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Caregivers

Archives for February 2010

Having a hard time!!
My "other" mother has bone cancer..has been fighting it for 16 years. She is not doing well. I find myself constantly praying to god to spare her..give us a miracle and let her get better. I am so scared!! I have been having major anxiety attacks and cant sleep. I have been seeing a therapist..helps a little. I cant…
Lonely
My husband with stage 4 cancer is in the house with me and actually doing pretty good health wise right now, but he has become so quiet. I miss having conversations with him, he is my best friend. Not sure how to handle all the extra responsibilites that being a caregiver has put on me and not having my best friend to talk…
New .. Husband has CLL Leukemia
Hi.. My husband has stage 2 CLL.. Right now he is tired alot.. he can not be around alot of people because of his immune system.. we have a daughter in special ed.. I am worried about my future with my daughter.. paying the bills,paying the bills.. I am afraid .. I work part time at a school. It does not pay the bills.. I…
Planning
Something has been on my mind for awhile, and I thought I'd throw it out. Many of us have talked about the role of the caregiver and how difficult that is. I just wonder what, if anything, we should do to plan for the possible need for our care in the future. As we have learned, anyone can become ill and need care. How can…
What can my family do for mental health help ?
I dont know if this is the spot to place this but I need some help fast This was seemingly under controll for the first couple years , but I always knew that eventually it would take its toll . Now I'm getting in trouble and I dont know what to do . My depression is so bad that I cant leave the house . and my teenage son…
What to expect as I care for my Mother-In-Law
Last week the decision was made to not do Chemotherapy. My MIL has IV NSCLC that has spread to her lymph nodes, her brain and now her spine. This was all found a month ago when the tumor in her brain was found. She had brain surgery to remove it and the biopsy said it started in her lungs. She did not have any tumor on her…
new to all this with a twist
my daughter is a new hodgkins patient. it all started three weeks ago her husband noticed something on her neck. today she had bone marrow test don. she is in kanass i am in michigan i can not go there untill april she has help as she starts chemo but i am mom and i should be there, i should make it all better just like i…
Where can I go for info about Labs
I am a caregiver but not always kept in the loop. My friend who has brain, liver, lung and bone cancer has a platelet count of 28. Is there a reason they are not giving her platelets? Her potassium is high also and have her on meds for that?
I think my husband is angry/upset with me
We currently have hospice coming in to help with my husband - he has colon cancer and is deteriorating weekly. He's been in a lot of pain and we've been working to get it under control without success. His med's have been changed or increased six times in the last week. The cancer seems to be working faster than the med's!…
Cancer cookbooks
My son was wondering if there are any cookbooks with foods that are more recommended for cancer patients. He is 31 and was just diagnosed with Stage IV Colon Cancer, so are just starting our research. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks Linda
Some Joy to Share
While I type here mindful of my fellow caregivers who have helped me through deep valleys in my wife's cancer journey, I wanted to share some news of hope to provide encouragement. My wife was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer with metastasis to her ovaries in May 09; Surgery and then 8 rounds of Chemo. During the chemo…
To anyone who thinks I haven't done right by my father
I just wrote a letter, not to send, just to get things off my chest. It is to members of my family, and to the unreasonable guilt in my own heart, regarding my father's choice to refuse treatment and tests for his cancer and potential other conditions. He is a stubborn, angry, bitter man and has not been a positive…
Adult Child Living with Parents thru Treatment
Adult Child Living with Parents thru Treatment Submitted by JillyB on February 20, 2010 - 1:42am Hi, I am very grateful to have a home to come to with a mother who will do anything needed at the drop of a hat, so I hate to complain. Right now I am on Taxotere for 12, well 5 more weeks, and it is kicking my butt. I have…
I know there is no answer but I just need to vent
I am the caregiver for my husband who has brain cancer diagnosed almost a year ago. ever since his diagnosis he has been depressed and sees no point in living life. I work full time, have my own health issues , take care of my husband and get no support from my husband's family. His family thinks that they help by giving…
Caregiver Dealing with Family of loved One
My friend was recently dx with mestactic cancer. She came home from the hospital a week ago and has steadily gone down hill. She is very special too me and I was asked to care for her 5 hours a day. Another friend cares for the other 5 hours of the day. All of this has happened extremely fast and has everyone pretty much…
Mom in hospice
I just wanted to talk to anyone that has anything to share about having their mom in hospice care. My mom has been battling cervical cancer for 2 years. She was first diagnosed with stage 3b. She did radiation treatments and they were able to get rid of the tumor. But the cancer metastasized to her right lung & liver a few…
Other Caregivers
Hello, I was on the CSN Chatroom a day ago and once I indicated that I was a caregiver the response of the participants was that I was not sick. Does anyone know of a chatroom specifically for Caregivers. My wife was diagnosed with lung cancer in January 2010, we have been married for 28 year and the thought of her being…
In Laws
How do you deal with the cancer patient's parents? The patient is my husband, and the issue is his mother. We've never been close, but apparently instead of the cancer bringing us together as a family, she's been taking everything I do as a personal insult. She's ignored all the positives, and apparently is only seeing…
Boyfriend with cancer shutting me out
I'm at a complete loss for what to do. My boyfriend of two months informed me a few weeks ago that they found a spot near his brain stem. He's had cancer...testicular and then into his kidneys. I knew his history and I was concerned but we really feel like we've found our partner in life. I am 34, he is 39. So he had some…
stage 4 melanoma
my wife is just 40 yrs old and has stage 4 melanoma it is in every lymth node in all limbs and small spot in left lung, and in thyroid glands. Her right breast is 3 times bigger than the left. The doctor is looking to see if any trial studies are out there but it doesnt look good. Anyone out thier know of anything
The roller coaster ride caused by decadron
This site has been a wonderful source of support for me during this time as the caregiver for my husband with brain cancer. This week has been an especially hard week so I hope it is ok that I vent..He had a biopsy a few weeks ago as the last MRI showed progression of the tumor despite the chemo therapy he was receiving.…
Advice needed on finances and family
Don deserves better kids. Period. He has four kids. The oldest is genuinely nice (40), hard-working and rarely asks him for anything. Her brother (38) is charming, helpful and a leech if he can find blood. He's not greedy, exactly; he simply finds good excuses for not working, grows roots on people's couches and, I think,…
depressed and don't know what to do
As my husband's illness (stage 4 EC)goes on, I get more depressed. He's completely shut me out in the process. On his better days, he prefers to spend time at the bar with people who have no positive expectations of him. On his days he's feeling bad, he snaps at me or makes demands to do stuff for him right away. The one…
Need advice from granmafay
Good morning granmafay, I just wanted to ask your advice about my husband. I believe your husband also had colon cancer. I believe we are not far from my husband's passing. I just wondered if you would mind describing your last few weeks. If this is too hard for you or an inappropriate request please just let me know and I…

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