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Archives for April 2011

Spousal Support
I don't know if it's just me, or if what I'm sensing is real. I have RCC. Thankfully, it's stage 1, we hope. (no biopsy yet). I'm scheduled for a LPN next month. The problem is my wife and our relationship. This week, I took a pre-op stress test, and the EKG showed abnormalities. So, they did a angiogram, and thankfully…
Don't read if you need to stay positive
I'm at a pretty low point - on the plus side, my husband survived to the NED stage and my family is healthy. Why do I still want to go get my favorite knife and open a vein, then? I did lose my job and had to go into the "pool" of folks who had to be considered for jobs in the system before anyone from the outside could be…
My mom and hospice....
My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in May ’09, she had a mastectomy and reconstruction that summer. Followed by chemo and rounds of radiation. In October ’10 the doctor advised us that she had mets to her liver and we started the whole process again. All the different chemos we tried always made her very ill. I know…
20 year old 3 people caregiver
Im 20 years old..in one year my life changed big time. Let me just do a drop down time line of everything i've gone through June 10, 2010..Mom is diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer that spread to her liver and both lungs October 27th, 2010...Father has a massive heart attack..Heart is in shock, had only 15 minutes…
20 year old 3 people caregiver
Im 20 years old..in one year my life changed big time. Let me just do a drop down time line of everything i've gone through June 10, 2010..Mom is diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer that spread to her liver and both lungs October 27th, 2010...Father has a massive heart attack..Heart is in shock, had only 15 minutes…
How Long?
I need the help of those who have been through this already or have been doing it for a while. My mom was diagnosed with stage IV Squmous Cell Lung Cancer. She is terminal as the cancer is in the blood stream and has spread to the bone. We asked the doctor how long, but she would not give us an answer. I have researched…
New to board
My husband was diagnosed with stage IV colorectal cancer with numerous mets to his liver on Nov. 14, 2010 and inoperable so far. He just completed his 9th chemo so far only had a few side effects so all in all is doing fantastic, however his last treatment of 5fu and oxy were reduced down by 20% is this something that…
How do you all find the strength to do it???
I am new to this site as so many because we are now going through my husband's second round. In July 2009 he was diagnosed with Stage 4 Colon Cancer with Met in the liver. It was a shock to us as I never knew he had any symptoms because we were only married for 2 months at the time. He had a colon resection in July 2009 at…
My mom
My mom passed away Monday morning. It was a non-cancer death (unfortunately triad of the elderly of congestive heart failure, respiratory failure and third-stage renal failure). She was 84 and had been fighting hard the last four months and was just tired. Probably won't post much for awhile as I am still feeling a bit…
new to caregivers
Hello all, my name is Misty and I am new to this group. My husband Neil was diagnosed with stage IV SCC of the head and neck, right lympnode involved with unknown primary about 2 months ago. He just had his second round of chemo yesterday and is doing as well as he can be. I search all around this site for advice,answers…
Frank passed this morning...
...at around 5:25am. His breathing had been steady all night. I suddenly woke up and heard silence. At the same time the aide got up and looked at him, then called my name, and said he is going, talk to him now. I didn't get to see his last breath but I told him I loved hm and that we would always be together in spirit. He…
Furious, tired, overwhelmed
my husband was diagnosed march 31, while we are grateful that it seems to be just in his left tonsil and lymphnodes these past few weeks are unreal. Surgery was originally scheduled for april 18 and then postponed due to "abnormal" ekg, then on April 19th i got fired from my job that i've had for 10 years. hubby was self…
I get it now
Interesting things always seam to boggle my mind. Like people saying they had enough of comments made by others, I did not get it till today. What part of Stage 4 Larynx cancer mets to both lungs does some people not get? It is not Lung cancer since it came from LArynx and spread.There is no cure. My Neice told me today…
Why Do "They" Pick The Bad Days To Visit?
I will try to make this short... (hard to do, I know). Family visits is the subject I am speaking of. Bob had his first "BAD WEEKEND" last weekend and I am not sure how to handle the family. We are a step family so that makes me the enemy sometimes. I won't go into all the details because it would take pages to explain…
How do I stay strong?
Hello! I'm new to this board. Let me tell a little bit about my mom's story. My mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Hodgkin’s Disease at age 19, I was 2 months old. My mom went through many bouts of chemo before having a Bone Marrow Transplant in 1993, 10 years after she was diagnosed. I was 12 during the Bone Marrow…
last days
Frank is transitioning quickly and I think he this may be his last week. He stopped eating and drinking yesterday. For the most part, he is without pain, and he is calm. I am so grateful for that. I am just trying to keep him comfortable, and maintain a sense of serenity here. Family calls and I put them on speaker phone…
rash - Caregiver stress symptom?
So, had a tiny, itchy rash pop up over coldest part of winter. Went away with moisturizer and less heater use as weather warmed. Since I went up north to check on dad when his tumors were discovered 5 wks ago, rash came back a bit as we used heater there. Went away when we got to my home (in the south). Stress of all this…
A day in the life...
Woke up Got out of bed Dragged a comb across my head Made it to a meeting at work, and then drove to the other city to the hospital...and walked in on the nurses giving my wife a bath (she had surgery for urethral cancer on Tues Apr 12) [Hey babe, did I say you look great today?] So I left and got some lunch...then came…
Jim's PET scan - excellent results!
Jim's six month post-treatment PET/CT scans showed no sign of cancer! Praise the Lord! Just wanted to share some good news today!
Luck with diet changes?
Has anyone had specific luck with diet changes for the cancer patients? My dad enjoys a meaty southern diet but also loves fruits and vegetables. He loves coffee and sweet iced tea, as well as desserts. I have read about some really specific diets, but there are many and of course conflicting recommendations. I do want to…
My Mother, Myself
I am realizing there is not a good way to prepare ourselves for the road in life we find ourselves on, Oh... I don't care how smart we are or how much we love them, our Mothers. Our blood does not run cold, we can not separate ourselves from them, our hearts beat as one. An emergency call took me back home to the small…
Very bad day today.
Frank tossed and turned all night, and neither of us slept. He wet himself twice. In the morning I did the laundry and then called hospice for a home health aide (thankfully, starting tomorrow). I helped him take a shower, then he went back to bed. Since his sister was visiting I went to the office for a few hours. When I…
So confused.
Hi, I was hoping maybe somebody here could help me understand what is going on with my mother. My father has stage IV lung cancer, diagnosed 6 months ago, chemo didn't work, and started hospice about a month ago. They told us he probably had around a month, and so far, I'm having a hard time believing that, since he's…
Feel like nobody gets it!
My husband, 54 years old, has stage IV Rectal cancer, mets to liver. He was diagnosed in August 2009 so we are nearing two years. We are in the middle of round three of Chemo. He had radiation with the first chemo which caused damage to his kidney. He ow has stents replaced every three months. He had surgery and an…
Looking for that desert island
So, I have to look for a new job - our county is cutting back on education funds and (having entered teaching really late in life) I have too few years as a teacher to not be cut. I might get picked up by another school, but I'm also looking for jobs back in the "real" world (the one in which you only have to work about 10…
Am I wrong?
First time I've posted on the caregiver site and would like some advice. My mother has limited sclc which was in remission for 7 months and came back in the same lung. Lately she has been crying constantly and is really depressed because she thought the cancer would go away longer. She now takes chemo for the new cancer.…
Pancreatic cancer and/or 5FU treatment
Hi All, new here and completely overwhelmed. My dad (62) is a 2 year survivor of PC who has been on gemzar (gemcidabine) for about a year and a half. His onc just gave us the news that he seems to have stopped responding to the gem and wants to change to the 5FU pump. Any input on what we are looking at side-effect wise?…
New to the boards and cancer, need help
Hi to all. I'm new to all this, and have a very complicated situation but hope someone can help or suggest something. My name is Kim, I'm a 27 y/o Navy veteran living in the Cincinnati area of Ohio. My Mom was diagnosed with MS in the late 80's. Since that time she's been diagnosed with diabetes, glaucoma, and had to have…
Major denial and poor choices....Can anyone relate?
Hi everyone. This might be a little long but I have some things that I really need to get some advice on. Hopefully someone can somewhat relate and give me some advice or resources on what to do. My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in early febuary of this year. It came as a huge shock to all of us. I live…
Watching my mother cry really sucks
I want her disappointment to be over....its not the physical pain and suffering that I am struggling with...it's her anguish....she's dying and does not want to go. She has put up a huge fight and not gotten any positive results for the effort and pain.....none. not one good CT scan.....ever.........I absolutely hate this…

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