My angel passed away today....

rls67
rls67 Member Posts: 127

My sweet wife lost her battle with cancer today. She is in heaven now. No more sufferring, no more pain. I miss her so bad. There is a huge hole in my life. We were perfect together. She was my best friend and soul mate. How will I ever recover? 

 

 

«1

Comments

  • Varmint5
    Varmint5 Member Posts: 384
    I am so sorry

    There really isn't much else to say. I hope her passing was easy. It broke my heart to read of her decline. I lost my husband to cancer in 2000 and received a lot of support at another web site, www widownet dot org. Everyone there has been right where you are and gets it. Several people here understand too, but many here are the patients themselves. They all care, too, and will give you much support. You just take it one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time and be easy on yourself. Allow yourself to grieve - there is no other way through it than to feel the pain and keep going forward. Being "stoic" or "stuffing it down" doesn't work. Grieve with your children, tell them it's normal to hurt and to cry and that you will all get through it together and you will be there for them. Reassure them you are not going anywhere, even when it seems like you are falling apart.

    I don't post much any more. I am the mom - my daughter is still battling this evil disease. But I wanted to tell you I saw this and you have my sympathy, my empathy and my heartfelt condolences. The passing of time will help. There will be a day when you will smile remembering happy memories. It may not seem like it now, but it will come. For now, just feel the pain, let it come, write it down, talk through it, get it out and begin the process of letting the pain go.

    It sounds like yours was a sweet love story.

    Remember to breathe.

    Sandy

  • devotion10
    devotion10 Member Posts: 623
    Sandy has given such heartfelt advice ... I am not sure I can

    add much more. My husband died this last May five years after his diagnosis ... one moment at a time.  Sincerely wishing you and your children comfort. It is an awful thing all of you have gone through. We are here and we understand.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

     

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324

    Sandy has given such heartfelt advice ... I am not sure I can

    add much more. My husband died this last May five years after his diagnosis ... one moment at a time.  Sincerely wishing you and your children comfort. It is an awful thing all of you have gone through. We are here and we understand.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

     

    So Very Sorry

    Please accept my sympathies for you and your family. I know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I also lost my husband last May. Time does not heal all wounds, but makes them more bearable.

    Wolfen

  • ketziah35
    ketziah35 Member Posts: 1,145
    I am so sorry

    We will keep you and your family in our prayers.

  • johnnybegood
    johnnybegood Member Posts: 1,117
    wolfen said:

    So Very Sorry

    Please accept my sympathies for you and your family. I know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I also lost my husband last May. Time does not heal all wounds, but makes them more bearable.

    Wolfen

    i think Sandy

    expressed all of our feelings just wanted to say im so sorry but death will come to all of us someday.i have been doing much on trying to plan some things for my own self thinking it would be easier on my family but as my pastor told me no matter what i do it just wont be easy....Godbless...johnnybegood

  • myd
    myd Member Posts: 40
    I'm very sorry for your loss.

    I'm very sorry for your loss.  As it has been written,  it is in our nature to survive.  Her loving memory will give you strength.  

    God bless you and your family,

    myd 

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827
    I am so sorry.  Your

    I am so sorry.  Your relationship sounds wonderful and full of love. My prayers for peace and strength for you and your children. Children help us continue. I bet in the days and months to come you will feel your wife's presence in surprising ways. Be gentle with yourself.....grief hurts. Know many here hold you close.

    CM

     

     

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    So sorry for your loss

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you deal with the loss of your dear one.

    When grief overwhelms you, bring out the wonderful memories of your time together and let that help you to remember her in the best of times.

    May you and your children find comfort from each other.

    Marie who loves litties

  • Chelsea71
    Chelsea71 Member Posts: 1,169
    I am terribly sorry to read

    I am terribly sorry to read this news.  So many good people lost to this terrible disease.  You have a long, rough road ahead of you.  Just try and get through each day and hopefully over time it will become easier.  Please feel free to send me a PM if you ever need to "talk".  I'm still dealing with my own grief and I can certainly relate to what you're going through.  Take comfort in the fact that she is at peace and no longer suffering.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    My sincerest condolences,

    Chelsea

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,625 Member
    My sincerest condolences

    I am so sorry that your sweet wife has passed.

    There will always be that void in your life, but your children and loved ones will surround that void and you will not fall. 

    Take each day as it comes. Cry a little, and don't be shocked or feel guitly when you laugh again. With 20 years of memories, happy times can be yours. 

    We're here for you. 

  • Semira
    Semira Member Posts: 381 Member
    There are no words

    so so sorry

    Petra

  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 720 Member
    My deepest sympathy

    When I read the post title, my heart sank.  I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife.  You all fought hard against this terrible disease.  She is at peace now and you made sure her final days were as she would have wanted.

    Stay close as a family to help get through this.

    Please continue to post when you can - we are all here for support.

  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571
    Rls, my heart hurts for you.

    I have no words of wisdom for you on how to get through this.  The unbearable passage of time is the only help, and it is only a partial remedy, as Wolfen says.  My BIL and his son are doing very well despite everything, 9 years after my sister's death.  But it took a long time.  Slowly the sharp edges of your grief will soften, and you will be able to look back on the good years that you had with your wife.  Your kids will help with that as well, I think.  They are her memorial.

    Much love to you, dear man.  You did everything you could, and were clearly a very caring and dedicated caregiver to your wife.

    Ann

  • Goldie1
    Goldie1 Member Posts: 264 Member
    So sorry to hear of the passing of your angel

     My heart felt condolences to you and your family.

    Ellen

  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632
    Goldie1 said:

    So sorry to hear of the passing of your angel

     My heart felt condolences to you and your family.

    Ellen

    no words

    No words can describe what you and your family are going through. The pain, the anger and the feeling of utter loss. Just scream and cry and let it out, healing will come, the loss will be there forever.

    I wish you peace and send you love and the knowledge that you are not alone, we all are here for you.

    Hugs, Marjan

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019
    I am so saddened to read this.

    I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your family. Always remember, she lives on in your children.

    God bless.

    Lin

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456
    My condolences....

     

    Sigh....I am so sorry that you and your family has had to endure such pain and heartache.  It's not fair, I know.

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear wife. Try to forget these last few months and focus on the better times you spent together and your love for each other and family.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    I too am very sorry for your
    I too am very sorry for your loss.
  • thxmiker
    thxmiker Member Posts: 1,278
    We are so sorry to hear about

    We are so sorry to hear about your loss. We are snding our thoughts and prayers for you to find strength.  

     

    Best Always,  mike

  • magillilnb
    magillilnb Member Posts: 38
    Your best friend and wife

    I am so sorry to hear that your wife has died.  I know you have been on a long and painful journey with her, but she was so lucky to have you there for her. What a blessing that was! Take care of yourself and grieve at you own pace.  

    Nancy