Update on my mom in ICU

Hi everyone. I wanted to give you all an update on my mom who has been in the ICU since her colostomy surgery on August 20th. She is trached and received her second weekly dose of Cisplatin on Tuesday. She has finally had a slow down in the chest tube drainage and they were able to do the pleurocedesis this week as well. The tubes may come out soon. Her feeds were not going well and she was throwing up. They moved the dobhoff into the intestine which is helping. I wondered if the chemo caused the vomiting. She has been burdened with infections and has very thick secretions in her lungs. She has not been successful on CPAP settings and has required the ventilator. The nurse told me she has tested positive for pseudomonas in her lungs. This worries me greatly. Although her sedation is minimal now, she remains unresponsive. The continued fevers, infection, chemo may all contribute. It continues to be awful and I'm still questioning the futility and suffering issues. I was waiting to visit until she "came to" but am not sure this is realistic. After my workplace was not supportive of what I needed at work to function, I resigned on Tuesday. Sadly, I worked for a hospice organization that should have responded better. Now I am free to head back to Buffalo and visit my mom and try to get information. The palliative care MD signed off the case due to our aggressive goals and I feel abandoned by the one professional that I could reach and talk to easily. I feel so sad for my mom. It is Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters time and she needs to wake up and start watching. My father thinks her problems are largely due to the hospital. He wants to move her to a cancer hospital nearby. I think it is too late and he is bargaining. Im not even sure she would be accepted elsewhere. What do you all think? It would require a new medical team and oncologist. Thanks for the support and understanding. Wendy