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How do you keep them going?
My wife is in her mid 40's and has stage 3 uterine cancer. She has had a hysterectomy, radiation and 4 out of 6 chemo with adriamycin and cisplatin. This was the recommended protocol from two clinical hospitals. She is struggling with the side effects which include the ones from radiation that chemo has brought back. Her…
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Losing a parent
I lost my mother almost 8 months ago to cholangiocarcinoma (bile duct cancer). I was hoping to find someone to talk to here. Today has just been awful. It hurts, and I miss her. It seems like there's no "normal" anymore ... like we're all waiting for something. Waiting for things to get back to normal, I guess. Its still…
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MOTHER IS NOT BEING TRUTHFUL
MY MOM HAS MUTIPLE MYELOMA. SHE IS ON DIALYSIS 9 HOURS A DAY BECAUSE A SECOND TYPE OF CANCER (AMALOYDS) HAS COMPLETLY SHUT DOWN HER KIDNEYS. SHE HAS 3 DOCTORS APTS EACH WEEK AND WILL NO LONGER TELL ME ANYTHING. SHE JUST SAYS "OH IT WAS NOTHING". HOW DO YOU GET A PARENT TO UNDERSTAND YOU CAN DEAL WITH THINGS BETTER IF YOU…
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new member
I was hoping to find an caregivers support group,I'm a daughter of a colon cancer patient,whom is also a auraflobric (she never leaves the home),she requires 24 hour care,I don't know what else to say except,I feel my mother is in the last stages of her cancer and I don't know how I will surive when she passes,sincerely…
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What happens now?
I've been reading so many of these letters. So much sadness and lots of positive and hopeful responses. My mom has some type of brain tumor caused by cancer somewhere else.Only 4 days old, we are at the very beginning of this awful adventure.I don't know what exactly to expect next, except from what I've read, I'm…
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The ups and downs of confusion
I must say that the hardest part of going through watching a parent get sicker is the confusion. What confuses me the most is the same thing that gives me hope. It is the fight that they give. One day you could swear it will only be another day or two and the next s/he is fighting to the end, sitting in the hospital bed as…
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Cancer over and over again
My Grandfather died of lung cancer. My Father died of colon cancer. My Father in Law died of liver cancer less than 6 months ago. My Mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer a week before Thanksgiving. She is undergoing chemo and suffering from the side effects as I write this. It is very difficult to see so many wonderful…
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Cancer over and over again
My Grandfather died of lung cancer. My Father died of colon cancer. My Father in Law died of liver cancer less than 6 months ago. My Mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer a week before Thanksgiving. She is undergoing chemo and suffering from the side effects as I write this. It is very difficult to see so many wonderful…
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my mother is newly diagnosed with recurring colon cancer and I don't know what to expect
My mother was just diagnosed with recurring colon cancer which is now in her lung, lymph in her chest and lymph in her abdomen. She is 80 years old, has diabetes and congestive heart failure, yet wants to go through chemotherapy. I'm afraid it will kill her and that her quality of life will suffer greatly. She will be…
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my mother is newly diagnosed with recurring colon cancer and I don't know what to expect
My mother was just diagnosed with recurring colon cancer which is now in her lung, lymph in her chest and lymph in her abdomen. She is 80 years old, has diabetes and congestive heart failure, yet wants to go through chemotherapy. I'm afraid it will kill her and that her quality of life will suffer greatly. She will be…
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How do I get my dad to ingest food and liquids?
Hello,My dad was just recently diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma. The doctors have told us that the cancer is not in any of his organs or bone marrow, but is a tumor mass pressing on his stomach. He is 81 and was not eating very much for about a month before this was detected 3 weeks ago. As a result he is weak and…
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my moms depression
My mom has had lung cancer for the past three years she has been taking a new chemo treatment for the last year every 3 weeks it is working---however she has been left with side affects and most of all extreme depression I just dont know how to help her she says she feels so alone she is in therapy but it isnt helping its…
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New Member
I am a new member. We just found out that my dad has lung cancer that has spread to his bones. there is so much that I don't know and would like to have some support or just some one to laugh and cry with about all of this. If anyone can offer me help it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Chelle
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Mom has breast cancer
I am new on this site, and 16 years old. My mother has recently found out that she has breast cancer. I have three younger sisters that are counting on me to be strong for them, but i dont know how much longer i can be strong. It is like a mask that i put on everyday, i look strong, but i am not. Has anyone been in a…
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new to ostomy
my 86 year old mother underwent her second "emergency" surgery for colon cancer last month - and this time came out of the hospital with a permanent ostomy - as well as Xeloda chemo to reduce the 2 "very small" malignant nodules remaining on the colon. She seems to the coping with everything fairly well....except the…
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new member
Hello, all. I'm new to the group. I'm acting as caregiver to my sister, age 62, who was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer in late October 2003, Stage IV with mets to the lungs, spine and possibly the femurs. She also has significant lymphedema in her right arm. We seem to be getting contradictory advice about…
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Conmen and cancer.
My mother passed away from colon cancer last year after having it metastasize into her liver. Before passing away my brother-in-law bilked her out of $19,000 for his supposed cancer treatments. The only problem with that is, he does not have cancer. I found this out shortly before she died. Come to find out he has gotten…
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attitude
My husband was diag with squamous cell of the head and neck with unknown primary in 2000. He is cancer free for 3 years but has such a bad attitude about everything. He takes oxicoten vicadon for pain and is on lexpro for depression. He just cant seem to get past the fear and learn how to deal with the pain,I am not sayong…
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What to do with my emotions...
Hi. I'm new to the site. My aunt has cancer in her abdomen & lives in Hungary. The doctors give her a few months to a year to live. I'm going to visit her soon, and the closer it gets to the trip, the more I want to cry. I'd like to get the crying out of my system before I get there, but I'm afraid I won't be able to stop.…