Saundra is at peace

saundra
saundra Member Posts: 1,370 Member
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
This is Joe, Saundra's husband. Sandy died peacefully at 1:30 p.m. CST after 27 days in the oncology department and an additional 18 days in the hospice unit. Before she left us, she was visited by all three of our children, their spouses, and all six grandchildren—ages 14-22. Her courageous battle ended just as our younger son and his wife entered her room.

Our faith has made this transition bearable, yet sad to lose the one person whose gracious spirit and candid outlook held us all together.

What I have learned is that being a caregiver is a sacred privilege, the foremost priority, and that all other distractions are unimportant. I've also learned that there is no reason for delayed gratification. If you want to do something, taste something, go somewhere, or be with someone — do it. Build memories and document them with photos and journal entries.

God bless you all. You have made her three years and eight months with this group a source of encouragement, knowledge, and hope.

Joe
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  • rubyslippers
    rubyslippers Member Posts: 53
    Hi Joe,
    It is breaking my heart writing this, but Saundra has her wings now and she is pain free. My mum got her wings 4 months ago, I miss her so much but I know she will never leave me. Saundra will never leave those she cares about but she is pain free now. God Bless Saundra and god bless those that are grieving.

    Rubyslippers
    xxx
  • srwruns
    srwruns Member Posts: 343
    I am so broken hearted.

    I am so broken hearted.
  • clamryn
    clamryn Member Posts: 508
    She left her mark
    I am sitting her crying as I am typing this. This makes me so sad. Joe, please know that Saundra left her mark in this world.... especially with me.

    Linda
  • clamryn said:

    She left her mark
    I am sitting her crying as I am typing this. This makes me so sad. Joe, please know that Saundra left her mark in this world.... especially with me.

    Linda

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  • MK_4Dani
    MK_4Dani Member Posts: 314
    What a beautiful angel
    What a beautiful angel Saundra must be.
    Thank you Joe for the wise counsel. Bless you and your family.
    Fondly,
    Mary
  • vj1
    vj1 Member Posts: 150
    MK_4Dani said:

    What a beautiful angel
    What a beautiful angel Saundra must be.
    Thank you Joe for the wise counsel. Bless you and your family.
    Fondly,
    Mary

    Sad
    Joe:
    I only had a short time of reading and sending posts to Saundra but still knew what a wonderful human being she was. My prayers are with you and your family. Thank you so much for taking the time to send your beautiful message.

    V
  • Tasgirl
    Tasgirl Member Posts: 85
    Hi Joe
    I am so sorry to hear

    Hi Joe
    I am so sorry to hear about Saundra. Thank you for finding the time to fill us in on the sad news.
    Jenny
  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652
    sacred priviledge
    Yes, Joe, being a caregiver is a sacred priviledge, just as each day is a sacred journey. I'm praying that the empty place in your heart will heal in due time, as Saundra watches over you from her new home in heaven.
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
    Barbara53 said:

    sacred priviledge
    Yes, Joe, being a caregiver is a sacred priviledge, just as each day is a sacred journey. I'm praying that the empty place in your heart will heal in due time, as Saundra watches over you from her new home in heaven.

    ((((Joe)))) You have my profound sympathy.
    We share your loss, as Saundra was so special to us here. Your family is in my prayers.
  • eward
    eward Member Posts: 210
    sad
    So sad to hear of the living world's loss of Saundra. She will remain alive in our hearts and minds and in spirit. I remember last spring when Saundra wrote of her desire for her family to reunite in July. So glad she got that wish and probably many others on her journey home. God bless you and your family, Joe. So sorry for your loss.

    Sending a few hugs,
    Eileen
  • zinaida
    zinaida Member Posts: 221
    Thanks Joe for your post. We
    Thanks Joe for your post. We are very sad and scared like everyone. I wish you will be strong to go through this difficult time for you, and all of us to go through with you Zina and Fred. Our love and prayers will be with you and Saundra, all our lives.
  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    DEAREST JOE
    My deepest, deepest sympathy for your untimely loss. I am blessed by the words you have shared of how much Saundra means to you and your family. Please know that she has also meant a great deal to all of us warriors here on this board. Her helpfullness, her upbeat spirit, her words of encouragement, the time she took to share with all of us will not be forgotten. This is such a lovely photo of her, and I believe that at this very moment her smile graces Heaven and she is walking with the Lord in a completely new and healthy body. May God give grace, peace and strength to all of you. And may the memories that all of you have created together bring you joy and strength.
    Monika
  • LuvMyMom3
    LuvMyMom3 Member Posts: 52
    Joe, I am so sorry for your
    Joe, I am so sorry for your loss- as Saundra said, she wasn't in control anymore-God had a better plan in store. She was such an inspiration to us here..and will live in our hearts forever. We were blessed to have chatted with her. She is finally at peace. BIG hugs to you for loving and caring for such a beautiful woman.

    You are in my thoughts, Joe.

    Michele
  • azgrandma
    azgrandma Member Posts: 609 Member
    LuvMyMom3 said:

    Joe, I am so sorry for your
    Joe, I am so sorry for your loss- as Saundra said, she wasn't in control anymore-God had a better plan in store. She was such an inspiration to us here..and will live in our hearts forever. We were blessed to have chatted with her. She is finally at peace. BIG hugs to you for loving and caring for such a beautiful woman.

    You are in my thoughts, Joe.

    Michele

    So sad
    Joe I am so sorry to hear this news
    So grateful for everyone here
  • Cindy Bear
    Cindy Bear Member Posts: 569
    My deepest sympathy
    I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't really "Know" Saundra but it's obvious the ladies on this board loved her and cherished her insight and support. I am sure she will be sorely missed by family and friends. Take comfort in that fact that she is no longer suffering.
    Hugs,
    Cindy
  • djinco
    djinco Member Posts: 87
    May Jesus Grant You Peace
    My sincerest sympathy to you, Joe. Saundra will continue to be an inspiration to those who knew her. Her upbeat personality and faith will be a constant reminder of her joyful spirit. May the Lord be with you and your family.
  • saundra
    saundra Member Posts: 1,370 Member
    mopar said:

    DEAREST JOE
    My deepest, deepest sympathy for your untimely loss. I am blessed by the words you have shared of how much Saundra means to you and your family. Please know that she has also meant a great deal to all of us warriors here on this board. Her helpfullness, her upbeat spirit, her words of encouragement, the time she took to share with all of us will not be forgotten. This is such a lovely photo of her, and I believe that at this very moment her smile graces Heaven and she is walking with the Lord in a completely new and healthy body. May God give grace, peace and strength to all of you. And may the memories that all of you have created together bring you joy and strength.
    Monika

    You were an encourager
    Monika, you meant a lot to Sandy. Early on she relied on you for advice and encouragement. You are special.

    Joe
  • saundra
    saundra Member Posts: 1,370 Member

    ((((Joe)))) You have my profound sympathy.
    We share your loss, as Saundra was so special to us here. Your family is in my prayers.

    You meant a lot to Sandy
    Linda, you were an encourager and source of helpful information for Sandy early in her war with her disease. Thank you.
  • Cafewoman53
    Cafewoman53 Member Posts: 735 Member
    Saundra
    I am so sorry for your loss ! Thank you for your advice, that you are sharing with us at this time of extreme saddness makes your words precious to me.
    Colleen
  • Saundra
    I am so sorry for your loss ! Thank you for your advice, that you are sharing with us at this time of extreme saddness makes your words precious to me.
    Colleen

    :(
    My condolences to you and your family. Saundra was such a beautiful lady, with such a kind spirit , she will be sorely missed by all the women on this board ((hugs)) to you and your family xxx