deep saddness after treatment has been over.

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smkolesik
smkolesik Member Posts: 1
in Breast Cancer #1

Was anyone else surprised by the level of saddness and grief after breast cancer treatment?  It came out of nowhere and hit me like a brick wall.  I was not prepared for this.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
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    Sorry to hear you are feeling

    Sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I dindn't have this experirence , so not advice..

     

     

    Pixie dust heading your way..

    Denise

  • tufi000
    tufi000 Member Posts: 745 Member
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    Tell your docs

    This is not uncommon.  Kinda like PTSD.  You have been through a lot and it helps to have a guide back to your new normal

    All the best to you

  • cati0314
    cati0314 Member Posts: 203
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    Deep Sadness

    Even now, almost 5 years post treatment I feel as though I am suffering from PTSD.  Once the treatments were over the realization of all I had been through settled in.  We seem to go into surival mode during our treatment and are different people, super women.  I not only have and have had a level of saddness and grief but I also began to suffer panic attacks.  I'm slowly learning to be happy and grateful and try not to let the dark feelings and lack of energy take on a larger than life role.  

     

    You're definitely not alone!

    Sharon 

  • Treecy1106
    Treecy1106 Member Posts: 144
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    Post treatment

    I can identify completely!

    I am a 3 1/2 year survivor of Triple Negative BC and I was given AC/T dose dense for 4 months.

    Since TNBC has no targetted treatment, after chemo I felt like a sitting duck! I was so SCARED!!! I think I felt a sense of security while in treatment.

    The only way I combatted those feelings was by studying how to help build a rock solid immune system. By doing that, I felt I was helping my body protect itself against a reccurence.

    So far, so good.

    When you put your mind towards something positive it will help alleviate those feelings of sadness. It takes discipline, perserverance and if you are spiritual....prayer!

    A cancer diagnosis is a life changing event and we all try to do our best to do whatever we can to help ourselves live out the rest of our lives with peace and happiness.

    ((hugs))

    Patrice

     

  • GlowMore
    GlowMore Member Posts: 789 Member
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    DEEP DEEP SADNESS***

    HELL YES WE FEEL DEEP SADNESS..............We have had our lives changed FOREVER....BUT HERE IS THE KICKER.................WE NEED TO FEEL DEEP AND ABIDING GRATITUDE...........WE ARE STILL ALIVE AND WE HAVE TODAY *** AND WE HOPE FOR TOMORROW ***** BUT MOSTLY WE HAVE THE NOW***   Let it go ...hold on to the NOW...........and do your best to CHERISH each and every God Given Moment you have left on this earth with your Friends and your Family...........and with YOURSELF...    :)   

    Love and Prayers, Glo

  • button2
    button2 Member Posts: 421
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    YES YES YES

    The hardest part of the treatment was stopping! It was so upsetting to not be seeing the nursing staff and surgeons every three weeks. They gave me such courage and when a new treatment was coming up I was always needing to see them. I was even upset when radiation was over and cried as I thanked the staff. What finally calmed me down was realizing that I love them all and will never forget them. We must move on, however and free them up to help new patients. I always remind myself that I will be seeing them at my 3 and soon 6 month check-ups. Just give yourself time. You were probably like me, trying to be so tough and trying not to bother your loved ones and sometimes it just hits you at the end. These feelings will pass. I suggest you spend your free time doing things you enjoy. In my case gardening, cooking, reading etc. That's why we do the treatment, to enjoy life again even though things are different now. Best of luck going forward...Hugs, Anna

  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
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    Yes here!

    I dealt with this for quite a while after treatment was over for me. I was in a sergeant mood during treatment and my feelings were frozen to be able to fight. After the war, I realized what had just happened. It hit me like a brick.

    It will pass. Give it some time. What helped me was doing things I loved: connecting with nature, animals, writing, appreciating alone moments, music, air, naps...Find the things you love and do them. They will help you too. Promise.

     

    Good luck!

    Rebecca

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