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Getting Worse (UPDATE)
Today is Mikes 56th birthday and he is spending it in I.C.U. His kidneys failed yesterday, when I went in to see him in the morning he did not know me and couldn't speak; almost in a catatonic state. They took hime to IR and put in a shunt for dialysis, MRI'd his brain, then transferred him to intensive care for "gentle"…
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A Prayer for the Dying
Father God, Give me the strength to help my husband face death with serenity and grace. Give us the peace we need to make the most of our time together. And give us Your love in abundance. Remind him I am with him to the end. Amen.
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In-Laws
Hello everyone, I came across these discussion boards earlier and I thought I'd sign up becuase I need to vent a little. My fiance was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago, and not long after, he asked me to move in with his parents, with their permission, because it was a couple hours closer to the hospital that he goes…
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great news!!
i called hospice about 3 weeks ago for Dad. i second guessed myself for a few days, but now, i am SO glad i called them. now that the chemo is leaving his body, he's eating and drinking more, and he actually laughs out loud now! but the best of all....he's going out for a little while this afternoon with his friends!!!!!…
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Getting Affairs in order......
Something we do not like to talk about....although, mom did and told us her wishes etc., but she changed so quickly that she was not able to sign the will herself. Since my stepdad brother and myself all agreed to what she wanted, we set the wheels in motion. It is still a huge inconvience, do all you can ahead of time.…
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Lost in the Sea
I feel lost in a sea , not knowing what to say or do. Each way I go seams sad . I feel alone , I know I am not but still deep inside me is a place no one would want to go. I see people chatting but it is like air blowing in my head around and around. I don't like the saddness I feel but somehow can not control it. I worry…
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Mental Torture
Each morning begins the same for me, wake up from a restless sleep with butterflies in my stomach. Hard to describe exactly, but the nervousness you get going to the dentist or being pulled over by the police, if that makes any sense. Every day begins the same, mentally drained before the day gets started good. Guess…
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Need advice, alcohol abuse after surviving
My husband has been cancer free for quite a few months, his CT Scan/PET Scan is on Jan 5. I have always bent over backwards and forwards because it's what you do for a loved one. I'd run across the world back and forth if I had to. But, he has been having a hard time coping with the aftermath of being laid off, cancer, and…
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Really scared - Is this the beginning of the end?
I'm very worried and scared. Had to make a doctor appointment for my husband today. He's very very weak (because he isn't eating) and he says he has trouble eating because his stomach gets full right away. He's extremely thin (now around 100 lbs - maybe less). He's having a lot of face pain from the shingles he had which…
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Family sabbatical
If my mother wasn't sick, I would take a 3 month sabbatical from my family. My brother is a deadbeat son and my mother is defending his deadbeat actions. He doesn't do anything and I do everything for her and I get no acknowledgement. I took a 4 month sabbatical one time and that felt good. I am really sick of them the…
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UPDATE: Can't Go To Sister's Memorial Service
As it turns out, it was God guiding me on this one. I had decided not to go to my sister's memorial because I didn't want to leave my husband alone. He wanted me to go but I just had a bad feeling about it. Well my husband wound up in the hospital and now we are talking with hospice. We'll know tomorrow about whether he is…
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Penny
You doing okay in the snow?
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apricot seeds?
is anyone feeding apricot seeds to their loved one with cancer? is this a myth about the vitamin b-17?
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The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
The Good: MRI and MRA came back clean. Same with all the heart tests and the EEG. Everything is within normal ranges. The Bad: He's still in the hospital. He is being treated for bacterial sepsis (blood infection) and getting IV antibiotics. He's going nuts from being in the hospital as usual. The Ugly: for 1) where the…
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10 Ways to Help a Loved One with Cancer
1. Become the point person. Serve as the central figure to coordinate volunteer efforts. The point person not only can assign tasks and create schedules for meal delivery, errands and childcare, but also can update others about the patient’s status. This prevents the patient from being inundated with phone calls.…
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NO CANCER TODAY
My husband and I have declared this a day without cancer. Just for today let's forget about all the bad stuff and enjoy the moment. Best wishes for a Merry Christmas. Skipper
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Merry Christmas to all
Hope everyone has a blessed, peaceful Christmas. Hugs.
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April and Penny
Praying extra had for Pat, Mike and the two of you. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through .... the loss of my mother was enough to set me over the top, so to be dealing with your soul mate, your love your husbands and their valiant fights is above all AI can imagine. Again, please let me know if there is…
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Merry Christmas From Heaven
Merry Christmas From Heaven I still hear the songs I still see the lights I still feel your love On cold wintery nights. I still share your hopes And all of your cares I’ll even remind you To say all your prayers I just want to tell you You still make me proud You stand head and shoulders Above all the crowds Keep trying…
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Merry Christmas....
~all i want for christmas is for there to be a cure for cancer....or a nice padded room~
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I'm dreaming of a . . . .
. . . . Christmas at home. Be spending the holiday in the hospital with hubby. I finally found out what he would look like as a smurf. It's not a pretty picture. Doing an MRI and an MRA to figure out the cause of his blackouts. There are a few possibilities, the least of which still isnt the greatest, but better (SO MUCH…
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These ups and downs.
Two days ago Mike rode the stationary bike in PT. He was bragging and goofing off with the nurses about it. Yesterday was no so good, lots of nausea and pain. Today I came in to his room and he didn't know where he was. Encephelopathy strikes again. They have been giving him the medicine to treat the ammonia that causes…
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Mom finished chemo today
Although cancer lurks like a bad stalking lover, mom finished with her 6 months of chemo. We are trying to get her to go on a travel somewhere and just enjoy life, but there is some relief right now. We got her a pink feather boa and a crown to wear and there were lots of tears. Oddly enough she wanted to come home and…
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PENNEYMAC.................
I need some contact info, please, PM me, I wanna help and have a plan!!!
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Staying Positive Isn't Easy...
How do you stay positive, as a 'distant'-caregiver...? I live two hours from my stepfather who has cancer (NHL)...during his 12 chemo treatments I was at the hospital 2-3 out of the five days a week. I gave up a semester of college to be with him (wouldnt have changed that for anything) and as my luck would have it, my…
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I Lost My Sister Today
After a courageous 17 year battle with bc my baby sister passed away today. She was a true warrior. I'll always remember her warm beautiful smile. I'm sure she was greeted by all the angels and has already made friends with most of them. I grieve for her husband and children who were her wonderful caregivers these last few…
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mswijiknyc
How was your day today?
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careful when responding to unknown people-SCAMS going around
Hackers going around in other rooms asking you to go to websites. The suspension is once you go to the website, someone hacks your system. For personal information.
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My Christmas Wish
In addition to limiting my typos on my blackberry I wish I could Take away the suffering of your loved ones and provide healing Renew your spirits and make you laugh again Secure your finances Give you help where you need it Give you the time for yourself that you really deserve Restore your lives to the old normal Luv you…
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alone, lonely, and feeling very guilty about it
The holidays usually end up making me feel lonely as family is far away, but this year it's a bit worse. There is so much going on on top of Pat having cancer and having complications. Then I see how others can do all sorts of research, be these awesome advocates, have the cojones to tell the primary doctor that they…