process, she is doing fantastic and in good spirits the chemo is just preventive but i dont know what to expect next.. Looking for some good words and experiences of someone…
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Father w/Multiple Myeloma, Dementia, and Peripheral Neuropathy
I have a difficult time asking for help, even as I write this I probably have deleted and retyped 100 times. I'm not even sure where to begin, I know this cancer is incurable, my Dad's future is inevitable. However, to look at it negatively is silly, because we all have the same future and none of us know when not even my…