Grief and Bereavement
Discussion List
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is there something wrong with me
I lost my mom a little over 2 yrs ago (uterine cancer) and I've been doing well for the most part as have my sisters, rest of family. Her diagnosis came out of nowhere.. stage IV, thought there were little signs and symptoms that her drs. ignored and we naively believed them. Anyhow, every once in awhile, it happened this…
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Will it Ever End?
In October of 2009 my husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer. Last 4th of July he was doing great, feeking well, we even had a 4th of July party. On July 17th I lost him. This is Juy 4 m 14 year old neice came to stay for the weekend, we had a grea time, shopping, eating out, laying in the sun etc. Today she was…
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Picking Up The Pieces
You would think at my age I would be used to a broken heart or two. I could not reach 58 without having a disappointment or two by now… Remember that first boyfriend or breakup? How about the heart stopping disappointment of your first car wreck? Life on a farm can be very educating, so I learned early about a tragedy or…
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Checking in
Just checking in. I haven't disappeared totally. I have been traveling with family so I have just started lurking again. I am trying catch up. Fay
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Hurts So Good
C'mon baby make it hurt so good/Sometimes love don't feel like it should/You make it hurt so good Ever get a massage when you're really tensed up? It's so freaking painful but OMG it's the most incredible feeling. A good hurt, a good pain. Yes, I know I'm speaking in oxymorons, just bear with me. This Sunday past (July 17,…
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What A Widow Really Wants You To Know
I wrote this from my perspective - change the wording around to suit your situation and share if you would like. To My Friends and Family - Hey hi how are you? Unless you really want an honest answer, you won't ask me that. You see, I've lost not just my spouse, I've lost a part of myself. I've lost my sunshine, so…
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Please Help
My mom died on June 27th. I had to make the decision to pull the plug on mom, but she still wanted to fight. She was just too weak to fight. I seen how scared she was when she couldn't breathe. I was also there when the doctor told her that she was dying. I also seen how scared she was. The doctor gave her hours at best,…
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Can't cope with mum's death
I lost my mum last month. She had stage IV NSCLC but died from an infection while on chemotherapy. Even though I miss her so much, I can somehow handle that part of it. I just can't cope with how she must have felt when she was dying, knowing she was leaving us all. I'm haunted by the images of her suffering during her…
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The Floodgates Are Open... Let The Work Begin!
"Feeling the pain follows accepting the loss. Trying to avoid pain is natural, but only prolongs the process. You may try to cut off your feelings, to keep yourself too busy to feel or think, or to dwell only on pleasant memories. The pain will eventually appear in another form, such as depression or illness. Feeling the…
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Daddy Dearest
It was a long, hard battle which lasted for a little over a year. It's been a very emotional roller coaster, to say the least. Unfortunately my father succumbed to cancer early Thursday morning. His cancer originated in his right lung, but eventually spread to his other lung, esophagus, spine, brain, and liver. He ended up…