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JordynnS
JordynnS Member Posts: 11
in Lymphoma (Hodgkin and Non-Hodgkin) #1
Im a survivor, got that news in like july! now im in school and no one will talk to me or they look at me like im an alien! it really gets to me and i dont know how or what to do to fix it...

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  • dixiegirl
    dixiegirl Member Posts: 1,043 Member
    #2
    I know
    I know it's tough when you see behavior changes in people after they know we have cancer. I truly do believe that people just don't know what to say or how to deal with it. Sometimes I think about bringing it to their attention and then realize it likely wouldn't help matters.

    Earlier this summer when I was still needing to wear a mask when I went out in public (I had a stem cell transplant and my immune system was compromised) I went shopping. There was a man standing way behind me at the checkout acting like I had the plague. I just about turned around and said it's NOT me who has the problem....it's you. LOL

    Do the best you can not to let it get to you honey. Maybe you could just say I have cancer people...I am not contagious and smile and walk away.

    Take heart, it will get better!
    Beth
  • allmost60
    allmost60 Member Posts: 3,178 Member
    #3
    So young
    Hi,
    I read your Bio page and I can't imagine how hard it is to be so young dealing with cancer. Try not to pay attention to what others around you are acting like. I know it's easier said than done, but they arn't worth the stress. Hold your head high and remember most people arn't being rude on purpose, it's more that they just don't know how to deal with their thoughts when seeing someone with cancer. I think it just scares them. Be strong, and I'll keep you in my prayers. Much love....Sue (FNHL-2-3A-6/10) age 60.
  • scuttlebug11
    scuttlebug11 Member Posts: 175
    #4
    allmost60 said:

    So young
    Hi,
    I read your Bio page and I can't imagine how hard it is to be so young dealing with cancer. Try not to pay attention to what others around you are acting like. I know it's easier said than done, but they arn't worth the stress. Hold your head high and remember most people arn't being rude on purpose, it's more that they just don't know how to deal with their thoughts when seeing someone with cancer. I think it just scares them. Be strong, and I'll keep you in my prayers. Much love....Sue (FNHL-2-3A-6/10) age 60.

    try not to worry
    try not to let it bother you most people don't know what to say soon they will stop feeling uncomfortable around you, some may even be curious. remember how strong you are. blessings denise
  • JacquieK
    JacquieK Member Posts: 14
    #5
    Survivor
    Jordynn,

    Yeah!!! You are a survivor! Welcome to the greatest club there is (I'm a 3 1/2 month remission survivor myself). Hold your head up high and as hard as it is try to ignore the ignorance and always remember that you are loved and still needed here. Don't let ANYONE take away your sense of who you are, or how important you are. I know it's hard (especially at first with no hair), but if they are treating you that way it's because they are missing some important character trait and are not worth being friends with or even spending time with.

    Keep on getting stronger and believing in yourself!

    Jacquie
  • jimwins
    jimwins Member Posts: 2,107
    #6
    Homework assignment :)
    I don't think you can fix it sweetheart.
    Try not to let it get you down. You survived
    cancer and all that goes along with it, this is nothing.

    If it were me at your age, I'd probably look them straight
    in the eye and say "Kiss my (homework) ASSignment" ;).
    Hang in there. You're tough and we're all proud of you.

    (Hope you don't mind my humor. I just refuse to be so
    serious all the time.)


    Hugs,

    Jim

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