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pieces
Sometimes I think I need glue to put all the pieces together. Seams so many parts to our life is falling apart, dreams of things we plan to do .Silly things come to mind like a bottle of glue that will cement anything together. I wonder does it work? I hear people say , They are tired of people walking up to them and…
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need advice 4 after surgery
Hi everyone, since all of you have been so helpful in the past I was wondering if any of you knew about partial gastrectomy and how that changes the persons eating habits and diet. My husband is having surgery on the 21st to remove cancer from the stomach. Hopefully it hasn't spread and it won't be a full gastrectomy.…
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My mom, my best friend, my hero, my rock....
Every day since August 9th, I have sat by her side. Caressed her face, talked with her, laughed with her, cried alone.... I have done her nails, helped bath her, change her, feed her, given her every minute of every day, much like she gave for me when I was a baby. Work can wait, told them I would be back when I got back.…
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A very hard year...
I'm excited to say that today is my mom's final chemo treatment! I am so overcome with happiness to close this chapter of the battle. It has been a very difficult year for me - I was diagnosed with a pre-cancerous lesion on my cervix last fall(had surgery to remove it)and earlier this year my mom was diagnosed with breast…
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More Tests
Today: Blood tests, meeting with the oncologist, Tomorrow: Follow up CT scan to the embolization. We won't know the results of the scan until probably next week at the earliest. God, I dread going into the "no answers, don't know anything, hurry up and wait" phase again. Hopefully the tumor has started to shrink, but since…
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It has been one week
Tough week, the days come and go so slow. It seems so surreal. I just can't believe he is gone. I am getting some strange vibes at night. I know it is him. The phone calls are overwhelming. I just listen to the messages. There is no way I can reply to all, maybe someday. I find myself just wandering around the house,…
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get it together HOW
How do you get it together? I am having one of the days no one wants . I feel so alone even the dust left the room. I want to just cry and scream and maybe kick a door , but I know I would have to fix it. I am so sure I am lossing my mind or at least forgot where I put the darn thing. I am so sad and can not explain why ,…
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Is Chemo Dangerous for Caregivers?
My partner's doctors have told us to be careful around her tears or sweat when she has been given chemotherapy in the last 48 hours becuase it could cause chemo burn or be harmful to other people. At the same time, they say it's fine for me to hug and touch her as long as she isn't sweating heavily. She doesn't trust her…
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Husband is a horrible patient
My husband finished treatment for Stage IV throat cancer. He also had a melanoma removed. Now he has to decide whether to have surgery or not for non-small cell lung cancer. I try to talk with him about the cancer but he doesn't want to discuss it. It's taken him over a month now to think about surgery or some other…
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worries over new biopsies
I've also posted this on the Head and Neck cancer page on this website. Just know the Caregivers here understand what I am feeling right now. Prayers needed for my husband. Jim has just finished treatment for hypopharyngeal and base of tongue cancer. When the gastroenterologist placed the feeding tube prior to treatment,…
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Horrible Guilt Justified?
Hi. I posted this in the lung cancer topic but realized I probably should have put it here in the caregivers group. Hi. I'm new here and have met some of you in chat. You all are so encouraging and generous. My husband, Gary, was dx'd with nsclc 3 wks ago. After the initial shock wore off I have been having thoughts that I…
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Fight is over.
The fight is finally over now. Doug passed away Aug 24th after several days of the absolute worst hell I have been through. I won't go into details, but it was a blessing he is no longer in distress and pain. Now it is time for getting on with my life, including the grieving. I had a good few days after the funeral, but…
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Cancer is like.....
My husband was told the FANTASTIC news that he is in partial remission (Non Small Cell Lung Cancer, Stage 4). The Dr. is really pleased with the progress. He tolerated the chemo well. He is now on "maintenance" drugs. Then I asked "Where do we go from here?" The Dr. looked at my husband and said, "Remember I told you I…