Sad please anyone help me...

Today I found out that my mother's Bone Metastasis has progressed. I have not told her as she doesn't understand english that well but I did tell my dad and we are devastated. My mom had stage IV Thyroid Cancer was caught late in the game because of a misdiagnosis and after a year, she got bone metastatis lesions on her hip. She had a hip replacement in May and kept complaining of so much pain on her left upper back side. We brought her for her bone scan this past Friday and today I got the results that she has lesions there as well and that her cancer has progressed. This is all I think about, I am sick to my stomach about it and try to hide it from my kids and husband. I am always sad and I can't get out of this feeling I have, like I'm in another planet or something. I don't know how to help her pain. Pain killers aren't working so now they are suggesting Bone injeciton to strengthen her bones and it helps reduce the pain. She is so tiny now and fragile - she was so outgoing. I am sad, I think about death way to often. She just called me as she told me did the doctor tell you anything and I told her no. This doctor was her Endocrinologist. This Monday we will go to her Oncologist and I know he will tell her and it will destroy her. A part of me is going with her. I'm 40 and cry for my mom. I love her so much, she has given the world to me and my sister. I don't want her to die. I hate cancer, I am sorry for everyone that has this awful disease. I have had counselling and really doesn't help because what they tell me is what I already know but can't listen. Please is anyone going through this with a parent whom they love and can't picture life without. I know everyone on this site is going through this but I don't know what to do. thank you for your time.
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  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    I don't have a parent going
    I don't have a parent going through this it is me who has cancer and I watch how much my cancer is effecting my mom. I feel that she is going through a lot of what you are going through and it hurts me to see how scared she is that I am going to die. I am 45 with stage four ovarian cancer. Just found out on June 4th of this years. I am a little sacred that this beast will take my life but I am more up set at what it is doing to my mom. I will be praying for you and your mom because this is not an easy road to take but we don't have a choise we have to walk down this road. Feel free to add me as a friend and email me when you need to talk. It will help me to understand what my mom is feeling and it will help you in know what your mom is feeling. God bless you and your family.

    Anne
    p.s. I am on 30mg of Morphine 3 times a day and 10 mg of oxcodone 1-2 tabs four times a day for pain and it does seem to help have they tried Morphine for your mom?
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    questions
    Teena, have you had a report the cancer is untreatable?

    What has she been offered for pain?

    questions
    I haven't had a report that it is untreatable but I did see the Cancer has progressed and she has bone lesions further. I don't think they can treat lesions without surgery and it's in too many places. She did the hip replacement as her bone was completely finished and Monday we'll find out more things. They have given her Dilaudid for pain but it doesn't help her much and she can't even eat now. thank you for any advice.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    I don't have a parent going
    I don't have a parent going through this it is me who has cancer and I watch how much my cancer is effecting my mom. I feel that she is going through a lot of what you are going through and it hurts me to see how scared she is that I am going to die. I am 45 with stage four ovarian cancer. Just found out on June 4th of this years. I am a little sacred that this beast will take my life but I am more up set at what it is doing to my mom. I will be praying for you and your mom because this is not an easy road to take but we don't have a choise we have to walk down this road. Feel free to add me as a friend and email me when you need to talk. It will help me to understand what my mom is feeling and it will help you in know what your mom is feeling. God bless you and your family.

    Anne
    p.s. I am on 30mg of Morphine 3 times a day and 10 mg of oxcodone 1-2 tabs four times a day for pain and it does seem to help have they tried Morphine for your mom?

    Thank you with all my heart
    I pray for you and everyone with this disease and I am crying even now after reading your post - I am a basquet case can't control myself. I am so deeply sorry you are going through this and don't understand why why why!! I am mixed emotions but mostly now I cry and have such anger. I don't know how to add you as a friend as I am new to this post and if you can let me know I will definately add you. You sound like an incredible person. Thank you so much for writing to me. They have given my mom hydromorphone and dilaudid but it doesn't help her and she can't really eat much. I am dreading seeing her Oncologist Monday so deeply. Thank you Anne, god bless you and your family as well. YOu are too young to be taken and I don't want you to be taken because I need you to help me as well. big hug from CAnada.
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    teenadee said:

    questions
    I haven't had a report that it is untreatable but I did see the Cancer has progressed and she has bone lesions further. I don't think they can treat lesions without surgery and it's in too many places. She did the hip replacement as her bone was completely finished and Monday we'll find out more things. They have given her Dilaudid for pain but it doesn't help her much and she can't even eat now. thank you for any advice.

    tell them
    Let them know the pain relief is not working. It would be a shame for her to go through the weekend in pain. There are many types of pain relief they can try.

    I don't know the protocol for treating metastasized bone cancer. Perhaps a chemotherapy would work.

    Let us know what you find out Monday.
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    teenadee said:

    Thank you with all my heart
    I pray for you and everyone with this disease and I am crying even now after reading your post - I am a basquet case can't control myself. I am so deeply sorry you are going through this and don't understand why why why!! I am mixed emotions but mostly now I cry and have such anger. I don't know how to add you as a friend as I am new to this post and if you can let me know I will definately add you. You sound like an incredible person. Thank you so much for writing to me. They have given my mom hydromorphone and dilaudid but it doesn't help her and she can't really eat much. I am dreading seeing her Oncologist Monday so deeply. Thank you Anne, god bless you and your family as well. YOu are too young to be taken and I don't want you to be taken because I need you to help me as well. big hug from CAnada.

    add as friend
    By my name you will see a little person just click on it and that will add you as my friend also here is my email address annebehymer@cox.net you can also eamil me. I am fighting this fight will all I have and my numbers are looking good. I believe God is not going to let this cancer take my life I will be hear for you anytime you need to talk and I have been praying for your mom. Crying is a good thing is cleans our souls but don't let they anger control you that wont help you or your mom and will only cause you more pain. Sending hugs your way and will talk with you soon I hope.

    Anne
  • alexandria54
    alexandria54 Member Posts: 15
    Oh Teena, I have no magic
    Oh Teena, I have no magic words for you because I need them myself. Please know that you are not alone. My sister is dying at the age of 59 and I have never been so sad in my whole life. I pray for peace, I pray for her to go in her sleep, I pray that I will live through this and sometimes there is nothing to be done but to cry. I'm so sick of crying. I go to work and I have my husband (thank God) and from one moment to the next I just keep on going. It's not one day at a time it's one minute or hour at a time. My sister will not give up, God bless her, but it is taking a toll on the whole family. To add insult to injury she has a traumatic brain injury and is very difficult to deal with. Before all this I thought of myself as a very sane and joyful person but this past year has changed me. All I can offer is that you are not alone.Forgive me for not being uplifting in response to your cry for help but when I read your post I just felt your pain and had to reach out cause I so understand it. Before this, I had no idea what families all over the world were going through. Now that I know, it amazes me to know there is so much suffering. It's weird I know. God bless you my dear and let's pray for each other. We will get through it.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    tell them
    Let them know the pain relief is not working. It would be a shame for her to go through the weekend in pain. There are many types of pain relief they can try.

    I don't know the protocol for treating metastasized bone cancer. Perhaps a chemotherapy would work.

    Let us know what you find out Monday.

    thank you Noellesmom
    I'll let you know on Monday. She has had this pain since July now and the doctors are aware, however, they were waiting for the bone scan which should have been done earlier but she was extremely weak.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    add as friend
    By my name you will see a little person just click on it and that will add you as my friend also here is my email address annebehymer@cox.net you can also eamil me. I am fighting this fight will all I have and my numbers are looking good. I believe God is not going to let this cancer take my life I will be hear for you anytime you need to talk and I have been praying for your mom. Crying is a good thing is cleans our souls but don't let they anger control you that wont help you or your mom and will only cause you more pain. Sending hugs your way and will talk with you soon I hope.

    Anne

    Hello Anne
    I have now added you as a friend thank you so much and I also took down your e mail address and I will write to you from work some times as well. God won't let you down, I know the other day I was angry but I am back to hope again and prayer. My boys had swimming today and my dad came and he was very down with tears and I had to be strong for him. He told me what will I do, how will I cope and I told him NOT ALONE. I will be there every way I can and so will my sister. We will not leave him fight alone. I will find out as much as I can on MOnday from her Oncologist. A good friend of mine brought me some Naturopath remedy called BACH not sure about it but honestly I need something or I'll have a nervous breakdown soon. I have 3 amazing boys and a good husband and when they aren't looking is when I break down but other times they see me I can't help it. Do you have your own family? HOw is your mom doing/coping. You are in my prayers now every day because I need you as well even though we never personally met I know you are meant to help me so fight fight for your mom, your family and God has to listen. Wishing you a good night. Big hugs back. Tina

    ps I'm sure she already knows this 10 folds but tell your mom she has an amazing wonderful daughter.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    Oh Teena, I have no magic
    Oh Teena, I have no magic words for you because I need them myself. Please know that you are not alone. My sister is dying at the age of 59 and I have never been so sad in my whole life. I pray for peace, I pray for her to go in her sleep, I pray that I will live through this and sometimes there is nothing to be done but to cry. I'm so sick of crying. I go to work and I have my husband (thank God) and from one moment to the next I just keep on going. It's not one day at a time it's one minute or hour at a time. My sister will not give up, God bless her, but it is taking a toll on the whole family. To add insult to injury she has a traumatic brain injury and is very difficult to deal with. Before all this I thought of myself as a very sane and joyful person but this past year has changed me. All I can offer is that you are not alone.Forgive me for not being uplifting in response to your cry for help but when I read your post I just felt your pain and had to reach out cause I so understand it. Before this, I had no idea what families all over the world were going through. Now that I know, it amazes me to know there is so much suffering. It's weird I know. God bless you my dear and let's pray for each other. We will get through it.

    no magic, no wishes, just slow torture...
    I am sorry about your sister, she is so very young and I as you had no idea how many people were suffering. Maybe I was ignorant because it had not touched me. I mean I would contribute to Breast Cancer Runs, and Terry Fox runs and have empathy when I would hear of someone with it but to have it first hand has blown me away. I am not the same person anymore at all. I use to laugh, loved to shop and gossip with my friends and now I just feel like a robot. I go to work, I do house things, I take care of my boys and at night I cry and log on to this site to have people like you comfort me and you really do because I don't feel so alone. I don't know what I would do without my husband and children and I never want to find out. I am terrified of them getting sick now. I don't want my mom suffering from the pain and I don't want her in palliative care - I want her home peacefully in her sleep to go without seeing us cry hysterically. I love her so much. She has been such an amazing mom to me and my sister and the greatest grand momma. My kids see her from time to time but they are young and it kind of freaks them out a little. I am baffled that this is happening to so many, my husband says it's population control. To me it's a slow torture. I wish you the best with your sister. Thank you for listening.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    Oh Teena, I have no magic
    Oh Teena, I have no magic words for you because I need them myself. Please know that you are not alone. My sister is dying at the age of 59 and I have never been so sad in my whole life. I pray for peace, I pray for her to go in her sleep, I pray that I will live through this and sometimes there is nothing to be done but to cry. I'm so sick of crying. I go to work and I have my husband (thank God) and from one moment to the next I just keep on going. It's not one day at a time it's one minute or hour at a time. My sister will not give up, God bless her, but it is taking a toll on the whole family. To add insult to injury she has a traumatic brain injury and is very difficult to deal with. Before all this I thought of myself as a very sane and joyful person but this past year has changed me. All I can offer is that you are not alone.Forgive me for not being uplifting in response to your cry for help but when I read your post I just felt your pain and had to reach out cause I so understand it. Before this, I had no idea what families all over the world were going through. Now that I know, it amazes me to know there is so much suffering. It's weird I know. God bless you my dear and let's pray for each other. We will get through it.

    no magic, no wishes, just slow torture...
    I am sorry about your sister, she is so very young and I as you had no idea how many people were suffering. Maybe I was ignorant because it had not touched me. I mean I would contribute to Breast Cancer Runs, and Terry Fox runs and have empathy when I would hear of someone with it but to have it first hand has blown me away. I am not the same person anymore at all. I use to laugh, loved to shop and gossip with my friends and now I just feel like a robot. I go to work, I do house things, I take care of my boys and at night I cry and log on to this site to have people like you comfort me and you really do because I don't feel so alone. I don't know what I would do without my husband and children and I never want to find out. I am terrified of them getting sick now. I don't want my mom suffering from the pain and I don't want her in palliative care - I want her home peacefully in her sleep to go without seeing us cry hysterically. I love her so much. She has been such an amazing mom to me and my sister and the greatest grand momma. My kids see her from time to time but they are young and it kind of freaks them out a little. I am baffled that this is happening to so many, my husband says it's population control. To me it's a slow torture. I wish you the best with your sister. Thank you for listening.
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    teenadee said:

    Hello Anne
    I have now added you as a friend thank you so much and I also took down your e mail address and I will write to you from work some times as well. God won't let you down, I know the other day I was angry but I am back to hope again and prayer. My boys had swimming today and my dad came and he was very down with tears and I had to be strong for him. He told me what will I do, how will I cope and I told him NOT ALONE. I will be there every way I can and so will my sister. We will not leave him fight alone. I will find out as much as I can on MOnday from her Oncologist. A good friend of mine brought me some Naturopath remedy called BACH not sure about it but honestly I need something or I'll have a nervous breakdown soon. I have 3 amazing boys and a good husband and when they aren't looking is when I break down but other times they see me I can't help it. Do you have your own family? HOw is your mom doing/coping. You are in my prayers now every day because I need you as well even though we never personally met I know you are meant to help me so fight fight for your mom, your family and God has to listen. Wishing you a good night. Big hugs back. Tina

    ps I'm sure she already knows this 10 folds but tell your mom she has an amazing wonderful daughter.

    :)
    Your right my mom always tells me oh amazing I am as I fight this battle. You said when your husband and children aren't looking is when you cry I understand when around your children but you need to let your husband hold you as you cry. I know that when I am feeling really bad physically and emotionally I lay down on the couch beside my mom and sometimes just cry and it has helped me many times. It will also make him feel like he is helping you out. Your father needed to hear that you and your sister will not let him go through this alone but make sure you are not going through this alone. Email me any time it will be nice having a pen pal as I go through this and tell your dad he is in my prays also we all can use all the support we can get. Even if it is from someone we have never met :). Also tell him he has an amazing daughter also. Let me know what you find out on Monday with your mom I have an appointment with my GYN/ONC just so we can go over the entire test I have had. I already know that the results are good I just want to ask about remission and things like that since I am getting better faster than we thought. Have a great weekend dear friend and I will talk with you later.
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    teenadee said:

    no magic, no wishes, just slow torture...
    I am sorry about your sister, she is so very young and I as you had no idea how many people were suffering. Maybe I was ignorant because it had not touched me. I mean I would contribute to Breast Cancer Runs, and Terry Fox runs and have empathy when I would hear of someone with it but to have it first hand has blown me away. I am not the same person anymore at all. I use to laugh, loved to shop and gossip with my friends and now I just feel like a robot. I go to work, I do house things, I take care of my boys and at night I cry and log on to this site to have people like you comfort me and you really do because I don't feel so alone. I don't know what I would do without my husband and children and I never want to find out. I am terrified of them getting sick now. I don't want my mom suffering from the pain and I don't want her in palliative care - I want her home peacefully in her sleep to go without seeing us cry hysterically. I love her so much. She has been such an amazing mom to me and my sister and the greatest grand momma. My kids see her from time to time but they are young and it kind of freaks them out a little. I am baffled that this is happening to so many, my husband says it's population control. To me it's a slow torture. I wish you the best with your sister. Thank you for listening.

    it's not ignorantes
    I tell my mom all the time were there this many reports of cancer or is it just because having cancer I notice it more. She thinks it is because now that it has touched our lives (and boy has it touched our lives) that now when we hear the word cancer on t.v. that we both stop what we are doing to listen. I think that is the same thing you and Alexandria are going through. When you (I) first start to deal with the news it is all consuming and everwhere you go or everthing you hear seems to be about cancer. As you start to come to terms with the cancer it does not seems to be everywhere you are. I will not say that it will not consume you because I am still early in this walk and it does on some day seems to consume me. I will say as you learn more about you moms or sisters cancer it becomes a little easier and I mean a little. Cancer is such a small word that has a very large impact on your life. I do not believe I will ever go back to normal even if I beat the odds and survive stage four ovarian cancer (which I am planning on doing :))I will never be normal again. This is why I have a new outlook on life I take the time to stop and smell the roses if you know what I mean. I also will always until the day I die worrie about having a reacerance so every little runny nose will make me wonder. I also will love my family so much more than I ever had before if that is possible because I know life can end at any time. I will be praying for you also Aleandria as you walk this road now one really wants to be on.

    Anne
  • alexandria54
    alexandria54 Member Posts: 15
    teenadee said:

    no magic, no wishes, just slow torture...
    I am sorry about your sister, she is so very young and I as you had no idea how many people were suffering. Maybe I was ignorant because it had not touched me. I mean I would contribute to Breast Cancer Runs, and Terry Fox runs and have empathy when I would hear of someone with it but to have it first hand has blown me away. I am not the same person anymore at all. I use to laugh, loved to shop and gossip with my friends and now I just feel like a robot. I go to work, I do house things, I take care of my boys and at night I cry and log on to this site to have people like you comfort me and you really do because I don't feel so alone. I don't know what I would do without my husband and children and I never want to find out. I am terrified of them getting sick now. I don't want my mom suffering from the pain and I don't want her in palliative care - I want her home peacefully in her sleep to go without seeing us cry hysterically. I love her so much. She has been such an amazing mom to me and my sister and the greatest grand momma. My kids see her from time to time but they are young and it kind of freaks them out a little. I am baffled that this is happening to so many, my husband says it's population control. To me it's a slow torture. I wish you the best with your sister. Thank you for listening.

    Teena, I am happy to listen.
    Teena, I am happy to listen. God knows I need someone to listen to me. That is why I am seeing a therapist. If I had my way all I would talk about would be this but I have to spare my friends. They want to be there for me and for my sister but they can only hear so much. Some days I am so desolate that I feel like if someone could see inside me they would actually be afraid. And then I think, but I don't have cancer! It's pretty bad when that is what brings me some solace; the fact that I don't have cancer. I am lucky because I do not have children to care for while this is going on. I promise you that you are in my prayers from now on. It is incredibly cruel in a way that our loved ones passing is what is going to set us free. I can't wrap my head around it but I know it's true. Please stay as calm as you can and talk to a priest or counselor if you have access to it. It does help me a little. xo
  • alexandria54
    alexandria54 Member Posts: 15

    it's not ignorantes
    I tell my mom all the time were there this many reports of cancer or is it just because having cancer I notice it more. She thinks it is because now that it has touched our lives (and boy has it touched our lives) that now when we hear the word cancer on t.v. that we both stop what we are doing to listen. I think that is the same thing you and Alexandria are going through. When you (I) first start to deal with the news it is all consuming and everwhere you go or everthing you hear seems to be about cancer. As you start to come to terms with the cancer it does not seems to be everywhere you are. I will not say that it will not consume you because I am still early in this walk and it does on some day seems to consume me. I will say as you learn more about you moms or sisters cancer it becomes a little easier and I mean a little. Cancer is such a small word that has a very large impact on your life. I do not believe I will ever go back to normal even if I beat the odds and survive stage four ovarian cancer (which I am planning on doing :))I will never be normal again. This is why I have a new outlook on life I take the time to stop and smell the roses if you know what I mean. I also will always until the day I die worrie about having a reacerance so every little runny nose will make me wonder. I also will love my family so much more than I ever had before if that is possible because I know life can end at any time. I will be praying for you also Aleandria as you walk this road now one really wants to be on.

    Anne

    Thank you for the prayers
    Thank you for the prayers Anne. Your story is so interesting, as everyone's is, and your attitude is beautiful. Keep it up and keep us posted.
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    Teena, I am happy to listen.
    Teena, I am happy to listen. God knows I need someone to listen to me. That is why I am seeing a therapist. If I had my way all I would talk about would be this but I have to spare my friends. They want to be there for me and for my sister but they can only hear so much. Some days I am so desolate that I feel like if someone could see inside me they would actually be afraid. And then I think, but I don't have cancer! It's pretty bad when that is what brings me some solace; the fact that I don't have cancer. I am lucky because I do not have children to care for while this is going on. I promise you that you are in my prayers from now on. It is incredibly cruel in a way that our loved ones passing is what is going to set us free. I can't wrap my head around it but I know it's true. Please stay as calm as you can and talk to a priest or counselor if you have access to it. It does help me a little. xo

    Hello
    When you write it's as if it's me. When you wrote some days you are so desolate.... omg that is how I feel. Yesterday was my son's Soccer party and I looked around everyone having the greatest time and there I was feeling numb. One man came up to me and asked me where I am because it is so obvious. Sometimes I feel like slapping myself to get a grip! Tomorrow will be extremely hard as my mom will find out that her cancer has progressed, it's news I don't know how she will take but I'm guessing lots of tears and why's. I will look into therapy again when I can, so many things going on I have no time. Thank you for prayers as now my new friends are in mine as weel. You and Anne and I always mention everyone with this awful disease. Wishing you a good evening and a good week. Thank god for our children as this is what helps me a little bit. xoxo
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    it's not ignorantes
    I tell my mom all the time were there this many reports of cancer or is it just because having cancer I notice it more. She thinks it is because now that it has touched our lives (and boy has it touched our lives) that now when we hear the word cancer on t.v. that we both stop what we are doing to listen. I think that is the same thing you and Alexandria are going through. When you (I) first start to deal with the news it is all consuming and everwhere you go or everthing you hear seems to be about cancer. As you start to come to terms with the cancer it does not seems to be everywhere you are. I will not say that it will not consume you because I am still early in this walk and it does on some day seems to consume me. I will say as you learn more about you moms or sisters cancer it becomes a little easier and I mean a little. Cancer is such a small word that has a very large impact on your life. I do not believe I will ever go back to normal even if I beat the odds and survive stage four ovarian cancer (which I am planning on doing :))I will never be normal again. This is why I have a new outlook on life I take the time to stop and smell the roses if you know what I mean. I also will always until the day I die worrie about having a reacerance so every little runny nose will make me wonder. I also will love my family so much more than I ever had before if that is possible because I know life can end at any time. I will be praying for you also Aleandria as you walk this road now one really wants to be on.

    Anne

    wish this road didn't exist....
    How are you feeling Anne? I write so much about my own problems that I haven't asked you about how you are doing. HOw is your mom coping? Tomorrow I'll go to Oncologist with my parents, so not looking forward to it.... Wishing you a good evening and a good week. xox
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    teenadee said:

    wish this road didn't exist....
    How are you feeling Anne? I write so much about my own problems that I haven't asked you about how you are doing. HOw is your mom coping? Tomorrow I'll go to Oncologist with my parents, so not looking forward to it.... Wishing you a good evening and a good week. xox

    I am doing ok tomorrow I go
    I am doing ok tomorrow I go in for my blood draw before my chemo they have to make sure the my white count is good so I can have the chemo. So far it has been good then after blood draw I will be with my GYN/ONC to go ever how I am doing so far with the treatment I am always a little shakey about it wondering if in all the blood test and cat scans they find something different or that I am going to be doing worst than I thought. Then on Thursday I have my 5th round of chemo. I have only two more of the three drugs together and then I will be down to just advastin for five more months. My mom is doing ok but the stress and emotional drain has given her a bad migrian so this weekend she was in bed most of the day. My mom is on disability for fibromyalgs and migrianes so this is taking a toll on her. When I am in the hospital which I have been in six time since June I have to make her go home to get rest. I worry about this running her down to much. Let me know what the doctor says about your mom. I am praying for the best.

    Anne
  • teenadee
    teenadee Member Posts: 86

    I am doing ok tomorrow I go
    I am doing ok tomorrow I go in for my blood draw before my chemo they have to make sure the my white count is good so I can have the chemo. So far it has been good then after blood draw I will be with my GYN/ONC to go ever how I am doing so far with the treatment I am always a little shakey about it wondering if in all the blood test and cat scans they find something different or that I am going to be doing worst than I thought. Then on Thursday I have my 5th round of chemo. I have only two more of the three drugs together and then I will be down to just advastin for five more months. My mom is doing ok but the stress and emotional drain has given her a bad migrian so this weekend she was in bed most of the day. My mom is on disability for fibromyalgs and migrianes so this is taking a toll on her. When I am in the hospital which I have been in six time since June I have to make her go home to get rest. I worry about this running her down to much. Let me know what the doctor says about your mom. I am praying for the best.

    Anne

    GOOD LUCK ANNE - I am praying for good news to you!
    I will write you later tonight if I can and let you know what the Oncologist has to say. Thank you for the kind words in your other message and I will pass the message to my dad :) I will also cry more on my husbands shoulder as he feels helpless at times knowing he can't help me. I just want you to know that you have helped me dearly as have others on this site. I am still in an emotional roller coaster and not in the best state mentally but I have found some relief with you's and I appreciate and love you for that. Your mom needs to take care of herself as well as Fibromalgia and migraines are so very hard to deal with. Good luck my sweet friend and you will give me good news OK ;) xoxo
  • alexandria54
    alexandria54 Member Posts: 15
    teenadee said:

    Hello
    When you write it's as if it's me. When you wrote some days you are so desolate.... omg that is how I feel. Yesterday was my son's Soccer party and I looked around everyone having the greatest time and there I was feeling numb. One man came up to me and asked me where I am because it is so obvious. Sometimes I feel like slapping myself to get a grip! Tomorrow will be extremely hard as my mom will find out that her cancer has progressed, it's news I don't know how she will take but I'm guessing lots of tears and why's. I will look into therapy again when I can, so many things going on I have no time. Thank you for prayers as now my new friends are in mine as weel. You and Anne and I always mention everyone with this awful disease. Wishing you a good evening and a good week. Thank god for our children as this is what helps me a little bit. xoxo

    I will be thinking of you
    I will be thinking of you and Anne today so much. Strength for all of you. Anne sounds so strong it inspires me. As for you Teena, I think part of your problem is that you are in shock. As I have gone through this with my sister there have been times when I have actually been "shocked" and it is those times on the roller coaster that I shed the most tears. In August my younger sister was diagnosed with breast cancer and it was as if a bomb had gone off. All my senses seemed to be affected. I don't know how I survived it but I did and God gives me the grace to keep on going. Your family will too. And Anne's and all of us. Neither of my sisters are married so you can imagine that it falls on me. I will continue to check here looking for you. Please keep writing on here. Be strong today. xo
  • AnneBehymer
    AnneBehymer Member Posts: 738 Member
    teenadee said:

    GOOD LUCK ANNE - I am praying for good news to you!
    I will write you later tonight if I can and let you know what the Oncologist has to say. Thank you for the kind words in your other message and I will pass the message to my dad :) I will also cry more on my husbands shoulder as he feels helpless at times knowing he can't help me. I just want you to know that you have helped me dearly as have others on this site. I am still in an emotional roller coaster and not in the best state mentally but I have found some relief with you's and I appreciate and love you for that. Your mom needs to take care of herself as well as Fibromalgia and migraines are so very hard to deal with. Good luck my sweet friend and you will give me good news OK ;) xoxo

    hang on for the ride
    your emotion are going to be up and down mine still are. Just don't let them over run your life. That is why I said cry on your hubbies shoulder and let him carry the weghit for a while it will make him feel like he is helping you. Good luck to day and you are in my prays also. I will make sure my mom get some rest I know what it is like I have fibromalgia and migrianes also. Take care dear friend until I we talk again


    In God love
    Anne