37 and my life has been turned upside down in less than two monthes

sohardbnme
sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
May 24- Went to a GYN appointment and doctor found lump.
June 2- Breast ultrasound and Mammogram, discovered two clusters of microcalcifications in left breast
June 9 - Met with Breast surgeon
June 16- Stereotypic Biopsy
June 21 -Diagnosis: 06/21/2010, DCIS, Grade 3 & IDC, Stage II, Grade 2, PR+ HER2+ER+
June 30- Lumpectomy, 2 cancerous lymph nodes removed
July 7 -Pathology report stated 11/13 positive lymph nodes; in addition, my margins are not clear.
July 14 - Met with medical Oncologist, he wants me to start chemotherapy before another lumpectomy or mastectomy surgery. He gave me a BCRA test.
Additionally, I am scheduled for a PET scan Tuesday July 20, 2010 and Port/ Shunk insertion for chemotherapy Monday July 26.



UUUGGGHHH...This is alot to take in...My head is spinning...

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  • Balentine
    Balentine Member Posts: 393
    #2
    That is definitely alot to digest
    in a short amount of time. I am so sorry that you have so much on your plate right now. Take a deep breath and know that God is with you through this time and He is a peaceful refuge to resort to for strength, comfort and peace. From all you have stated it sounds to me that mastectomy would be your best option but you have to have a peace about doing that within yourself. I will be praying for you and hoping that these steps to your recovery will all go well and that you will be find your strength in God and feel His presence. God bless you and your family.
    Lorrie
  • missingtexas
    missingtexas Member Posts: 146
    #3
    I am 38 with stage 3 breast
    I am 38 with stage 3 breast cancer. I did my chemo first to try to shrink the tumor (8.8 cm). I have one more chemo treatment next week, a modified radical mastectomy at the end of August, 6 1/2 weeks of radiation and then hopefully some reconstruction. I will pray for you.
  • smalldoggroomer
    smalldoggroomer Member Posts: 1,184
    #4
    Your not alone.
    I felt the same way very overwhelmed. It does get easier and clearer as time goes by. Do you have a support team? We are always here for you anytime. I wish you all the best and peace. Take care and keep us posted. Take care Kay
  • tjohnson2310
    tjohnson2310 Member Posts: 168 Member
    #5
    Diagnosed at 32
    I felt the same way. I even got frustrated when things were moving slowly...test after test before a treatment plan... But I remind my self I am fighting this disease... It is a rigorous process of healing. Keep the faith and express your feelings both negative and positive....It helps with emotional healing.
  • MNLynn
    MNLynn Member Posts: 224
    #6
    I was diagnosed . . .
    at the beginning of January this year . . . I spent at least the next 4 months in the "twilight zone" - in a place I had never been before and never would have imagined even existed. I felt like so many things were just spinning out of control all around me. I probably would have felt that way for even longer, except that I ended up not getting chemo . . . which I was actually scheduled for and thought, for a month & a half, that I would be getting.

    You are feeling what anybody, I'm guessing, would at this point with all that you have going on. It definitely turns one's world upside down. Things will eventually calm down, sooner than later, I hope. It's a scary time . . . and, yes, it all happens SO FAST.

    I hope you will draw strength from the support that you have here - from others who know what it feels like to go through this.

    Praying that your treatments go well . . . remember that you are not alone - we're here for you and with you.

    Thoughts & prayers . . .

    ♥ Lynn ♥
  • laurissa
    laurissa Member Posts: 773
    #7
    It takes time
    Treating cancer is a long process. So much waiting and worrying involved. I've been through it all, chemo lumpectomy radiation. It really does get better, just try to stay positive. Good wishes.
  • ScubaGirl
    ScubaGirl Member Posts: 32
    #8
    I'm 36 and was diagnosed in may...
    I did think I would get this so early and understand how you feel. It sucks plain and simple, but there is hope. I'm early stage triple negative so our schedules will be different but we will get through it. I wish you all the best.

    Xoxo, Erin
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #9
    ScubaGirl said:

    I'm 36 and was diagnosed in may...
    I did think I would get this so early and understand how you feel. It sucks plain and simple, but there is hope. I'm early stage triple negative so our schedules will be different but we will get through it. I wish you all the best.

    Xoxo, Erin

    My experience was very similar to MNLYNN .. twlight zone,
    in a fog - bumping into walls -- It is the worst feeling in the world to me, not to be in control of this beast! Having to be available 24 hours a day - changes in my appointments, treatments and surgeries .. Hate it!

    Be kind to yourself, and hold our doctors - Oncologist, Breast Cancer Specialist, Plastic's or general Family Care Physician .. accountable... If something does add up, or make sense to you .. ask for clarification - question procedures and testing.. Make sure you are a part of the decision making .. It is you body ...


    Good Luck,

    Vicki Sam
  • lolad
    lolad Member Posts: 670
    #10
    Sorry
    That you are going through so much, all of us sisters have been there and im glad you are here now too. This site has been my rock and has helped so much. For me i was diagnosed on April 10, 2009. It was a month before i saw the breast surgeon, but once that appointment happened, it felt like i was at a dr everyday. Just try to take it one day at a time. It is alot to have to endure and go through and you will be very busy and get tired of it. But look at it this way, after your next appointment, you are one step closer to being free. Fight and stay strong.

    Take care
    Laura
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
    #11
    lolad said:

    Sorry
    That you are going through so much, all of us sisters have been there and im glad you are here now too. This site has been my rock and has helped so much. For me i was diagnosed on April 10, 2009. It was a month before i saw the breast surgeon, but once that appointment happened, it felt like i was at a dr everyday. Just try to take it one day at a time. It is alot to have to endure and go through and you will be very busy and get tired of it. But look at it this way, after your next appointment, you are one step closer to being free. Fight and stay strong.

    Take care
    Laura

    Your are right Laura
    I do feel stronger after each appointment...I get port in Monday...And the following Monday I start chemo...I am ready...I am ready to get it all over with...
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
    #12
    ScubaGirl said:

    I'm 36 and was diagnosed in may...
    I did think I would get this so early and understand how you feel. It sucks plain and simple, but there is hope. I'm early stage triple negative so our schedules will be different but we will get through it. I wish you all the best.

    Xoxo, Erin

    when were you diagnosed...
    I wish you the best...We will persevere...
  • survives
    survives Member Posts: 254 Member
    #13
    sohardbnme said:

    Your are right Laura
    I do feel stronger after each appointment...I get port in Monday...And the following Monday I start chemo...I am ready...I am ready to get it all over with...

    Good thoughts go with you
    and many prayers for smooth treatments. Fists up!
  • canjuncutie
    canjuncutie Member Posts: 131
    #14
    survives said:

    Good thoughts go with you
    and many prayers for smooth treatments. Fists up!

    im 43
    got the word july 16 2010 thing been screwed up. got toldn i be losing a breast by supportn that was offer evn beforen i had a surgoen appt which is this mon. i need to speak with who has gone though losing abresst they tell me imn stage 2. i ask and get to questions they dont know the answers. people are treating like I dont know anything. I come out of a medicail background.they also say i facing chemo.
  • pinkkari09
    pinkkari09 Member Posts: 877
    #15
    I want to say welcome and
    I want to say welcome and rest assured you will find many answers here. Sorry you had to join this site but know there are many loving/caring people here who have many experiences, strength and hope to share with you!!
    Hugs
    ~Kari
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
    #16
    VickiSam said:

    My experience was very similar to MNLYNN .. twlight zone,
    in a fog - bumping into walls -- It is the worst feeling in the world to me, not to be in control of this beast! Having to be available 24 hours a day - changes in my appointments, treatments and surgeries .. Hate it!

    Be kind to yourself, and hold our doctors - Oncologist, Breast Cancer Specialist, Plastic's or general Family Care Physician .. accountable... If something does add up, or make sense to you .. ask for clarification - question procedures and testing.. Make sure you are a part of the decision making .. It is you body ...


    Good Luck,

    Vicki Sam

    I never knew half these doctors exist
    Scuba,It is a whirlwind...I read over my pathology reports with a fine tooth comb...i take a notebook to appointments...Vick, I want it over...
  • lolad
    lolad Member Posts: 670
    #17
    pinkkari09 said:

    I want to say welcome and
    I want to say welcome and rest assured you will find many answers here. Sorry you had to join this site but know there are many loving/caring people here who have many experiences, strength and hope to share with you!!
    Hugs
    ~Kari

    Keep your head up
    How are you doing? I got my port out yesterday and am getting ready to get my boobs finally on August 12th. As long as my blood work turns out ok. Just thinking of you. It will soon be a memory. Im praying for you.

    Take care
    Laura
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
    #18
    lolad said:

    Keep your head up
    How are you doing? I got my port out yesterday and am getting ready to get my boobs finally on August 12th. As long as my blood work turns out ok. Just thinking of you. It will soon be a memory. Im praying for you.

    Take care
    Laura

    I am so happy for you...
    Laura,
    You give me Hope...What type of reconstruction are you getting...
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
    #19
    canjuncutie said:

    im 43
    got the word july 16 2010 thing been screwed up. got toldn i be losing a breast by supportn that was offer evn beforen i had a surgoen appt which is this mon. i need to speak with who has gone though losing abresst they tell me imn stage 2. i ask and get to questions they dont know the answers. people are treating like I dont know anything. I come out of a medicail background.they also say i facing chemo.

    I have to make a decision about my breast
    Can,

    My margins are not clear after lumpectomy... Now I must decide between a mastectomy or another lumpectomy...
    Since my pathology report showed 11/13 lymph nodes...My Med Onc said I need chemo before the next surgery...so I have a few months to decide...Please keep me abreast of your thoughts and the things you learn...

    I am stage two too...

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