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rls67
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My sweet wife lost her battle with cancer today. She is in heaven now. No more sufferring, no more pain. I miss her so bad. There is a huge hole in my life. We were perfect together. She was my best friend and soul mate. How will I ever recover? 

 

 

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Varmint5
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There really isn't much else to say. I hope her passing was easy. It broke my heart to read of her decline. I lost my husband to cancer in 2000 and received a lot of support at another web site, www widownet dot org. Everyone there has been right where you are and gets it. Several people here understand too, but many here are the patients themselves. They all care, too, and will give you much support. You just take it one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time and be easy on yourself. Allow yourself to grieve - there is no other way through it than to feel the pain and keep going forward. Being "stoic" or "stuffing it down" doesn't work. Grieve with your children, tell them it's normal to hurt and to cry and that you will all get through it together and you will be there for them. Reassure them you are not going anywhere, even when it seems like you are falling apart.

I don't post much any more. I am the mom - my daughter is still battling this evil disease. But I wanted to tell you I saw this and you have my sympathy, my empathy and my heartfelt condolences. The passing of time will help. There will be a day when you will smile remembering happy memories. It may not seem like it now, but it will come. For now, just feel the pain, let it come, write it down, talk through it, get it out and begin the process of letting the pain go.

It sounds like yours was a sweet love story.

Remember to breathe.

Sandy

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devotion10
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add much more. My husband died this last May five years after his diagnosis ... one moment at a time.  Sincerely wishing you and your children comfort. It is an awful thing all of you have gone through. We are here and we understand.

Peace. ~ Cynthia

 

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wolfen
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Please accept my sympathies for you and your family. I know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I also lost my husband last May. Time does not heal all wounds, but makes them more bearable.

Wolfen

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johnnybegood
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expressed all of our feelings just wanted to say im so sorry but death will come to all of us someday.i have been doing much on trying to plan some things for my own self thinking it would be easier on my family but as my pastor told me no matter what i do it just wont be easy....Godbless...johnnybegood

ketziah35
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We will keep you and your family in our prayers.

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myd
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I'm very sorry for your loss.  As it has been written,  it is in our nature to survive.  Her loving memory will give you strength.  

God bless you and your family,

myd 

Cathleen Mary
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I am so sorry.  Your relationship sounds wonderful and full of love. My prayers for peace and strength for you and your children. Children help us continue. I bet in the days and months to come you will feel your wife's presence in surprising ways. Be gentle with yourself.....grief hurts. Know many here hold you close.

CM

 

 

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Lovekitties
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you deal with the loss of your dear one.

When grief overwhelms you, bring out the wonderful memories of your time together and let that help you to remember her in the best of times.

May you and your children find comfort from each other.

Marie who loves litties

Chelsea71
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I am terribly sorry to read this news.  So many good people lost to this terrible disease.  You have a long, rough road ahead of you.  Just try and get through each day and hopefully over time it will become easier.  Please feel free to send me a PM if you ever need to "talk".  I'm still dealing with my own grief and I can certainly relate to what you're going through.  Take comfort in the fact that she is at peace and no longer suffering.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

My sincerest condolences,

Chelsea

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Trubrit
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I am so sorry that your sweet wife has passed.

There will always be that void in your life, but your children and loved ones will surround that void and you will not fall. 

Take each day as it comes. Cry a little, and don't be shocked or feel guitly when you laugh again. With 20 years of memories, happy times can be yours. 

We're here for you. 

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Semira
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so so sorry

Petra

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marbleotis
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When I read the post title, my heart sank.  I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife.  You all fought hard against this terrible disease.  She is at peace now and you made sure her final days were as she would have wanted.

Stay close as a family to help get through this.

Please continue to post when you can - we are all here for support.

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annalexandria
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I have no words of wisdom for you on how to get through this.  The unbearable passage of time is the only help, and it is only a partial remedy, as Wolfen says.  My BIL and his son are doing very well despite everything, 9 years after my sister's death.  But it took a long time.  Slowly the sharp edges of your grief will soften, and you will be able to look back on the good years that you had with your wife.  Your kids will help with that as well, I think.  They are her memorial.

Much love to you, dear man.  You did everything you could, and were clearly a very caring and dedicated caregiver to your wife.

Ann

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Goldie1
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 My heart felt condolences to you and your family.

Ellen

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thingy45
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No words can describe what you and your family are going through. The pain, the anger and the feeling of utter loss. Just scream and cry and let it out, healing will come, the loss will be there forever.

I wish you peace and send you love and the knowledge that you are not alone, we all are here for you.

Hugs, Marjan

UncleBuddy
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I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your family. Always remember, she lives on in your children.

God bless.

Lin

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LivinginNH
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Sigh....I am so sorry that you and your family has had to endure such pain and heartache.  It's not fair, I know.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear wife. Try to forget these last few months and focus on the better times you spent together and your love for each other and family.

With sympathy,

Cynthia

jen2012
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I too am very sorry for your loss.

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thxmiker
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We are so sorry to hear about your loss. We are snding our thoughts and prayers for you to find strength.  

 

Best Always,  mike

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magillilnb
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I am so sorry to hear that your wife has died.  I know you have been on a long and painful journey with her, but she was so lucky to have you there for her. What a blessing that was! Take care of yourself and grieve at you own pace.  

Nancy

janderson1964
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I am so sorry for your loss. I could always tell how much you loved your wife in all of your posts.

rls67
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I feel like I'm walking around in a daze. There are so many things that need to get done and I don't feel like doing anything. I hate staying home, I see her stuff everywhere. I don't feel like going out either. I just want to sleep, but I can't. It doesn't seem real. I expect to see her on the couch, I expect to wake up next to her in the morning. I can't believe she's gone. 

janderson1964
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Those are all normal feelings after such a devastating loss. I lost my first wife 15 years ago when I was only 34 years so I do understand your emotions.

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meltibbs
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I am so very sorry for the loss of your partner.  I have no words... be kind and gentle to yourself right now.

hippiechicks
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My sincere condolences to you and your family.  

Sending comfort to you ... 

danker
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When we loose our spouse, all we can do is try to remember all the good times of the past.  The hurt will soften, but never end until you join her in heaven. My sincere condolences.

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teamzach
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I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful bride. No words can help or make it better....just know our thoughts and prayers are with you...

Janelle

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cps
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I prayed for your wife at church today, I pray for you and your family that you can find the peace you need to get through such a hardship. So sorry.

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sharpy102
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So sorry to hear that your wife passed away. It is terrible!!!!! I have no words that can express how horrible this is. I wish you strength! Lots of it! And be patient, it takes time...a long one! But try to remind yourself always how your wife would love to see you- that might help you to live a bit of a better life, even though right now it seems impossible. And please, do visit us here, we are all here and ready to help you in any way we can!

Please take care of yourself!

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Phil64
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May Love and Light be with you and your family during this difficult time. I pray that you and your children will be showered with kindness and understanding. God be with you.

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Kathleen808
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I am so sorry that your wife has passed on .  You have been such a supportive husband.  You and your family will remain in my prayers.

 

Aloha,

Kathleen

rls67
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I want to thank each and everyone of you for love, support and prayers I have been blessed with by the beautiful people on this board. I will get through this. I know Donna would not want me to spend the rest of my life grieving. I will go on and be the best man I can be. That I think, is the best way to honor her life.

         The viewing is tomorrow night and the burial is friday morning. I picked a beautiful spot right next to a little church. I also bought the plot next to her so we can be next to each other forever. Thank you all so much. You have helped over the past sixteen months so much. So many beautiful angels here. God Bless you all.

here4lfe
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There are no words. My family and friends helped me immensely, but this loss is like no other. Take it one breath at a time.

Mark

 

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Nana b
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So sorry for your loss. Big hug....

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Sundanceh
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I'm sicnerely sorry and may you find strength in the coming days.  I can't just imagaine what you are feeling....

-Craig

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