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Shayenne
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My internet and phone may be getting shut off today, so I just wanted to let you all know that instead of you all worrying that something happened to me, I'm ok, and not in a hospital, and just having financial difficulties like the rest of the world, and being honest, but I will try and get to the library now and again to check the site, so if my phone doesn't get turned on by the holidays, I hope all have a Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year! I Love You ALL!!!!

Hugsss!
~Donna

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johnnybegood
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donna im sorry to hear the news we are in the same boat just barely keeping things going Merry Christmas to you and you family...Godbless...johnnybegood

dorookie
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Can I send a gift for them, PM me ages and what they might like.

Beth

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CanadaSue
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Donna,

I am sorry to hear of your troubles. Can I help you out? Just let me know.

Merry Christmas, & A very Happy New Year!

(((((HUGS)))))

Sue

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KathiM
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Can I help?

PM me if you want...you have been thru enough this year!!!

Hugs, Kathi

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Nana b
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Can I send a gift for Christmas for the kids, what would the kids like? Please PM and let me know!!! I have been blessed not to have to worry about money, so let me help out, or I will just do it!

Johnnybegood the same goes for you, please PM me.

dorookie
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I have been very blessed this holiday season and I would love to help you. You really have been through so much. Please PM me, I want to help....

I was going to just donate money this year, but I would much rather it go to one or two of my family members here, so please let me help....

Love ya
Beth

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KathiM
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We are family here....

In asking for help, my battle with the beast taught me, I became stronger, not weaker...

Hugs, Kathi

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KATE58
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Donna,
sorry to hear that
I've been there.
pm me your address
here or on FC
Don't want to lose touch

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just4Brooks
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Let me know if I can help in any way I can

Brooks

khl8
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Let me know if I can help you keep your phone on, I may not have a lot but something will help, just pm me your address.
Kathy

AnneCan
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Donna,

I am sorry to hear that. Thanks for letting us know. If there is anything I can do to help let me know. I love your posts; they really encourage a lot of people! you also have a great sense of humour. Take good care!

dorookie
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Help so many people, we really need to keep you around this holiday season. Lets keep your phone on....will that allow you internet access?

Beth

khl8
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Donna,
Please, please let us help, I agree with Beth!
Kathy

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geotina
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Oh Donna I am so sorry this economy is hitting you so hard with Christmas and the kids and all. I always look forward to your posts, you always lift my spirts if I am feeling down. Please check in with us when you have time. In the meantime, have a blessed Christmas/Holiday season. Fighting this disease as hard as you are is the best present you could give anyone. Take Care - Tina

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Donna
(CRYING !!!!!!!!) NO JOKEING
I will miss you
You gave a lot of yourself to help and understanding us if there anything that I can do I will
Please don't be to P_______ to ask I don't no why but I can't spell it
you know what I am talking about I'll pray for you and your family

Love you Donna BIG HUGSSSSSSS Mike

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grammadebbie
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Dearest Donna,

You are so precious to us all I don't think we can make it thru Christmas without you. I am not in the position to help financially but I see that many would like to help. If you could let us know how much it would be to keep your phone and internet on maybe some can contribute and get it paid. Everyone wants to help and asked what they can do.If you would please let them pay your phone bill we will all be blessed. If I had any $ I would pay it. I pray that you will allow the help if it is offered. I know it is hard to ask so I will do it for you. Please let us know how much your bill is. Lots of Hugs,

God Bless You,

Debbie (gramma)

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Shayenne
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You all are such a generous family, but there is no way in heck I can have people pay my bills, I would feel so guilty, my hubby went on early unemployment to help take care of me, he has been with me to every appointment, through thick and thin...and now we're feeling it, I already told my kids Christmas will be light this year, they understand, they're just happy having me here still :) and I'm so happy to be a part of this beautiful family, I think hubby will ask his mom for money, but doesn't want too...he is depressed, and has been just laying around all day and night, I know he feels like he's the breadwinner, and is helpless now.

You all just brought me to tears, I just didn't want you worrying about me being in a hospital, I shouldn't have the phone turned off long, his mom hates not being in touch with us, it's just our cable, phone and internet is the same bill, and we're a couple months behind, his unemployment wont kick in for another few weeks due to a stupid waiting period they have to go through, so this month, until our taxes come back, will be a killer.

Don't be sad or worry about me, I know you all are fighting this too, and have your own dealings on as well, I couldn't accept money and stuff though, I'd feel really bad, but really, we're ok, we've gotten through this before, just not while I had cancer, and I feel bad that hubby stopped working early because of me as it is. I will be trying to still get on here at the library, as long as they don't repossess my van! LOL!

Hugsss and I really love you all, now I'm going to go cry more!

~Donna

khl8
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Donna,
You know that if you were in the position to help someone you would in a minute. Many of us here can only offer words of wisdom and kindness and some of us can offer more. Remember the saying "Pay it Forward"? I sure would like to see if this really works. I know many of us can use all the good vibes we can get. Don't think of it as accepting charity, it is not that, it is an expressio of love and gratitude. Please rethink your no answer. what better gift could I give someone?
Kathy

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grammadebbie
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Dearest Donna,

I truly understand how you feel, yet you need to learn to receive. You are a very giving person and now it's time to let someone be blessed by giving to you. It all works out, they bless you and we are all blessed by you being able to stay on the forum. If you don't tell us the amount of your need then I'm sure people will just send something. It would be so much easier if you just let us know. It is very important for all of us to have this forum to stay in touch with each other. I really do understand but encourage you to let someone be blessed by helping you.

My husband and I are going thru similar trials. We have lost our house(long story), sold our furniture, turned in my car but still feel blessed to be here. It has been difficult to have to let people help, we were used to being the givers. Don't steal someones blessing by not letting them help you. I am so happy to be alive and have such a wonderful family. All the things that really matter (family, friends,faith etc.)are still here. I'm blessed to be here.

Please don't deny us the blessing of having you on this forum. Learn to receive. Hugs

God Bless You,

Debbie (gramma)

Update--Who said anything about repaying anything. Remember the saying, Its better to give than receive. Please don't deny anyone the blessing

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daydreamer110761
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I guess I am echoing everyone here - but so sorry to hear that. I don't have much, but if you could PM me also, I can send something! The doctor bills can wait!

As things are hitting everyone hard this year, those of us with these huge doctor bills are really getting socked in the but! I took my chances going to PA, and am thankful my kids are grown up to understand. My oldest drove from Maine and met us in PA to some home with us. His car needed repair for the drive, and he only had 8$ with him. We forked out an extra 3-400 to fix his car, pay for gas, tolls, and food on the way. He has been out of work for over a year and living with friends and in a tent - lol he liked that but it's cold in Maine now! Everything he owned fit inside his subaru. We are working on finding him a job and his wardrobe stinks!

Unfortunately, we were depending on Christmas bonuses at work for gifts, only to find that the company isn't giving them this year (I think I hit the hard with health insurance!). So, looks like there isn't going to be a big anything here this year. The biggest bummer is that I have to put the tree away too - the new kitten is ruining it!

Keep your head up Donna, it will get better. If you need anything call me!

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kapper48
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Donna, Here is my e-mail patkapper@jbmarineco.com please respond with your address so I can help.
Pat

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dianetavegia
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DONNA, do you have a Paypal account where folk could send donations?

Some utiliies cannot be shut off if there is someone in the house with health issues.

Safelink will provide a free cell phone for low income or those getting food stamps or some other aide. Sign up online and a free phone with about an hour a month is mailed to you within days.

The Community Action Agency will pay a set amount for electric in the summer and heat in the winter, once a season.

The agency that provides food stamps offers a onetime TANF temporary aide in the form of cash for those out of work, etc.

I've been trying to help a educationally challenged local couple and this is what I'd found so far.

Hope you can find some help. We WILL miss you!

Diane

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Shayenne
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Thanks for that, we've asked for assistance before, but apparently, my hubby makes 29 dollars too much to get food stamps, and since we own a 2005 Kia van, we don't qualify for anything, believe me, we've tried, but here we put money in the system, but when you really need some help as well, it isn't there for you.

I don't go to churches, and I don't like asking people for money. We got into this, we gotta get ourselves out of it. My hubby works as a highway construction worker, paving roads, so there is no work for them in the winter, they get laid off in the winters, and back to work in like March, living on unemployment, which still doesn't make ends meet, but it's higher than minimum wage, and too much too get financial assistance, even though it really isn't that much, it's crap. With his pay, we aren't considered low income.

Thanks and I'll miss you as well girl!

Hugsss!
~Donna

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Donna
You know that I love ya but maybe you should let us talk to HUBBY WES
Don't get mad at me there is some of us that is doing ok on this earth
I will not give my information on the post but it would not kill our out of pockets money
DONNA PLEASE LET US TALK WES TO LETTING US HELP THINKS OF US AS YOUR FAMILY AS WELL
WHAT WILL IT TAKE THINK OF IT AS FAMILY HELPING FAMILY

start a prepay visa and let us send to that

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Shayenne
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I wouldn't get mad, Wes is just not feeling great now, Diane I don't have Paypal, never liked attaching to my bank account idea, it was scary to me.

Mike, If it will make you feel better as well, I won't take the money, because I won't be able to pay it all back at once, I'd have to pay alittle at a time, and I would want to pay it off, not just take it as a handout, I know some folks are doing good on this earth, we were, till last year, doing ok, up to a couple months ago, things do pile up fast, but you have my address still, don't you? Thanks for everything Mike, you been a joy on here to me, and I really love you and appreciate you! we are a family, and I love you all.

Hugsss!
~Donna

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geotina
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People are not offering you a handout. They are giving you a gift. Please do not consider it a handout, it is not. Living in Michigan I know how hard the midwest has been hit. Our unemployment is now at about 20% and Ohio is right beind us. Please throw your pride out the window and accept the gifts with the love that is behind them. One day in the future when things are brighter, you can help someone else, be a part of the circle. Tina

dorookie
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Gifts are not paid back, I am just thankful I am in a position that I can offer something. Like I said I was going to donate money anyway, would rather see it go to a family member here....So there your not the BOSS OF ME....LOL

Love ya
Beth

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mcsauder
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Donna
I will send to home and don't you sweat over any pay back I'm glad to help

Hugs mike

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ittapp
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Hey Donna, I know how you feel, you and I are in alot of simular boats both healthwise and financially, even the hubby's feeling depressed over change in income. I have had to put my pride aside and let my Church family provide meals. My kids know it will be a very light Christmas and are ok with it like your kids. My point is let people help you, they are offering and it comes from the heart. If this could make your holiday memories special LET THEM DO IT! You are so loved by this board and offer so much to all of us! I love you and Happy Holidays to you and your family. Oh and by the way Sir Spheres is referred out by your Oncologist, it's not a second opinion so to speak, ask your Dr. about referring you to an Interventional Radiologist to see what he can do. I still have alot to do to get to this point in January. Love You, Patti (sorry the last paragraph is from another post that you posted about it being a second opinion)

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A very good longtime friend of mine called me after my dx and asked to stop and see me. She said she had something she wanted to drop off.

I was keeping my friends and family updated with a daily mass email (I later switched to CaringBridge - much easier). My oncologist said I needed a PET scan to check what my CT scan (before dx) saw on my liver. I agreed this was very important. After it was scheduled they called me and told me they had cleared it with my insurance and my portion due was $480, and to bring it in cash, check or credit card when I came. After surgery, the slowest month ever for my business (at the tailend of the worst year financially), I did not have the money to get the PET scan. I was upset. Normally they accept what insurance pays, and then bill us for the balance for medical bills. I figured I'd have some time, and if necessary make payments.

My friend came over and gave me a "lecture" first. She told me how awful she felt hearing my dx- and how hard it was for her not to know how she could help me. She said it bothered her a lot. Then she was so happy to know how she could help. She asked me to please let her do what she could because it would make her feel better and not so helpless. She gave me $500! Her family does well financially, so it was not a hardship for her.

Normally I could never have accepted this. But I realized that it isn't always about the receiver. Sometimes it is about the giver. And my friend really needed to be able to do this for me. I gave her a gift by accepting.

I didn't cry at my dx, or surgery or anything. The first time I cried was when she gave me that money.

So, my advice to you (you always have such wonderful advice for the rest of us), is to give your friends a gift; accept the help offered to you. Let them feel better and not so helpless. I know how hard it is. But I did it. If I can, you can.

donnare
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Sorry to hear you have to deal with financial issues too, especially around the holidays. Let everyone help Donna - we're all just returning the favor. You give so much to others with your kindness, compassion, and courageous example.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and the New Year brings a miracle of healing for you. You are always in my prayers!

(((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))),
Donna

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Shayenne
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....I love helping people! usually we're the ones donating to Toys For Tots and The Salvation Army, and The Veterans, now we're in this really hard position where it happens around the holidays, and that has never happened to us before. I am usually shopping for the kids right now, and now I can't even pay a few stupid bills. They are a couple months behind, too much to ask for, too much to even want to take from anyone, you all are really generous, I just don't know what to do anymore. I know I don't want anyone's money though. I'm glad we were able to pay the electric before that cut off. Unemployment sucks, and you're right Patti, the economy sucks, there are no jobs around here, my daughter can't even find a job, a bunch of her friends can't, who are in college, and some who even have graduated and have degrees now, can't find a job either.

Thanks for the post of the Interventional Radiologist, I may ask my onc about it, I go for chemo next week and we'll see what she says about the spheres. Sounds like it hurts LOL

I will be talking soon! wow....they haven't cut me off yet!!

Hugssss!
~Donna

jen58
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Donna--

pls let people help you -- by coming here to let people know you will be offline and worried that people would worry unless you said something, just shows how much you all need each other -- i am a caregiver, but going thru similar financial problems, but have been able to stay afloat with my job and hubby's unemployment

i can honestly say that while i've had no interaction with you before, your presence would be sorely missed -- your photo brings a smile to my face with every post and I too would worry about you

i hope you change your mind and let the people that NEED you around the most, help you!

hugs

jen :)

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Donna,

I am going to be straight with you. Let everyone who can do so help you. We have all been in the position of needing some sort of help from friends and family - and make no mistake, we are your family! So suck it up and take what is offered. It's just another hump to get over.

We love you and we take care of our own. And remember - I have your address! LOL!

Vicki

khl8
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I work for the cystic fibrosis foundation, My son has cf and if I have learned anything from working here is that all it takes is one person who wants to help another and the world is a much better place. Life should be about giving, whether it be through words or even monetarilly. Somehow a bunch of strangers have ended up here in the same boat, and if we don't throw each other a life preserver once in awhile, what kind of survivors would we be? Life if full of choices and the way that I see it is that if I can help make someone's day better, then I want to do it. It is my choice and i feel better knowing I can make a small difference. I am fortunate to have a job right now and terrific benefits so my medical bills are non existant.
May all your holidays be bright and filled with love!
Kathy

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sfmarie
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Is learning to accept help from others too! I think you have been a tremendous inspiration to everyone here and I seriously think you should be a Colon Club Calendar Girl!
Now, we all want to help. Can you set-up a Pay Pal account so we can send donations? Sometimes, lots of small donations add up to a big fat check, so you won't feel bad if 100 people gave you $10 bucks! I would love to donate and for you to buy a little extra present for yourself and your kids! Maybe a warm space heater!
Marie

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Hi Donna,

I'm sorry to hear of your financial difficulties- truly. Thanks for letting us know about the phone and internet being shut off though, because we probably would worry! It is definitely so frustrating and lousy that even when people truly are in need, that they're denied help because they happen to own a house and/or vehicle. People on this site are so wonderful to offer financial help. I will definitely be keeping you and your family in prayer. Definitely check in as often as you're able through the library or friend's internet access.
Do take care and "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" & take comfort in that those at the very first Christmas didn't have much of anything either but God saw them through it all.

Hugs to you,
Lisa

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pokismom
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Hi Donna,
Please le me know too if there is anything I can do for you, you are as everyone has said a very special person! Part of giving is learning how to accept help also! Let me know!
Thinking of you......
Donna

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I'm wondering if you have taken advantage of the program the cancer society has that will reimburse you up to $250 for gas to go to and from chemo or to hospitals. It does not have to be one pop, but can be accumulated over time. Please check into it if you haven't already. There isn't an income level that you have to be under.

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Hi Nana,

This would be great information to share with everyone. Could you post another thread about this so that everyone who may be in need (now or in the future) will be aware of this? Not everyone will read this specific thread and see it here.

Take care-
Lisa

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mcsauder
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Nana b
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someone else did already...thanks!

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Steve Z
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For the most part I'm a read only member. I've posted a few times when I needed the help of friends that understand what I'm going through. You responded to my first post 2 days after diagnosis. I was scared and lonely and needed comforting. You paid that bill for me, and many of your post to others have also comforted me. You need to let us pay you back and selfishly let us make sure you're there for us through the holidays.

Julie 44
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Hi Donna,
My husband also does construcion and paving roads too...He also gets laid off every year at Thanksgiving and goes back in late March early April...So I know exactly what you are going through..If I can help in any way just PM me and let me know..Hang in there cause believe it or not money problems have become the lesser of all the problems cause ya know what??? We come into this world broke and we will leave this world broke because of the MONSTER in us...So I have to stop worring about it because WE are ALIVE!!!!!!!
Happy Holidays and try to keep your chin up( I know it sucks but its better than the alturnative....JULIE

Fight for my love
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Dear Donna,we love you too.We all struggle with life in one way or another.As a new immigration to the U.S,I don't have a job.My poor hubby has to work no matter how sick he feels, otherwise we will be in trouble.Today is his chemo day,but after we were back from the hospital,he still had to deal with all the phone calls from the customers.Last weekend we had to drive through the snow from Canada all the way down to NH for almost 8 hours.I am so heartbroken.I wish my hubby could just stay at home and rest,but life doesn't work out this way.Dear Donna,I wish you and your family merry Christmas and happy new year.You are your family are in my prayers.Best wishes to you.

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karguy
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I'm sorry to hear about your problems,if I can do anything to help please let me know,Happy holidays.

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Annabelle41415
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I'm thinking of you and your family. I am so sorry that you are going through this financial difficulty. This is probably the worst time of the year that this could happen, but I am so glad that you let us know because we would have been wondering about you and if you were ok. I'm glad that you are ok, but sorry about this. Let me know if I can help. You will continue to be in my prayers and thoughts.

Hugs! Kim

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usakat
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Oh, Donna. I'm so sorry about your struggles. Actually I can relate, being a career commercial construction project manager. I was laid off from lack of work, then we moved to the Florida Keys, but there is no large scale construction going on here. Bob and I are getting by, but we've scaled way back and now enjoy a simpler life - it's all good. We have love in our lives, and wonderful family and friends, and I am immensely happy and grateful.

Dear, sister, you have lovingly given so much to everyone here - folks here would like to give back to you. Giving and receiving - receiving and giving - it's a beautiful circle of friendship and fellowship. Sharing giving and taking enriches the soul. Please let us help!

Sending you, your husband, and your kids endless blessings for love, comfort, healing and peace this holiday season, and may those blessings continue throughout the new year.

You are loved!
Katie

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