dad is near the end

LivingFaith
LivingFaith Member Posts: 74
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
Dad made it to his party last night, barely.

He is near the end, the rattle, delirum, and showing other signs.

Please pray for a gentle transition to his next world.

I love him so much!
Deb

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  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,391 Member
    #2
    Prayers coming your way
    Deb,

    I am so happy that your Dad made his party last night. I know you, your family, and your Dad’s friends will look back on that evening with fondness. Your Dad must be a wonderful man to have so many friends wishing to honor him.

    I will be praying for you and your Dad.

    Best Regards,

    Paul Adams
    McCormick, South Carolina

    DX 10/22/2009 T2N1M0 Stage IIB
    12/03/2009 Ivor Lewis
    2/8 through 6/14/2010 Adjuvant Chemo Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU
    6/21/2010 CT Scan NED

    Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
  • sal314
    sal314 Member Posts: 599 Member
    #3
    My Prayers are with You
    What a gift to your dad and everyone that was there to honor him! You will always have those memories!

    My heartfelt prayers for comfort and peace as your dad gets ready to meet the Lord. Though it must be extremely difficult for all of you, may the comfort in knowing you will see him again be of some solace.

    Blessings,

    Sally
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  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #5
    Prayers are offered
    May you be comforted in knowing he knows he is loved and cared for by so many. May his transition be peaceful. Mary
  • 38sallyb
    38sallyb Member Posts: 87
    #6
    My prayers are with you and
    My prayers are with you and your family. You know, he will not be going alone...the angels will come guide him and you will know when that happens. A friend told me this, and it is true.

    The road ahead is different than the roller coaster ride you have been on with this disease. It is not the high highs and low lows to which we have become accustomed. But it isn't an easy road either. I'm finding that each day brings points of joy and sorrow mixed together, so I pray for God's presence to be with you all.
    Sally
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #7
    Hello Deb, I'm so glad your
    Hello Deb, I'm so glad your dad was able to attend his party. I know this was an emotional time for the family, but what a wonderful memory to have.
    I am lifting your dad and family up in prayer, For God to put his arms around you all and give you comfort and peace as your dad goes home to the Lord.
    Sandra
  • nancyann3
    nancyann3 Member Posts: 173 Member
    #8
    sandy1943 said:

    Hello Deb, I'm so glad your
    Hello Deb, I'm so glad your dad was able to attend his party. I know this was an emotional time for the family, but what a wonderful memory to have.
    I am lifting your dad and family up in prayer, For God to put his arms around you all and give you comfort and peace as your dad goes home to the Lord.
    Sandra

    So Sorry
    May you all have peace.
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #9
    nancyann3 said:

    So Sorry
    May you all have peace.

    glad your Dad made the party
    Hi Deb,
    So glad your Dad got to his party and saw all the love and caring and appreciation for what he has accomplished in his life. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go thru the next step to going to our real home. Your love and caring has surely carried your Dad thru.
    Donna70
  • LivingFaith
    LivingFaith Member Posts: 74
    #10
    Donna70 said:

    glad your Dad made the party
    Hi Deb,
    So glad your Dad got to his party and saw all the love and caring and appreciation for what he has accomplished in his life. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go thru the next step to going to our real home. Your love and caring has surely carried your Dad thru.
    Donna70

    dad
    An update.

    Dad has "perked up" some, but not in a good way. He sleeps a lot but when he is awake he is confused, mumbles, and agitated easily. He is so weak, yet he tries to get up and ends up falling. We just can't reason with him, we know that.
    I'm going back to my parents to stay for a few more days. I'm going to help my mom get dad to the doctor and hopefully admitted to the hospital. His wishes were to die in the hospital, not at home, since my little sister did that last summer and he hated seeing her leave in a bag and the feeling it left in the house.
    My mom doesn't want hospice because in their small city their is only one commpany that she doesn't like. Sadly, when you have been through 4 family members passing in the last year and a half, she knows the difference between good and bad hospice care. We have the books and know quite a bit about the grieving process.
    We have also had some beautiful times the last few days. The priest came to the house in the night and blessed my dad, we prayed, and talked about heaven. Dad is at peace with going. I have expressed all the love and admiration I have for him. I love that part. Now it is in God's hands to bring him home.
    Blessings,
    Deb
  • sal314
    sal314 Member Posts: 599 Member
    #11
    LivingFaith said:

    dad
    An update.

    Dad has "perked up" some, but not in a good way. He sleeps a lot but when he is awake he is confused, mumbles, and agitated easily. He is so weak, yet he tries to get up and ends up falling. We just can't reason with him, we know that.
    I'm going back to my parents to stay for a few more days. I'm going to help my mom get dad to the doctor and hopefully admitted to the hospital. His wishes were to die in the hospital, not at home, since my little sister did that last summer and he hated seeing her leave in a bag and the feeling it left in the house.
    My mom doesn't want hospice because in their small city their is only one commpany that she doesn't like. Sadly, when you have been through 4 family members passing in the last year and a half, she knows the difference between good and bad hospice care. We have the books and know quite a bit about the grieving process.
    We have also had some beautiful times the last few days. The priest came to the house in the night and blessed my dad, we prayed, and talked about heaven. Dad is at peace with going. I have expressed all the love and admiration I have for him. I love that part. Now it is in God's hands to bring him home.
    Blessings,
    Deb

    Thank You for Your Update
    I find it quite amazing that people find the time to update on this board in the midst of their ordeals. None-the-less, I appreciate it since I can direct my prayers in a more specific way (not that God doesn't already know), but it makes it easier.

    I'll continue to pray for your dad and your family Deb.

    Blessings,

    Sally
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #12
    LivingFaith said:

    dad
    An update.

    Dad has "perked up" some, but not in a good way. He sleeps a lot but when he is awake he is confused, mumbles, and agitated easily. He is so weak, yet he tries to get up and ends up falling. We just can't reason with him, we know that.
    I'm going back to my parents to stay for a few more days. I'm going to help my mom get dad to the doctor and hopefully admitted to the hospital. His wishes were to die in the hospital, not at home, since my little sister did that last summer and he hated seeing her leave in a bag and the feeling it left in the house.
    My mom doesn't want hospice because in their small city their is only one commpany that she doesn't like. Sadly, when you have been through 4 family members passing in the last year and a half, she knows the difference between good and bad hospice care. We have the books and know quite a bit about the grieving process.
    We have also had some beautiful times the last few days. The priest came to the house in the night and blessed my dad, we prayed, and talked about heaven. Dad is at peace with going. I have expressed all the love and admiration I have for him. I love that part. Now it is in God's hands to bring him home.
    Blessings,
    Deb

    Your Dad
    Hello Deb,
    Thank you for your recent update. I have recently been where you are. You have all done the best you could for your dad. You have crossed all your "T's" and dotted all of your "I's". Now it is in God's hands. I was so touched by Sally's reply. I do believe that the angels bring our loved ones home. I swear, my dad was saying "Mom" right before he died. His mom passed in 2003, and she came to get him. You have given your dad all of your blessings. This has given him the peace he needs to move on. May God grant you all the peace you will all need at this most difficult time. Stay in touch.
    Tina in Va
  • RAE RAE
    RAE RAE Member Posts: 11
    #13
    My thoughts and prayers are
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very difficult time. I am soon to be facing the same with my dear husband. May God comfort you all.

    Robin
  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    #14
    Losing a Father
    is so hard...Both my parents are gone and I still turn to talk to them.

    May our Lord take your father gently in arms and draw him to his eternal love.

    We will pray for all of you.

    orion
  • MRapp226
    MRapp226 Member Posts: 44
    #15
    So sorry...
    Deb,

    I just went through this so I know what you are going through. Stay strong and know that there are so many people here for you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    -Melissa
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    #16
    LivingFaith said:

    dad
    An update.

    Dad has "perked up" some, but not in a good way. He sleeps a lot but when he is awake he is confused, mumbles, and agitated easily. He is so weak, yet he tries to get up and ends up falling. We just can't reason with him, we know that.
    I'm going back to my parents to stay for a few more days. I'm going to help my mom get dad to the doctor and hopefully admitted to the hospital. His wishes were to die in the hospital, not at home, since my little sister did that last summer and he hated seeing her leave in a bag and the feeling it left in the house.
    My mom doesn't want hospice because in their small city their is only one commpany that she doesn't like. Sadly, when you have been through 4 family members passing in the last year and a half, she knows the difference between good and bad hospice care. We have the books and know quite a bit about the grieving process.
    We have also had some beautiful times the last few days. The priest came to the house in the night and blessed my dad, we prayed, and talked about heaven. Dad is at peace with going. I have expressed all the love and admiration I have for him. I love that part. Now it is in God's hands to bring him home.
    Blessings,
    Deb

    one can FEEL the LOVE in your post
    Deb,

    I haven't been on CSN as much lately---very busy with big family and my dad is doing pretty well right now.. I am so saddened to read your post... it is so painful to a loved one fade--it seems that we can never be truly "ready" to let go--- I hate that you all have to go thru this---but reading your post---the LOVE flows out and covers the reader with a a nice, albeit sad feeling.. It is a blessing that you have this time withe him and him with you....

    Bless you all
    Kim

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