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Mmnn
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Hello all,

It is with the heaviest of hearts that we share with you that our mother lost her battle this morning. The support you provided her with was invaluable. We really appreciate that you continually encouraged her to confide in us. In the end, we were able to spend the past month and a half supporting her, although we desperately wish that we could have been more involved all along.

She spoke very highly of you all in the past few weeks, even though she didn't have enough energy to write. Just know that she cared about your opinions and well being very much.

Wishing you all the best. 

molimoli's daughters

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Soup52
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Most of my friends and family are understanding when I talk of possible reoccurrence or not really being done with treatment, but they also talk about being positive which I am for the most part. But if it is an acquaintance asks me how I am I say fine. When I wear my wig, put on makeup etc. I look half way normal, but of course you know I'm not. There are plenty of times that I really don't feel that great, but I put on a happy face. Tomorrow I meet with the oncologist and find out the scan results... My center schedules us for chemo thT day in case we need it. I said I didn't want to go through it without steroids which they ordered for me in case. The nurse said they wouldn't hurt me if I didn't end up getting chemo. I'm hoping that I will be clear for awhile....

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TeddyandBears_Mom
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Hey Soup,

I hope you get dancing with NED news tomorrow and for many years to come!

I'll be thinking of you.

Love and Hugs,

Cindi

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CheeseQueen57
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praying for good news tomorrow.  Yes, I try to keep myself up. But starting to get annoyed by how everybody says I look great!  Maybe I shouldn't try so hard. 

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Kvdyson
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It does seem to be a double-edged sword. But, in the end, I still believe the "look good, feel good" model had a very positive effect on helping me get through frontline fairly unscathed. It sure seems to be working for you, Cheese. Keep up the good work!

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brissance
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I am joining your prayers..  and will wait anxiously for good news.  

Don't be upset over the gushing over your photo..  You have a fashion sense and that hat drew all of our attention thinking of fun at the beach.  Maybe the compliments were more a response to your spirit of sunniness and happiness.  We are your biggest fans.  Love Patty

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Kvdyson
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Soup, good luck tomorrow. Hoping that you are all clear and dancing with NED. Please let us know how it goes. Kim

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BabyCoach
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I have been away from the site for a while, Moli has been on my mind. Like others, I was eager to read her posts whenever I saw that Molimoli was around. I missed her after her last message prior to her surgery and could tell from her very brief posts subsequently that she was struggling. She always spoke directly to me and often made me stop and reconsider options in front of me.  I so appreciated her take on this nasty diagnosis and her courage to define her own response. She must have been a real force in life; I wish I had know her in other contexts. I will not forget her. As Shakespeare said so eloquently, Molimoli exemplified: To thine own self be true and it shall follow, as the day to the night, that you cannot be false to any man (or something like that). Nuff now. RIP. And I mean Peace. 

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Soup52
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Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I will start a new thread when I learn my verdict today. I feel badly that this conversation ended up on the moli thread. Somehow it just evolved.

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TeddyandBears_Mom
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We always seem to get into other topics from the original. I believe Moli would have loved the tag ons and would have added her input right along with us! I recall a discussion on something last year that ended up with a hysterical conversation around sex and numbing stuff - Orajel to be exact that our friend blew up into something only she could have done. Nuf said dear Moli! Love and Hugs, Cindi

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EZLiving66
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Moli would have loved it!  It's gonna take me awhile to get over her Cry  I sure hope there's a heaven because I want to meet her in "person."  Sex, orajel and thong bikinis - LOLOLOL!!

Love,

Eldri

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Kathy G.
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The passing of Molimoli makes me incredibly sad...once again!

I am now 3 years out from a very early diagnosis that required nothing but surgery & follow-up appointments. I read the boards daily from diagnosis through my first year after my hysterectomy.

It almost seemed like the women who had the most to contribute were the ones who passed away...just breaking my heart & leaving me shaking my head at the unfairness of it all. I had to begin distancing myself from the pain of hearing yet another major influence on this board had lost her battle.

So I did not get to know Moli well, but when I visited I always looked for her posts as she had such a unique way of communicating. It was refreshing & touching! I will miss this good soul who I really didn't get to know and probably visit a little less often again!

I think so highly of the ladies here who continue to fight the fight day in & day out...chemo, radiation, ongoing tests & disappointments...the list goes on & on. I may not visit or post often, but it does not mean I don't know of your stories & care.

God bless Moli for the mark she left on this community & the struggles she endured. And God bless you ladies who continue posting & keep up the fight.

Hugs!

pinky104
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I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who has noticed that the women who have the most to say are the ones we lose.  It's happened over and over on this site.  It's almost like they know they won't be around forever, so they tell us everything they know while they still can.  I also noticed Molimoli's unique way of communicating.  She seemed to be a really deep thinker, very introspective with an interesting way of communicating her thoughts.  I often thought she should be a professional writer if she wasn't already.  I'd be curious to know what she did for a living and her education.  If she didn't have a PhD, she should have.

Mmnn
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Joined: Jun 2016

I'm one of molimoli's daughters and, 2 years later, I still think about you all. I'm not sure what she would've done without you all. Every few months, when I have enough strength (or something), I come here and read some of the exchanges you all had with her. I'm glad to know she was as crazy, funny and frustrating here as she was in person :) I laugh and cry, as I am sure you all did with her. I can't thank you enough for being the community she needed when she was too afraid to come to us with her "burden". I'm certain you all added light to her life and I appreciate it so deeply that I can't put it into words. Sending you lots of good vibes.

I've never said this before but in honor of her...nuff love.

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CheeseQueen57
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Oh MoliMoli’s daughter!  Thanks for visiting us today. We miss your mom so much and quote her often. She was sure a gem and so precious to us. I hope your family is filled with joyful memories of this truly wonderful woman who was taken from us way too soon. God Bless you!

susan

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EZLiving66
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You have made my day with your response.  After your mom died, I had to get away from this board for awhile. Her death really hit me hard. Your mom had such a wonderful spirit. I always will remember her "'nuff love." Someday I hope to meet up with her again. 

Love, 

Eldri 

ncg007
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thank you for stopping in...as you can read, your mother was a real treasure and very much missed!

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Soup52
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Thanks so much for visiting us. It’s a wonderful reminder of a very special lady:)

MAbound
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MMnn...I sure hope you've reached the point where memories of your mom bring you smiles instead of tears. It takes a while after you suffer such a loss. Roses do it for me. My mom raised a backyard full of them as a hobby so they always make me smile and think of her when I see them.

That goes for Eldri's sock monkey, too!  I smile and think of LuAnn whenever I see it, so don't change it anytime soon. So many wonderful ladies have left us since I joined and their kindness and wisdom are greatly missed, but not forgotten.

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Armywife
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I missed the delight that Moli must have been, but I can tell you that it's making me smile to know that we remember each other on this board - that if I get bad news at my next scan I'll have a place to come and that if the Lord allows me to go before my time, there will be ladies here to remember.  What a comfort!

 

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LisaPizza
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Thank you. That's  exactly what i was feeling as I read this thread, but didn't quite know how to put into words.

To Moli's daughters, this thread made me go back and read some of her posts (before I joined), and she was amazing! You must be so proud of where you come from. I lost my dad a couple of years ago to cancer, and can empathize with you how much it still hurts.

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cmb
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I wasn’t on the board when your mother was posting, but I have read hers and many other older posts since joining. A number of active participants, your mother included, have passed away since they last posted. But some voices like your mother's are so unique and vibrant that they continue to give support to those women who are facing the same challenges that they did.

This forum allows us to express thoughts and feelings that we may hesitate to share with family members and friends. Knowing how others have dealt with difficult decisions and experiences helps others to choose their own paths.

While it can be very sad to read comments from your mother and others no longer with us, I'm grateful for their dedication to this board and I derive strength from their courage and grace.

I hope your mother's words give you comfort despite the sorrow, as they do us who read them today.

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