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I've been treated for throat cancer with radiation and chemotherapy. My treatments ended in March, it's now the end of July and I still haven't returned to work. I still am fatigued and have been getting very depressed.
I feel that going to work will help me in that it will make my life more normal and give me something to focus on besides my recovery. On the other hand I don't want to go back to work if I'm not ready.
I'm wondering how long it has taken other people to return to work successfully.

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  • Greend
    Greend Member Posts: 678
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    I can tell you that I returned waaaay too soon; I wanted to be normal again and really messed up. Take your time, build up your strength and heal. You will know when it is time and from the sound of your message it isn't too far away.
  • DrMary
    DrMary Member Posts: 531 Member
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    Ease into it
    Is there any way you can work part-time at first? I hear that you are longing for some routine as well as a sense of purpose, but it might be tough to jump into the full 8 hours right away.

    Remember that fatigue and depression are parts of a vicious cycle - when you are depressed, you don't sleep as well and when you are fatigued, you are more prone to depression. Can you do something else to break that cycle? Do you have a work-out schedule? I'd consider trying a few weeks of a schedule that gets you up at the time you'd normally get up to go to work; instead of going to work, do an hour or so of cardio at home, in the gym, or just taking a very long walk in your neighborhood or nearby park. Then a coffee break and then an hour or so of planned chores (laundry, errands, etc.). Then lunch. Then a trip to the library or bookstore (get to Borders before they are gone!). Then another coffee break. Then some yard work when it's cooler. Then dinner and whatever you'd normally do at night when you are working (good time to do some resistance training or yoga).

    If you can do this for a few weeks, you will likely feel better and be ready to go back to work. If not, give it more time, but consider talking to your doctor and making sure your fatigue isn't due to nutrition, RBC, thyroid or something else.

    I hope your first day back, whenever it is, goes well - another step towards "normal."
  • luv4lacrosse
    luv4lacrosse Member Posts: 1,410 Member
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    I was out of work 5 months and returned part time for another month and then back full time. I am 9 months post treatment, and over the last 2 months I have had a huge amount of energy return and am eating pretty well.

    And I am not freezing cold anymore, what a relief!!

    Mike
  • sweetblood22
    sweetblood22 Member Posts: 3,228
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    I haven't returned to work, but I definitely think the advice that was given up there, is excellent. I think it was Mary, that suggested putting yourself on a bit more taxing schedule at home first, and seeing how you handle that. Then I would ease back in at part time hours to begin with, when you are ready to go back.

    Wishing you well,

    Sweet
  • slow_recovery
    slow_recovery Member Posts: 4
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    Thanks
    Thank you all for the great advice.
    Part of my problem is that when I get depressed like I am, I find it hard to force myself into a regular routine; I basically get lazy. Going to work forces me to maintain a regular schedule.
    I work in an office and split my time between computer work and meetings so I'm hoping I can handle it.
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
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    Welcome
    To the forum, great people and tons of experience, history and information....

    I too went through chemo for nine weeks, then seven weeks of concurrent chemo and radiation.

    I worked from home out of the office from January - August, then worked part time (in office half days, home half days), returning full time after September.

    You didn't mention your work so that would definitely be a factor as well. My work is 90% computer related so I have it easy as for physical labor.

    Everyone is different as far as treatment and recovery. It's not uncommon to still be fatigued, your body and mind have been through a battle.

    As for the depression that's not uncommon in some either. You have some options there if you're receptive. There are probably groups at your cancer center for post or current patients. A place you can talk and share the expereince, your thoughts, concerns and fears.

    Maybe even talking with a MD expereinced with counciling and listening....

    Your MD's can be a source to talk to as well, there's always a chance that your thyroid or something else is causing the fatigue....

    Best,
    John
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
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    Thanks
    Thank you all for the great advice.
    Part of my problem is that when I get depressed like I am, I find it hard to force myself into a regular routine; I basically get lazy. Going to work forces me to maintain a regular schedule.
    I work in an office and split my time between computer work and meetings so I'm hoping I can handle it.

    Flexibility
    If your employer allows you some flexibility more than likely it shouldn't be a problem..

    I kept up on all of my work load and schedules from home and would attend meetings when I could.

    That being said though, I wasn't kept on a rigid 9 - 5 schedule. I basically worked when I felt good and was up to it. On chemo days, that might last until 4 in the morning, then sleeping a lot of the next day, as I was pretty ramped up on those days.

    Best,
    John
  • fisrpotpe
    fisrpotpe Member Posts: 1,349 Member
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    I too went back
    I too went back way to soon, so i believe that is why my recovery was slower. I was spending so much energy that the body could not keep up. I very much believe to listen to body, if your tired you must rest, rest is the best for recovery.

    mind games are hard, i kept saying to myself i must prove that i am a whole man. turns out i did not have to prove anything.

    John
  • sweetblood22
    sweetblood22 Member Posts: 3,228
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    fisrpotpe said:

    I too went back
    I too went back way to soon, so i believe that is why my recovery was slower. I was spending so much energy that the body could not keep up. I very much believe to listen to body, if your tired you must rest, rest is the best for recovery.

    mind games are hard, i kept saying to myself i must prove that i am a whole man. turns out i did not have to prove anything.

    John

    Don't have to prove anything.
    "turns out I did not have to prove anything." Very wise words, those are. There are only two entities I worry about living up to expectations these days. God and the dog. Both love me unconditionally, the former, I look up to, while the latter looks up to me. Either way, I'm happy with both relationships, and it feels like a 100lb weight is off my shoulders. I don't have to try and prove my self worth to anyone. I know what I'm worth. Also after 15 years of worrying about every body else, I can worry about me for a change. No one really worried about me. It's about time I put myself first (behind God, but in front of the dog), instead of everyone and everything else that came first, that I was trying to make happy and prove my self worth by working and making more money. Employer (employees) and ex spouse were always first on the list. I was somewhere around tenth.
  • waywest
    waywest Member Posts: 44
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    Depends on so many factors
    Are you able to eat and interact normally yet? I say this because my husband returned to work 2 months after his last treatment for the same reasons that you cite. Since he was too fatigued to amuse himself during the day, he too became depressed but, there is a caveat, his colleagues interact quite differently with him now. They treat him as though he is a fragile thing (which he is at the moment but nevertheless resents it a little). His appearance is still gaunt and haunted and he is uncomfortable eating publicly with the swallow-gag-gulp-liquid routine and of course, the voice is still raspy and sometimes unintelligible. I don't know if you have any of these residual side effects but they do make normal interaction at work difficult.His hair is kind of wonky too and he is self conscious about that as well.
    I think returning to work too soon after such a trauma is not always the best course of action.
    As someone else has suggested, try going for longer walks every day for a while. I wish my husband had delayed going back to work until he felt more "normal". The fatigue of a daily work routine seems to have slowed his recovery somewhat. Again, it all depends on whether you feel strong enough to go back to your daily routine.Can you do a reduced work week? That seems like a good compromise.I am new to this board but it is the best source of information and guidance that I have found in my thousands of hours of cyber travel down the cancer road.Above all, keep posting here. It seems to be a HUGE, positive support network. I've been lurking here for months!
  • Nancy171
    Nancy171 Member Posts: 3
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    I can relate
    I am still going through all this. Had robotic surgery in June and am starting chemo/radiation on Monday. I suffer from depression and anxiety for many years and I know how easy it is to feel like you're 'becomming lazy', which I can easily do, too.
    I agree with the advice given here, really some great comments. My two cents is to do whatever you think will work FOR YOU, to get yourself moving a little bit more (my secret weapon is my sister-in-law, she can always/often talk me into getting out of the house). You just have to get started, you know.
    I am working 3-4 hours a day from home on days that I am able (between appointments and tests and procedures). While I will try to keep working from home as much as I can during the 7 weeks of treatment and beyond, I am not going to push it or count on going to work too soon.
    Noone knows you better than yourself. Go with your gut feeling and lots of luck!
    Nancy
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