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krf's picture
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thanks all for your posts. I will read them all to him when I can. Here is his caring bridge address:


I am updating there. Love and hope to you all and many sparks from Roger


Hi all. Rog hasn't been on much. I am going to copy and paste what I wrote form caring bridge today.

This update is very difficult to post.
The cancer is progressing very quickly and it is definitely taking a toll on Roger.  We began working with hospice last week and they have been helping manage his pain and symptoms.  There are some days that he is moving all day- driving the lawn mower with Owen, sweeping porches, going with me to carpool, etc.  He coached a soccer game last Saturday and we were lucky enough again to see Roger coach Ella and Grace on the same team since Ella’s team was a couple of players short.  There are other days that the fatigue is overwhelming. The last week has been a struggle to get pain under control.

Right now, we have a beach trip planned in a week.  Hospice here is working with us to help make that happen by coordinating with the Cape Fear hospice group.  We will make the decision on the trip at the last minute, or maybe go a couple of days later or come home a bit earlier.  

We are looking for some peaceful days with our children.

I know it is hard for all of us to wrap our minds around this. Roger has fought very hard against this beast. And while we are still hoping for a miracle and appreciate all the well wishes, prayers, and support, I ask that we do not receive treatment advice- traditional or spirtual. After 22 months of research, both on our part and from our medical team, we are confident we have explored all options. And please know that this is not giving up. He is working very hard every day to live and be here with us as long as he can.

I hope he will be able to post again. It is hard for him to stay awake at the computer screen.
Thank you again for all your love and support.


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I just want to say, you are both deciding and doing what you have decided to do. I appauld your right to do what you have decided is best and I would want to do the same for my family. Our thoughts are with you and your family, tho I don't know you all, you might as well be my children and grandchildren.....love to all of you. Pat

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Sorry to hear this, but it sounds as if he is still trying to live a normal life to the extent he can. This is a decision you have both come to and I'm hoping that you can work out that vacation and enjoy getting away for awhile. Hope he too is able to come back on the board.

Thoughts are with you all. Kim

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Hope he still stays with us for long long time! .

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Dear Kim, Roger, and children,

My heart is so full.Please know that I am thinking of you.

In case Roger doesn't feel like coming back to the board I want to take this opportunity to send my appreciation to him.I remember when I first became a member of this board, and how very frightened and frustrated I was. Roger was so very kind to me, as he is to everyone, and he helped me to make sense of all the hell I was going through.You both are, in my opinion, very, very classy people.Thank you.

Love & brilliant sparks coming your way,

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I am sending sparks to all of you. Kim, I admire both of you so much. My love + thoughts are headed to both of you.

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Hi Kim,

Please pass on our warmest regards to Roger. He's been so very helpful to Rick and I over the past year, so please tell him that all of his kind words of encouragement were greatly appreciated. Take care, and best wishes always, Cynthia and Rick

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Thanks so much for the update. Please tell Rog he has been on my mind and he friggin ROCKS!!! I too have appreciated Roger Dodger in sooooooo many ways!!!! Love you Rog!!!


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Thank you for the update. Just let Roger know he's on my mind, and how much I appreciate him being my buddy and keeping people updated during my surgery, he'll always be a hero in my mind for that!!! Love ya Rog!!!
Winter Marie

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I'm wrapping my arms around your beautiful family and sending you aloha filled with the fragrance of flowers. Roger is an awesome man. I hope for peaceful days for you. Please send Roger my warm thoughts.


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Thinking of Roger and your precious family. He is a great guy with such a big heart.

May you all be surrounded by love and peace.


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I am really sorry to hear this- Roger has always been so nice, caring, and helpful to many on the board, including myself.
I do hope that you will still be able to take the family beach trip and enjoy each other as a family.

Warm hugs and thoughts,

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dear kim,

please tell roger that his courage is an inspiration for me, that i am trying to live each day as well as i can in the midst of so much sorrow and joy, but that is the nature of our lives.

if you can give him a smile and a hug and if he looks you in the eye just say that was from pete in sydney with two kids keith 5 and mel 9. tell him i am doing the marathon april 2012 in the relay for life and his name is on my tshirt.

just love him as well as you can as long as you can. if you ever come to sydney i would love too take you around to see the sights with the kids.

love and hugs
your friend pete

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As Barcelona citizen and supporter I dedicate this victory to Roger!.

Take care of you ,take care of him!.

Fight for my love
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Roger is really a hero.Pray for a miracle for you and your family.Take care.

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From one crazy soccer family to another, please let Roger know that you are all in my prayers and will keep the positive vibes going for him to be on the pitch. I have appreciated his humor as well as his candor. Never give up hope for the miracles.

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Oh, dear.

I think I must have had a feeling about this today, because Roger went through my mind when I was at church. I added him in when I did my silent prayers.

I'm so sorry that things have gotten to this point, because Roger is such a dear, dear person. He's fought so hard and exhibited such a wonderful spirit through it all.

Please give him a hug from me. My love and prayers to your whole family.


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I was once told that the greatest victory over cancer was peace.

It is grand that you take the time to keep us here updated, Roger has always been special for me...

Hugs, kathi

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I pray for peace and no pain for him and your family. You all are in my prayers..

God Bless

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that Roger is the "Shizzle" and always will be...he is loved by all that knows him...and Roger, thank you buddy, you are certainly an amazing man..thank you for the update Kim...if you need anything..well you know.......love to all of you...........buzz

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I am so sorry. Thank you so much for the update, I miss him :(

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I am so sorry to hear this. Goodness knows, Roger has fought hard. Please give him my love and let me know if I can do anything. I'm over in Greensboro neighbor if you need anything. Roger is one of my dear buddies and I'd be honored to help.

Lisa P.

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You, Roger, and your children are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Hey Kim:

Thanks for the update on Roger...tell him Sophie thinks of him and roots for him! And I hope you guys can make it to your trip with no hassle and pain. But if not, don't let that let you and the kids down...at least you guys going to spend some nice time together! Please take care!!!

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Love and peaceful times ahead for you, Roger and your kids.

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I am so sad to hear this news Roger has always sent me positive thoughts and helped me with my fight. You guys know whats best for your family and i respect that. You have my well wishes and love as you go through this tough time.

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Sending sparks and thinking of you all..

What is your caring bridge site?

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Kim, Roger, and kids...wishing you so many peaceful sunrises and beautiful sunsets.....more trips than you can possibly hope for.....and no more pain for a lifetime!

Love to you, Gail

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You are an amazing man and your family is beautiful. I'm not really good with words during times like this but you really touched me and supported me from the beginning. Thank You so much from the bottom of my heart You have left an print on my soul and I will smile when a thought of you passes by.

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Just the Best is all - just the best to you!

Enjoy your trip and the time with your family.


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Hoping that you, Roger and your family have the chance to go to the beach and have an easy memorable time.

Praying that Roger can be free of pain.

Hugs to you all,

Marie who loves kitties

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I just wanted to let you know I wish the best for Roger and your family - whatever that may be for you right now. We all know how much research and fighting you have both done, and how much family means to him. He has shared a lot of good information with us that has helped all of us.

I hope that you are on your beach trip enjoying family time, and that Roger's pain is being managed well enough to keep him more comfortable.

krf's picture
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Hi all. Thanks for all your posts. I updated to add his caring bridge site above.
I will read him all the posts.
Love, Kim

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Dear Kim and family, be strong and enjoy every day together. I will remember you in my prayers
Betty Jo

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