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david54
Posts: 164
Joined: Apr 2009

5 months on the 22nd

Hi-its been a few months since I posted here. First I want to thank all of you for your kind support, I don't think I have acknolwdged that as much as I could and should have.

It has been 5 months since my spouses death-feels like much longer because of the deep level of grief. People have asked me if its any easier, that is a hard question to answer. Is it easier than last December? Yes. But it's ony been 5 months. Nights are the most difficult, the lonliness creeps up like a hiding tiger.

LonelyOnly
Posts: 11
Joined: Jul 2016

Diagnosis Anniversary

There will forever be so many significant dates in my life, especially pertaining to my mother. The day she died - Mar. 11. Her birthday - Jan. 23. My birthday - Oct. 17. And many other celebrations and holidays whose festivities will be blunted by the absence of my mom - Mother's Day, Thanksgiving, Hannukah...

star68
Posts: 3
Joined: Apr 2017

My mum passed away and still have a lots of doubts about her death

My mum passed away from colorectal cancer almost a month ago. My mum was an independent 87 year old, she was diagnosed with stage III (cT3cN1M0) superior colorectal cancer in October. It was an invasive adenocarcinoma, with an enlargement of the rectum wall.

They did all the tests (including PET scan in December) and said there was no metastasis. Oncologist decided to treat it as palliative intention with low dose of radiotherapy treatment for four weeks. 

LonelyOnly
Posts: 11
Joined: Jul 2016

Grieving with cremation

I just wanted to put this out there in case anyone else is experiencing (or has experienced) this. My mom passed away about a week and a half ago. Both sides of my family typically do burials after death so this was my first experience with it. It's already so hard to lose someone close to you, but to just get a call on a Monday that her "cremains" are ready to pick up...

CSN_Anne
Posts: 40
Joined: Sep 2016

Private Message Spam

Hello everyone,

Thank you to all of you who have alerted us to the PM spamming from earlier today. I apologize for the inconvenience. While we do have securities in place, we are not always able to catch all spam, and we are trying to figure out how this one got around our system. If you received a message from jegac1 please do respond to it or share any of your information.

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david54
Posts: 164
Joined: Apr 2009

Finally, a picture of this couple

This is my soulmate, my love who died November 22nd. This was on our wedding day in July 2012. I'm posting this simply so that you can see a face with the names. She would not necessarily approve of her photo being used like this, which is why I hesitated for so long. However, I am here, I am left with her memory, and I need to share with the world how beautiful and special she was to me.

Thank You

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amburroni
Posts: 3
Joined: Jan 2017

Young, widowed and feeling alone

Back in October of 2016, I lost my husband to Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia treated at Strong Memorial Hospital Wilmont Cancer Center in Rochester, NY. He was 31 and I am 28. We did not have children. We were together for 6 years before he passed. Although I have the support of my friends and family, I cant help but fell like I'm alone. Even when we were getting treatment there didnt seem to be many young people dealing with this. Anyone else in a similar situation? 

david54
Posts: 164
Joined: Apr 2009

emotional entanglement

My deceased wife has a sister, they are so very much alike, sound identical on the phone, walk the same, voice inflections are identical, similar values. She used to come here to the house and be with her sister, they were very close. Frankly, while I always enjoyed her company, I was not in any way, shape or form attracted to her, she was my sister in-law!

david54
Posts: 164
Joined: Apr 2009

Things people have said that make me wonder

Sorry-it's been a tough day and I am entering more topics than I normally would. Have any of you been approached by well meaning individuals who say incredibly inane statements?

Here are a few that have come my way. Bear in mind, the majority of people have said very nice, appropriate things, but its the few that stick out like a sore thumb

#1. "You were lucky to have her as long as you did"  Wow-that makes me feel better. No sht sherlock-I never thought of that one before. And thanks for the soothing words of comfort

david54
Posts: 164
Joined: Apr 2009

Marathon

I'm 62 and I'm going to run a marathon in June. Ran 4 miles today, following a workout plan. I've run for 40 years but never a marathon. This is important to me-to honor both my wifes who died of cancer, their journey, their pain, physical and mental.

Wish me luck!!

 

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