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VivianLee5689
VivianLee5689 Member Posts: 546
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

Thankfully the funeral went well.  I am sure David was smiling down from heaven as we celebrated his life.  Everyone consistently talked about his faith and acts of love.  He did so much behind the scenes.  It was all about loving people and letting them know they were not alone.  He will be greatly missed.  I am so glad it is over though.  I know I have to grieve and now that everyone has left the house it is bound to get harder.  For now I know my David is not suffering, not in pain and happily watching over me from the place he longed to be.  I have decided that I need to continue to live since that is what he would want for me.  I am going to try very hard not to retreat inside myself.  I am going to work hard to stay present in all areas of my life including right here on CSN.  I am needing a vacation.  Any ideas?

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  • josh r.
    josh r. Member Posts: 264 Member
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    Healing heart

    Vivian,

    While I know that your heart needs healing your head seems to be on very straight. I believe David is very grateful for your love and strength and will be with you wherever you go on a well deserved vacation, whether that be some place you both enjoyed or wanted to go to next. May peace and David go with you. All the best, josh r.

  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
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    I read about David's funeral on

    Caringbridge....it sounds like it was a lovely service, very befitting a man who was loved by so many.  Saw also, that people you didn't even know came out to support you (your sister's friends)....what a wonderful thing to do for another.

    You stick around here, Vivian, until you get your feet back under you....even after you get your feet back...LOL...we'll be here for you.

    p

  • Tim6003
    Tim6003 Member Posts: 1,514 Member
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    phrannie51 said:

    I read about David's funeral on

    Caringbridge....it sounds like it was a lovely service, very befitting a man who was loved by so many.  Saw also, that people you didn't even know came out to support you (your sister's friends)....what a wonderful thing to do for another.

    You stick around here, Vivian, until you get your feet back under you....even after you get your feet back...LOL...we'll be here for you.

    p

    It does sound wonderful Vivian ....

    I know you are tired.  Be sure and take care of yourself now, no doubt David would want that.  I have not heard you speak much about your family (mom, dad, brothers, sisters) ....maybe you could go visit them (unless I just missed all that in a post from you in the past) ....sometimes it's good to see family after a long period of stress, hardship ...

    We do hope you will stay around on CSN ...and if you make a trip out west, you are always welcome here!

    Best,

    Tim

    PS  My wife and I attend a wonderful church ..greatest bunch of folks you could ever meet ....so you would be in good company I would hope :)

  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,722 Member
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    Vivian,

     

    I am glad the funeral for David went well.  Now it is time to catch your breath and work your way back into life.  Use that wisdom you have shown all of us and you will do fine.

     

    Your friend,

     

    Matt

  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
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    vivian, i'm glad the funeral

    vivian, i'm glad the funeral went well and you are going to start life again.  you are showing the strength you have by moving forward with life.  u r truly a very strong person and i admire your  for that.  i pray you will enjoy yourself wherever you go on vacation.  may you find peace with each new day.

    God bless,

    debbiejeanne

  • rachel12yrsuv
    rachel12yrsuv Member Posts: 435
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    Vivian,
    I am so happy that
    Vivian,
    I am so happy that David's funeral went well. To hear that you "Celebrated his life" is a great thing. It sounds to me that David has most certainly left his mark on this world, especially in your heart. His strength he had while fighting and gratefully welcoming his journey home to our Lord, I know he left some home for you. I agree with the idea of going where you two dreamed of or where you were going to go if he would've gotten better. I would also make time for family, should your wall come down for a bit, you need someone to take care of you. I am with you in spirit and prayer always!

    Rachel
  • Billie67
    Billie67 Member Posts: 898
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    rachel12yrsuv said:

    Vivian,
    I am so happy that
    Vivian,
    I am so happy that David's funeral went well. To hear that you "Celebrated his life" is a great thing. It sounds to me that David has most certainly left his mark on this world, especially in your heart. His strength he had while fighting and gratefully welcoming his journey home to our Lord, I know he left some home for you. I agree with the idea of going where you two dreamed of or where you were going to go if he would've gotten better. I would also make time for family, should your wall come down for a bit, you need someone to take care of you. I am with you in spirit and prayer always!

    Rachel

    Viv
    I think it's no surprise that the funeral went well. From the way you speak of David even we here on CSN have grown to love him. I can only imagine how much those who actually knew him love him and celebrate him.
    While I know that some tough times are no doubt ahead of you, I love your positive attitude and will to push ahead. There is no question that this is what David wants for you. He is there with you and is proud of you.
    Start dancing again and surround yourself with those who love you and David.

    As far as a trip...I say go for it! Grab a friend and do it! Should you make your way to So. Cal my door is always open...always!

    Hugs to you my friend,
    Billie
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
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    Glad

    Glad to hear all went well....

    Even more so that you realize, deserve and are planning some recovery time for yourself...

    Best Always, John

  • cureitall66
    cureitall66 Member Posts: 913
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    Thinking of you....

    Vivian,

    I've been thinking about you to no end lately : ) . I'm glad that you did so well through the funeral. Been following the CaringBridge site. I know you will have your moments, but overall, you have the strength inside you to move forward. David saw your strength and encouraged you to keep your faith...and that you have done and will continue to do.

    I'm with Tim ....reach out to your family for awhile so you can clear your mind a little more and regenerate to the next step in life.

    Take care...and Please stay around with us.

    ~Cris

     

  • Jan Trinks
    Jan Trinks Member Posts: 477
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    Glad funeral went well

    Vivian:

     

    So glad the funeral went well.  Yes, it will be hard now that you are alone; but you have the right attitude and you do have to live on which is what David would want for you.  It will be three years this August since I lost Charlie and I think about him every day.  I don't know that you ever truly get over your loss but you learn to cope and life is still good it's just different.  Someone here told me I loved Charlie into the next world where he is now cancer free and no more suffering.  My csn buds (as I call y'all) are the main reason I am able to go on.  Also although it's difficult when everybody is gone out of the house; I kinda wanted everybody to get gone so I could start dealing with everything.  And don't think you have to do everything that has to be taken care of all at once.  I made that mistake and brother-in-law told me to put the brakes on which I did.  Now as far as vacation goes;  I went to Hilton Head for a week shortly after Charlie's death with my best friend for a week.  It was just she and I and we had a great time.  I don't remember if you mentioned whether you had any pets or not and if you don't I'm not suggesting you run out and get one;  but my "boys" are a great comfort to me and I honestly don't think I'd do as well if I didn't have them.  They are a great source of comfort to me.  You will get thru this and you're making a great start.  Please stay in touch with us.  We are always here for you and truly understand how you feel and what you're going thru.  And remember one day you will be reunited with David and it will be forever!  Take care and God Bless!

     

    Jan (Basketcase)

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