Grief and Bereavement
Discussion List
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Cleaning out the closet...
mine! I know we have all shared our feelings about the painful chore of going through our loved ones belongings. And we all pretty much agree that we will get to this when we feel ready. So, what does a lonely gal do on a Saturday night? I decided that since I am not ready to go through my love's things, that my side of…
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My Story
I had been out of the treatment center for about 3 months, and was learning to live life clean and sober; a bunch of my friends were travelling from Florida to the World Convention of NA in Atlanta. They knew I couldn't afford to go on my own, so they invited me to ride with them and we stuffed 5 of us into the hotel room.…
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Special People
When I say special, I don't mean someone like my mom, or a really good friend, or even the nice person that let me jump ahead of them because I was on line with 3 items and they had a cartful. I'm talking about the people that should not be let out of the house without their helmet on and crayons at the ready. Over the…
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New member hoping to share
I have joined this forum with the hope of connecting with others. Though my story is common in many ways, in one huge way, I feel isolated.......January 30, 2011 my life changed forever. A life without my parents or my only sibling, my older brother. All three had lung cancer. All three died from this disease -(dad…
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Once upon a time...
Once upon a time there was this female Airman, and one day while attending Tech School at Brooks AFB, she happened to be standing in the hallway looking down, admiring the shine on her shoes. Suddenly she was aware of someone watching her and when she glanced up there was this handsome Ssgt. looking at her! He said hello,…
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Loss for words
I posted this on the Caregivers board like the blonde that I am. Note to self: redo hair, artificial intelligence is wearing off. It's an odd place for me - for the first time I'm not sure where I fit. First write that on your calendars. I'm never at a loss for something to say, even if it's wildly sarcastic and…
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I failed again
Yesterday I was all set to accomplish a lot of things on my "to do" list. I was getting everything all lined up so that I could do all my errands during one trip. One of the things was to take the bed comforter to the cleaners. I thought I was ready...but apparently I wasn't. I started pulling it back from the bed and then…
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While filing my income taxes...
It's funny how one thought can lead to another, and another, and another. I went to our CPA today to have our taxes prepared and filed. I was mainly thinking and hoping that I had every form I needed. At the end he recommended that I have with holdings done as single with no dependents. Ok, so first time I will be "single"…
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Feeling kinda weird ....
One of Mikes best friends brought over some venison chili tonight. We went to the premier of one of our mutual friends films, and sat on my front porch afterwards talking about Mike and laughing over good times past. Boy, it was good to have a conversation that didn't revolve around cancerous bodily fluids, and it felt…
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The Reading Room: "Grief, Unedited" from NY Times
This article about grief appeared in a recent edition of the NY Times. I thought it was interesting and decided to pass it along. I think it is pretty wonderful if fifty percent of the people who lose a spouse are able to resume their lives within six months. Alas, I'm in the group of "slow learners." Hatshepsut NY Times…
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Valentines' Day
Ok, it is official. I hate Valentines' Day! Not the day itself, but all the commercials, etc. leading up to it. I got so tired of watching romantic couples everywhere. Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti romance or even couples. I just got tired of it being thrown in my face everywhere. I don't remember it bothering me as…
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I'm new and just need someone to talk to.
Hey everyone.I'm Courtney.I'm a 20 year old nursing student from Mississippi.In the past 6 months I've lost my aunt and my dad to lung cancer.I was with my aunt everyday she was in the hospital.My dad was diagnosed September 27th,2010 which was just 4 days before my birthday.They diagnosed him with 6 months to a year to…
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Hope I can face this
Tonight is a sad night for me again. I just found out on facebook (of all places) that my hubby, Tom's niece has passed away today from pancreatic cancer. She's been fighting it for a year and a half. She was one of the sweetest persons in his family. And of all things, tomorrow would be mine & Tom's 47th wedding…
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Feeling So much Guilt after 2 years
I lost my grandmother 2 years ago from lung cancer. She was an amazing woman & the epitome of unconditional love. She lived with me & my parents & we were very close. I thought i was handling her death well but have been crying every single day & night for the past couple months, cant stop reliving what happened during her…
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Losing My Mother Soon
So back at the end of December 2010 my mom's abdomen got swollen and she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She is 57 years old and I am 23 years old. I am an only child. Tomorrow is my birthday and she is going to die within a couple of days. I have no other family and because of that I had to put her in a nursing home in…
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After the Memorial
Mikes memorial was on Sunday. I was afraid it would feel like a final "punctuation" on our life together, but it gave me a lot of peace, instead. A huge crowd of friends and family came to pay their respects, including about 20 motorcyclists who rode in as a tribute. All in all, it was quite beautiful. Mikes ashes are…
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Feeling Lost
My father-in-law died of lung cancer in December. My mother-in-law entered hospice for her own cancer soon afterwards. It feels like we haven't had a chance to truly grieve my fil's death as we have started the process of recognizing my mil's death will be coming soon. My own mother died suddenly about 10 years ago, one…