Feeling kind of numb

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Mrsbourceforce
Mrsbourceforce Member Posts: 19 Member
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Hey all, I have been thinking about you all and hoping you are doing ok. My husband has Liposarcoma in his leg.. I posted before, but we went to Roswell Park in Buffalo to meet with a Sarcoma specialist. He said the odds are 85 percent that he will be alive in ten years. (5 percent of that is with disease) so 80 percent chance of cure. This was much better than the general oncologist here told us! I'm so glad we went, this doctor really knows his sarcomas! We have decided Jeff will go there for his surgery- probably early December. He will be there for about a week, so I am looking into Hope Lodge-A free place to stay while getting cancer treatment. We live about an hour and a half away. I think it's well worth it to get treated by a specialist..any advantage is worthwhile. It's very weird right now.. Ever since we went there I seem to have kind of lost all feeling.. I'm not scared or crying or anxious.. I'm not sure if it's because I feel like he's going to beat it, or it's a kind of defense mechanism.. Anyone else go through something similar? Who knows, I could be a mess again at some point- probably will, but for now I'm kind of glad my feelings have shut off.. Make any sense?!

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  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
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    New Normal
    Again, here is that "new normal" which seems very un-normal when you experience it.

    Please be gentle with yourself and your feelings. You don't have to justify them to anyone for any reason.

    Why would you not feel like your world has been turned upside down? It has!

    And, yes, sometimes our mind shuts our feelings off because overload is overload and it is the only way it can handle things.

    Hugs to you. Very gentle hugs.
  • AnnaLeigh
    AnnaLeigh Member Posts: 187 Member
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    It offers us a break
    It sounds like you have found the right doctors and the best possible treatments available for your husband. This is always a relief to know that our loved ones are in good hands.

    Sometimes it takes a while for the events and the stress to fully sink into our minds and we just feel numb until that happens. Feeling temporarily numb can be a good thing. It saves our brains from having to process so many implications and decisions all at once and gives us a break so we can catch our breath before facing the new set of problems or solutions.

    Take a deep breath, let yourself be calm and have a chance to relax before treatment begins. It will give you strength for the next round.

    Wishing for the best possible outcome for you, your husband and your family.

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