Gift to surgeon - is this appropriate?

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Double Whammy
Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
edited July 2011 in Breast Cancer #1
I was browsing embroidery designs this evening and came across a design titled "A Gentleman and a Robot". See it on my Expressions page.

As most of you know, I had a robotic assisted hysterectomy last year. I've always thought of my gynecologic oncologist as such a gentleman (and a nerd). When I saw this design I absolutely went nuts - it's him! He even has a mustache. I'm thinking of embroidering it on a surgical hat and presenting it to him when I see him again on the 18th. I just don't know if he has the humor to not be offended and/or if a "gift" is even appropriate. A surgical hat brings in the medical part of him and was just the most appropriate thing I could think of to embroider it on.

What do you think? And if I do it, should it be before or after the exam? After I think. He might hurt me if he's embarassed or offended.

Suzanne
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  • Bella Luna
    Bella Luna Member Posts: 1,578 Member
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    Come Bearing Gifts
    Run with it, Suzanne! I think it's a great idea and he will be touched, no doubt! I gave thank you cards to my surgeon and for helping me with my recovery. She was moved and said it( the card) meant a lot to her. My other doctors received thank you cards as well.

    Let us know how it went.
    Ines
  • Chickadee1955
    Chickadee1955 Member Posts: 355 Member
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    Bella Luna said:

    Come Bearing Gifts
    Run with it, Suzanne! I think it's a great idea and he will be touched, no doubt! I gave thank you cards to my surgeon and for helping me with my recovery. She was moved and said it( the card) meant a lot to her. My other doctors received thank you cards as well.

    Let us know how it went.
    Ines

    Go for it, Suzanne. I've
    Go for it, Suzanne. I've seen your work and he will be thrilled!
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
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    Bella Luna said:

    Come Bearing Gifts
    Run with it, Suzanne! I think it's a great idea and he will be touched, no doubt! I gave thank you cards to my surgeon and for helping me with my recovery. She was moved and said it( the card) meant a lot to her. My other doctors received thank you cards as well.

    Let us know how it went.
    Ines

    It is very funny
    Follow your heart. you know him better.
    Good luck
  • jendrey
    jendrey Member Posts: 377
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    New Flower said:

    It is very funny
    Follow your heart. you know him better.
    Good luck

    ...
    I think he might be touched that you think so highly of him, I sure would be! Also, after the exam... =)
  • grams2jc
    grams2jc Member Posts: 756
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    Don't know your surgeon
    But my RO and I had a not so great visit at 1 point where he basically "decreed" what my behavior would be for the next 2 weeks.(I think he was having a bad day) Last week when I only had 2 boosts left and I knew he would be on vacation for my graduation, I took him a bottle of "rare Tennessee whiskey", plus a thank you card telling him that putting up with me earned him a "stiff drink", and a huge bag of junk food and card for the staff (I did check with the staff to make sure he enjoyed an adult beverage now and then) They were all thrilled, including my RO and thanked me in a way that showed they were genuinely pleased. So, my rambling point is...it feels like the right gift, make it for him, and include a note so he knows exactly how the gift is meant.

    I think it's appropriate and envy your talent to make it,

    Jennifer
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
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    Lead with your heart!!!
    Lead with your heart!!! There is absolutely nothing offensive about this thoughtful gift~ and, as I have already been the recipient of a gift with your beautiful embroidery skills...I say DO IT!!!!!Let us know his thrilled reaction...and hopefully a good belly laugh, too!

    Hugs,
    Chen♥
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
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    I bet he will love it! I
    I bet he will love it! I think that it is adorable.
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
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    my beau gets stuff all the time...
    and he really appreciates it!!! Especially when it's hand made!!! I curl up with a handmade blanket one patient made for him with his name on it...he gave her a baby!!!!

    I gave my surgeons each a 5 pound box of Godiva (I am not creative like you, dearheart) with a card saying:

    "I came with a colon, left with a semi-colon, and lost my period...so is my cancer life punctuated!"

    They all loved it (and I got a small box just for my gastric surgeon's nurse...she was wonderful!)!!!!!

    I say Yes! Do it!!!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
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    I think it is a lovely
    I think it is a lovely thoughtful gift, and your work is stunning!

    Hugs,

    Linda
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
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    Gabe N Abby Mom said:

    I think it is a lovely
    I think it is a lovely thoughtful gift, and your work is stunning!

    Hugs,

    Linda

    Ok!
    I'm going to do it. Thanks for the input. I'll post a picture when complete.
    Kathi, I love your punctuation phrase.

    Suzanne
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
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    Double Whammy said:

    Ok!
    I'm going to do it. Thanks for the input. I'll post a picture when complete.
    Kathi, I love your punctuation phrase.

    Suzanne

    I think, if you're happy with someone or someone
    went above and beyond the call of duty, it's always appropriate to give a small token of thanks. After I finished chemo, I baked my med. onc. and onc. nurse (both females)my famous chocolate chip cookies and brought them in each a soy candle with a lovely fragrance. I did not know what to buy for my surgeon (male) so I brought him a batch of the cookies as well. They were all thrilled and I felt good too.

    Hugs, Renee
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
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    missrenee said:

    I think, if you're happy with someone or someone
    went above and beyond the call of duty, it's always appropriate to give a small token of thanks. After I finished chemo, I baked my med. onc. and onc. nurse (both females)my famous chocolate chip cookies and brought them in each a soy candle with a lovely fragrance. I did not know what to buy for my surgeon (male) so I brought him a batch of the cookies as well. They were all thrilled and I felt good too.

    Hugs, Renee

    I gave my caregivers gifts.
    I gave my caregivers gifts. they loved them.
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
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    carkris said:

    I gave my caregivers gifts.
    I gave my caregivers gifts. they loved them.

    If it's in your heart then do it
    Most people think because a dr. makes so much money that should be enough. The drs. that stand out I usually give a card, and a thank you.

    I told my surgeon that he was made to be a surgeon, but more than that he was a wonderful man. He was taken aback, but he was touched. You never know what a kind word or gift will do for someone, yes including drs. Their people to, and deal with emotional issues like the rest of us.
  • mamolady
    mamolady Member Posts: 796 Member
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    Thoughtfulness is never a bad thing.
    It isn't an extravagant gift. Just something thoughtful. I think it sounds perfect!

    Cindy
  • camul
    camul Member Posts: 2,537
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    I would go for it!
    I bet he would love the idea that you thought of him. Lovely idea!
    ~Carol
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
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    camul said:

    I would go for it!
    I bet he would love the idea that you thought of him. Lovely idea!
    ~Carol

    So appropriate -
    A gift coming from the heart, will be treasured by your Doctor. I am sure, he will be tickled pink!

    You are such an Awesome, Women.

    Strength, Courage and Hope.

    Vicki Sam
  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
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    LOVE, love , love it!!
    Suzanne,

    I am sure he will be very touched. What a special gift that would be, in my opinion.
    Personally, I think it would make a fabulous gift!

    Hugs,
    Ayse
  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member
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    Bella Luna said:

    Come Bearing Gifts
    Run with it, Suzanne! I think it's a great idea and he will be touched, no doubt! I gave thank you cards to my surgeon and for helping me with my recovery. She was moved and said it( the card) meant a lot to her. My other doctors received thank you cards as well.

    Let us know how it went.
    Ines

    Great idea Suzanne!

    Great idea Suzanne!
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
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    CypressCynthia said:

    I bet he will love it! I
    I bet he will love it! I think that it is adorable.

    I am sure he will love it
    I am sure he will love it too! What an awesome idea!


    Sue :)
  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member
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    Double Whammy said:

    Ok!
    I'm going to do it. Thanks for the input. I'll post a picture when complete.
    Kathi, I love your punctuation phrase.

    Suzanne

    Glad you're doing it! Can't
    Glad you're doing it! Can't wait to see the pic!

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