signing off for awhile....
Besides the nightmare surgery a couple weeks ago...Within the last couple of days my dad had a heart attack, me and my boyfriend of 8 years are splitting up cuz hes unsupportive and he just wants to fight and argue all the time and then theres my daughter whos 26yrs and i accidently find out on facebook that im a first time grandma...it should be a very special occation but instead i got a knife jabbed thru my heart...i didnt know she was even pregnant and she just had her baby and to jabbed that knife in just a little more one of my family memebers claimed the role of grandma and she has no right to. I did not make any waves about this in respect for my daughter and asked my family to do the same but its too late world war three is breaking out between our 2 sides of the family.
I have tried really hard to overcome all this but the whole thing with my daughter has pushed me over the edge and i believe im having a breakdown cuz i cant handle this stuff anymore...im signing off facebook cuz of the drama getting started and off here for awhile cuz i cant take anymore bad things right now. I havent stopped bawling for hours now and i cant seem to get a grip on anything and i dont know what direction to go anymore...i just want to thank you ladies for being there for me all this time but this time i dont think its going to help ive been pushed to far and had to much to deal with in a short amount of time. Thank you for everything!
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Oh JoJo I am horribly sorry to read this post and know that you are having to deal with so much unpleasantness. I did not know about you dad not being well, I will keep him and you in my prayers. I can understand your need to step away, just know that we are here for you and wish you much better day's in your future. I truly wish I had that magic wand that would make everything better!
Love,
RE0 -
I will be thinking of you.
I will be thinking of you. Many hugs to you!!! I know there isn't much I can do but if there's anything I can do please let me know. Lots of hugs to you.
Dana0 -
JoJo - while I respect
your decision, honestly I don't see how that is going to
make you feel better? Why shut us out now?
It's shocking that she wouldn't share this news with you.
You seemed to have a close relationship with her. Sheesh go figure...
And just for the record, NO ONE cant take your role of grandmother,
they can try but YOU raised that girl and only you know her inside out.
I am very sorry to hear about your dad and hope he's feeling better.
Agree with you... stay away from Facebook and drama!
Love,
Ayse0 -
Do what you think is best but think of all the support first !!
Hello Jojo. I don't know you very well but several things touched me upon reading your post. I too have had alot of issues with my daughter that stabbed me in the heart as well so I feel your pain, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I had a failed marriage too so all of that didn't help either plus of course dealing with cancer and it's affects.
With all your issues though, is it really the time to shut down a supportive site like this? Just think it over. You don't have to read posts that will bring you down, just use it to blog how you are feeling and others will chime in with support. I can see closing Facebook though so I feel that is a good move.
Just thought I would chime in here. I have done as you are doing now and then because it all can get very sad and bring you way down if you read too much of the sad situations but sometimes just being able to post your feelings helps to heal too.
You know what is best for you but again just thought I would try to help.
Blessings,
Bluerose0 -
jo jo, I am so sorry to
jo jo, I am so sorry to hear all that you are going through. Remember that this is always a safe place for you to come and feel love and support. I hope that you have SOME kind of support nearby - a good friend or a counselor. You don't have to suffer alone. xoxoxox Lynn0 -
Hang in There
Dear Sweet JoJo,
My heart is heavy for you. You are right, this is a lot to contend with in a short amount of time. You have weathered the storm that is cancer and dealt with a series of losses, family disappointments, relationship differences, and ongoing health issues on top of everything else. It is all so overwhelming and difficult.
Go ahead and step back, if you have to, and recoup your energies. Self preservation is important right now. Take time for yourself to figure out what you want. You are a beautiful soul and we will be thinking and praying for you. Know this, you WILL GET THROUGH THIS! YOU WILL CONTINUE to MOVE FORWARD. God is by your side and will not abandon you and neither will your Sisters in Pink.
Please come back and let us know how you are doing. Hugs and prayers to you, JoJo.
Ines0 -
I am sorry that you are
I am sorry that you are going through all of this. We love you and please remember that we are not facebook and are here for you if you need to talk. Praying for you.0 -
Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you
Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you have so much going on, and all happening at once it seems! There is a saying, can't remember how it goes, but something like "after the storm comes the rainbow" -I wish very much your rainbow is on its way to you.
I agree with some of the sisters, I think you should stay with us. We will always listen and be here to support you. Think about it for a little longer please?
Sorry about your daughter. She only has one mother, and that's you. I hope whatever it is, you guys work it out.
Feel better soon.0 -
Beautiful JoJo~
I know you
Beautiful JoJo~
I know you have been through so much~ I can still remember the horror about Stacy, compounded with the unbelievable news of your still missing friend. As if BC isn't enough for any of us to deal with~ you have been handling so much. ((((((hugs))))))
I can certainly understand your wanting a break from here and FB~ your personal life has been so impacted, and that breaks my heart. I wish I had The Magic to envelop you with love and care, and that you would know that you have a safe place to land.
The thing that stands out to me is the hope that you will take care of YOU~ including spending time with a counselor who can nurture and be a neutral 3rd party for you. You need and DESERVE to be taken care of. I know that all of the Kindreds are worried about you, and we hope that even if you are taking a much needed break, that you will check in with us, or send a PM to someone here you might feel close to. You are a valued family member, and you have given us as much if not more than we have given you. Be well, sweet sister~ and please take care of yourself.
Hugs,
Chen♥0 -
Jo Jo I'm so sorryLoveBabyJesus said:Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you
Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you have so much going on, and all happening at once it seems! There is a saying, can't remember how it goes, but something like "after the storm comes the rainbow" -I wish very much your rainbow is on its way to you.
I agree with some of the sisters, I think you should stay with us. We will always listen and be here to support you. Think about it for a little longer please?
Sorry about your daughter. She only has one mother, and that's you. I hope whatever it is, you guys work it out.
Feel better soon.
I'm so sorry you're going thru more drama. I was awed by your strength during all your previous trials, but certainly understand that a some point there is a straw that breaks the camels back.
We're always here for your, and will always be including you in our prayers.
If there's anything I can do, just let me know.
It may take time, but your daughter will likely come around and see how badly she's hurt you. As far as the boyfriend, if you don't get support and love from him then he doesn't deserve you. You're an awesome, wonderful, caring, supportive woman and deserve the same in a man.
Good luck and I'm hoping you'll drop by in the future.
marge0 -
I can see that stayingLoveBabyJesus said:Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you
Hi Jo Jo -- I am sorry you have so much going on, and all happening at once it seems! There is a saying, can't remember how it goes, but something like "after the storm comes the rainbow" -I wish very much your rainbow is on its way to you.
I agree with some of the sisters, I think you should stay with us. We will always listen and be here to support you. Think about it for a little longer please?
Sorry about your daughter. She only has one mother, and that's you. I hope whatever it is, you guys work it out.
Feel better soon.
I can see that staying reading bad news here adds to your sadness. I hope that maybe you can find a way to filter through those posts and read the joyful ones. There have been so many things that you have had to face in the past two years and it can crush us. To top it off, is this issue with your daughter and her baby. I hope that it resolves. But I am mostly concerned about how this is affecting you emotionally. You need to call your doctor and if you are not on something for depression you need to consider it. I just sense how overwhelmed and how devastated you are by all of this. And who wouldn't. Just as you took care of your body during your treatments you need to take care of your emotional health. Many of your issues alone could bring on depression let alone all of them. So while I want you to stay here, even more I want you to go see someone for how this is affecting you. A therapist, a neutral friend, a religious advisor, a doctor. Someone who can be there for you and walk with you through this.
JoJo, you have been a great support here for all of us and so strong through so much. You have inspired many and been so encouraging also. Now is time to take care of JoJo and part of that may be leaving for a time but a bigger part is finding someone that will help you physically, emotionally and perhaps spiritually. My prayers and good thoughts are that all will be well with you.
Stef0 -
Jo JoBella Luna said:Hang in There
Dear Sweet JoJo,
My heart is heavy for you. You are right, this is a lot to contend with in a short amount of time. You have weathered the storm that is cancer and dealt with a series of losses, family disappointments, relationship differences, and ongoing health issues on top of everything else. It is all so overwhelming and difficult.
Go ahead and step back, if you have to, and recoup your energies. Self preservation is important right now. Take time for yourself to figure out what you want. You are a beautiful soul and we will be thinking and praying for you. Know this, you WILL GET THROUGH THIS! YOU WILL CONTINUE to MOVE FORWARD. God is by your side and will not abandon you and neither will your Sisters in Pink.
Please come back and let us know how you are doing. Hugs and prayers to you, JoJo.
Ines
This brought tears to my eyes.What tragedies you have been through and now a break up and the new grandchild you didn't know about untll facebook. We are all thinking of you.I know we help alot with your cancer dx.So many have but you feel this is different. I am wishing everything gets straightened out but most of all your cancer is the biggest concern.I know because I am awaiting a biopsy this week sometime.I also was dx Aug 2009.This is just to soon for me to need another biopsy.Hopefully a cyst since i have 2 others.They will ALL be aspirated.I don't want any.
Gee this makes me cry.I have been debating the same thing.My nerves are shot and you know what our doctors tell us "We Can't be under stress but people cause more". And they know it.They don't care.It is very hurtful!!! I will be thinking of you during this trying time.The losses like your friend who passed and the friend who was murdered and never found has to be traumatic.I can't even imagine.I hear about these Missing persons and never stop thinking about them. A 9 year old girl(near us) body has never been found.It have been almost 12 years.It is still on the news at times.
I hate hearing your tradgies but this is what I am going through too. You arent't alone. My husband is finally supporative but my daughters-in-law do everything to make me miserable.At all family gatherings(rude and obnoxious) and even times in between. I have 2 grandchildren who visit the others never did.These 2 live a ways but when they come we have fun. I don't treat them with gifts etc but one daughter-in -law tells the other I do. Before she starts her lies she needs to ask me.Then I get pounced by one or the other.Unfortunelly this has happened so often I am not sure about family get togethers.Really.I have 3 grandkids that aren't grown but 3 are.So they will be leading their own lives.I can see my sons anytime(2 live here) One doesn't. The daughter in law that causes problems is living on our property(in our camper) with our son and grandson rent free and no other bills but her car payment and I get treated like this.Since I had non invasive DCIS she and I had some problems.I told her "I have cancer(2 months after surgery).Her reply was "You don't have cancer your doctor said you don't". I ordered her out of my house and go to her moms.That only lasted one night. That tells you something.
Will be praying and thinking of you.I pray evey night.It gets me through my sorrows.I always add more and more people to my prayers. Everyone has sorrows at times but like you and I we've had our share in just 2 years since our dx.There are others here going thtough some tragic things too and also some adjusting if not for their health but for their family and friends. Cancer is a life changing disease for all of us.Our lives will never be the same.And there will always be some who have to add more.
Please come back and sign in and let us know how you are.Or keep in touch with someone on the Board to let us know.You have our support and we'll be thinking of you. I wish you the very best and I know it will work out. Take care of yourself is NO.1
Lynn Smith0 -
Wish I could give you a great big, warm hug, JoJoKathiM said:You need to do what you need to do.....
We will leave the light on for you!!!!
Hugs, Kathi
You are one of the sweetest people here and I hate that all this is happening in your life. We will pray for your dad and that your daughter will come to you in peace and love with that wonderful grandchild.
As for us--we'll be here for you--just like always. I hope you have someone in your life who you can talk to and get comfort from. If you are a believer--wrap yourself in God's arms and ask for his help. He will listen.
Hugs, Renee0 -
I'm sorry, too!
Jojo, as my sisters have said, you are a beautiful soul and it's so sad that you have all the pain in your life. You have given so much of yourself here and have been an inspiration to many. I, too, can understand taking a break to re-group and re-energize yourself. You are a very strong woman and I know you will be okay. As Kathi said, the light is on, and we'll be here for you when you are ready. Take care of yourself and I am sending love, strength and (((hugs))) to YOU!!0 -
Just an echoMyTurnNow said:I'm sorry, too!
Jojo, as my sisters have said, you are a beautiful soul and it's so sad that you have all the pain in your life. You have given so much of yourself here and have been an inspiration to many. I, too, can understand taking a break to re-group and re-energize yourself. You are a very strong woman and I know you will be okay. As Kathi said, the light is on, and we'll be here for you when you are ready. Take care of yourself and I am sending love, strength and (((hugs))) to YOU!!
I'll be sending prayers your way for strength and peace of mind and whatever else you need. I have to echo the words of others, ditch facebook but consier staying here and just reading the joyful news. That being said, do what you have to and we'll understand.
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You just take care ofchenheart said:Beautiful JoJo~
I know you
Beautiful JoJo~
I know you have been through so much~ I can still remember the horror about Stacy, compounded with the unbelievable news of your still missing friend. As if BC isn't enough for any of us to deal with~ you have been handling so much. ((((((hugs))))))
I can certainly understand your wanting a break from here and FB~ your personal life has been so impacted, and that breaks my heart. I wish I had The Magic to envelop you with love and care, and that you would know that you have a safe place to land.
The thing that stands out to me is the hope that you will take care of YOU~ including spending time with a counselor who can nurture and be a neutral 3rd party for you. You need and DESERVE to be taken care of. I know that all of the Kindreds are worried about you, and we hope that even if you are taking a much needed break, that you will check in with us, or send a PM to someone here you might feel close to. You are a valued family member, and you have given us as much if not more than we have given you. Be well, sweet sister~ and please take care of yourself.
Hugs,
Chen♥
You just take care of yourself Jo Jo. The pink sisters will always be here for you.
Sue
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F/B goneskipper54 said:Just an echo
I'll be sending prayers your way for strength and peace of mind and whatever else you need. I have to echo the words of others, ditch facebook but consier staying here and just reading the joyful news. That being said, do what you have to and we'll understand.
{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}
I think you should ditch f/b and keep us,we can be your support group you've been there for us so many times,stay with us and let us help you.the things happening in your life are horrible and your going to need someone JoJo, i will definitely be praying for you and your family.please keep us posted. we love you. who will you vent to if your not here?.
MOLLYZ0 -
Oh Jojo, I'm so sorry to
Oh Jojo, I'm so sorry to hear all this. I didn't know your Dad wasn't well.. You are both in my prayers and thoughts. But Jojo do you think this is the time to push away?? Please let us help. Don't go Jojo keep talking. Let us cry with you. Listen to you. Talk to you. Don't take this all on yourself. We are all here so that none of us has to take on anything alone. We care let us help OK?0
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