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My Best Friend Has Cancer

On Monday (3 days ago), my best friend in the entire world -- who is like my big brother, my protector, my confidante -- who I have spoken to daily for years now...found out he has Lymphoma. The same cancer that killed his aunt last year and is currently killing his father. 

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Am I doing the right thing?

Hi all,

This is my first post here. I've been reading the forums for a week or so. I was told I have a mass in my left kidney on 4/28/17. I'm scheduled for an open radical nephrectomy on 5/11. Heres my dilemna....my son is just 2 weeks into basic training in the army. I've decided not to tell him anything until he graduates. I know if I tell him he will want to quit and come home. With all the emotions and uncertainty of the diagnosis this is the thing that weighs on me the most. Am I doing the right thing?

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Some of the Time I am Worried - FEAR!

I worry a lot.  I do use prayer, relaxation, and other techniques to calm myself, but fear is always around the corner.  The next time . . . is on my mind.  Two malignancies . . . the new tumors . . . can I keep things from multiplying?  Will I make it to 65, 60, 50?  I just have these concerns, fears, whatever.  I suppress my tears a lot.  I try to play the strong woman, but I feel the little child that just wants to run away inside of me.  I have to get my finances, my illnesses, and my tumors in particular in control!

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I want to do the right thing

My Wife (55) just got diagnosed with aggressive invasive squamous cell carcinoma along with Perineural invasion. This is the same thing that took her mother after 3 years. She is terrified, distraught, angry. I want to help her in any way I can I just do not know what to say other than, "Yes this sucks, No its not fair, and, Of course, you are going to beat this, you are not your mother". What should I do to help her, what should I say or not say?

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Emotional Mess

"You have breast cancer" is all I seemed to hear the doctor say. It was like someone had punched me in the stomach and ran away. And now I have surgery scheduled in a couple weeks and have radiation and possible Chemo to follow that. My emotions are mixed up, crying, laughing, and fear. I'm hoping to find a friend to talk to on here that can relate.

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Scared and


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Acinic Cell Carcinoma of Parotid Gland

I know I may be dramatic right now but I'm scared out of my mind... I was just told that my benign tumor is actually a rare case of Acinic Cell Carcinoma. I'm only 24 and I felt so invincible... I know no one likes the word Cancer but when someone tells you that you have its a whole nother ball game. I have my first appointment coming up when I find out more about it. But dang its not a good feeling. I've never been under the knife before and thats another reason why I'm scared. I guess I'm just looking for some advice or tips on how to handle everything....

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Would be great if someone could please read this and give advise

In relation to fine need aspiration tests done on thyroid nodules, does an abnormal cell result mean cancer? Some advice would be helpful as i'm confused by this result and i didnt think to ask questions at the time of the appointment.! im waiting for a call of a specialist hopefully in the next two days about what happens next, after they have meeting about my case. If anyone has some kind of advise that would be great, came to this site looking for some one who could give me some kind of answer

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Friends just don't understand.

My dad has stage 4 colon cancer and has been given 3-5 years left with my family and I if he keeps getting treatment.  I have confided in friends to help me cope but no one seems to know what to say which I get, however I feel so misunderstood.  Am I wrong to feel angry? Sad? Depress?  I don't want to be that one friend whi is always sad or moping around.  Friends have told me to just not think about my dad being sick and to be happy but it's so much easier said than done.

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Wife of kidney ...
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Scared wife

My husband was diagnosed last week with kidney cancer! My world broke apart! We have 3 children.... 18, 23 and 5! His cancer thus far has not spread and is confined to his left kidney in a tumour the size of a large grapefruit! The surgery we are waiting for is massive and his doc told us how dangerous it is! I am terrified and so scared!


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