This Can't Be Happening Again!

wolfen Member Posts: 1,324

Hello All,

It has been some time since I posted. You all are never far from my thoughts.

I am asking for your prayers, good vibes, and positive thoughts for my son, Robert.  As some of you "oldies"(but goodies, might I add) may remember, I lost my husband, Ron to H&N and Lung Cancer back in May 2013 and just one year after that I buried my daughter, Johnnybegood, who was a long time member of this group. My son has developed rectal bleeding and severe pain in is left hip over the last few weeks. With his family history, he was able to get an appointment with a gastro doctor for this Thursday morning.

I know this could be a million other things, but when Cancer resides in your home as long as it did in mine, it is naturally the first thing you think of. I also remember that "It's not cancer till they say it's cancer."

Holidays are still tough for me. In fact, every day is still tough for me as I try to move forward. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I will not survive another loss.




  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,643 Member
    Oh, for goodness sakes!

    I pray for your Robert and for you that this is not Cancer.

    You yourself have seen too much sorrow, and you son does not need to suffer as his loved ones have. 

    I am so glad that he was able to get an appointment quickly, and hopefully will find out what is the cause of his problems. 

    Thinking of you!


  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827
    Wolfen, With much affection I

    Wolfen, With much affection I remember Johnnybegood as well as your posts re your dear husband. Please know that Robert is in my prayer as you always are. 


  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    Hugs wolfen

     I have everything crossed for it not to be cancer. I was the cancer sibling in our family , my brother has survived over 40 years of ulcerative colitis and Barret's oesophagitis. He has had over 40 colonoscopies and endoscopies. He turned 72 this year. May your sons problem be benign, best wishes Ron.

  • Semira
    Semira Member Posts: 381 Member
    edited December 2016 #5
    Oh Wolfen

    all fingers crossed here in Germany.
    Hoping for good results.


  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111
    edited December 2016 #6
    Dear Wolfen:

    I am sorry for what you are experiencing.   Stay strong dear one.  I think of you and so many others from this board.  



  • Joan M
    Joan M Member Posts: 409 Member
    edited December 2016 #7
    Praying for good results for

    Praying for good results for your son.  It is always sad to hear about others being diagnosed with cancer.

  • Helen321
    Helen321 Member Posts: 1,440 Member
    edited December 2016 #8
    Are you freaking kidding me?

    Are you freaking kidding me?  The good thing is pain in the hip or anywhere else is rarely a sign.  I hope it's an easy, fixable thing like something broken.  It's sad when we're wishing for fractures or broken body parts but it's the safer wish.  Please let us all know as soon as you find out.  You are a rockstar in my world and always will be.  You kept a lot of us going.  Your daughter was so lucky to have you by her side.  I know she appreciated it.

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478
    I pray that your son is fine

    I pray that your son is fine and this is just a scare. It's natural to think the worst in your situation. Best of luck!


  • abrub
    abrub Member Posts: 2,174 Member
    I'm thinking of you

    And hoping that this is not more cancer,  but rather a benign situation.


  • Colonchick
    Colonchick Member Posts: 36
    edited December 2016 #11
    Thinking only good thoughts

    Thinking only good thoughts for you and your family!

  • tanstaafl
    tanstaafl Member Posts: 1,300 Member
    edited December 2016 #12
    first aid

    What a horror, I am so sorry you may be in this again.

    Personally, I do think that we can improve the odds and results by "first aid" and initial response in these first days and weeks by extra blood tests, immune building actions and mild off label drugs. 

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    I popped in after much time

    I popped in after much time away and my heart sank when I saw your post.  I hope by now you have some reassurance that this is not cancer.  I will be checking back. 

    Hugs, prayers and positive thoughts. 

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    edited December 2016 #14
    Prayers for you and son

    I am so very sorry to hear that you and son are having to go through this worry.  I pray that all will be well.


    Marie who loves kitties

  • kristasplace
    kristasplace Member Posts: 955
    Just seeing this now.

    Hoping the colonoscopy went well and that you have already received word that all is clear. I know the paths take time and that cancer isn't always immediately recognizable to the doc like mine was, but I'm praying he told you he found hemorhoids, or something to that effect.

    Big hugs,


  • traci43
    traci43 Member Posts: 773
    edited January 2017 #16
    Mama Wolfen

    So very sorry to hear of the latest cancer scare in your family.  Praying that the results show no cancer and that it's something easily treatable.  Hugs to you as you begin 2017, may it be a good year.  Traci

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,223 Member
    Scary stuff, and hopefully

    Scary stuff, and hopefully unrelated issues. You and your son have my thoughts........................................Dave

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    Any news?

    Dear Wolfen, do you have any news to share about your son?  Prayers that it was nothing serious.


    Marie who loves kitties

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,643 Member
    Looking for good news


  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324
    Nothing Yet

    Thanks you guys, for asking. Nothing to report yet. The colonoscopy prep contained Aspertame, which Robert is allergic to. The first round of it made him very ill with a migraine and bluured vision. They are going to have to come up with an alternative and then reschedule. I took him to the ER today as the hip pain had become so severe that he was almost in tears. They did a CT, but could find no explanation. He declined pain meds as they make him sick and he can't take anti-inflammatory meds because of the bleeding. He was able to get a few days off work so he wouldn't be standing for 10 hours a day which exacerbates the bleeding and hip pain. Something is very wrong and no one knows what it is.  Doctors and medicine remain high on my hate list.

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    What prep did they want to use?

    I looked up two listed as approved by FDA and neither reported aspertame as an ingredient:






    Of course they may only have listed the "active" ingredients and I expect the aspertame was a flavoring.

    Under the circumstances can't they admit him to hospital and do fluids only and enemas in order to get the test done?

    Prayers for resolution soonest.


    Marie who loves kitties