Bad News

melissaincali
melissaincali Member Posts: 34
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Not feeling up to posting all the specifics, but you can read about what happened during surgery yesterday at http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/brantwalton

Any thoughts/ideas as to what we should do next is appreciated.
Melissa

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  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    #2
    I am truly sorry the surgery
    I am truly sorry the surgery did not go as hoped. Please know that I am thinking of you & your family, and hope that your husband's doctors will come up with a great treatment plan.
  • just4Brooks
    just4Brooks Member Posts: 980 Member
    #3
    So Sorry
    Hi Melissa, I'm so sorry to hear the news that things didn't go well during surgery. I wish I had a answer for you on what to do next but I dont and it pains me that I dont have a answer. One thing I can say is to be there for him and love on that little boy of his eveyday. Be strong and remember you guys are in my thoughts

    Brooks
  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625 Member
    #4
    warm thoughts and prayers
    Hi Melissa,

    I'm sorry to hear what was found during your husband's surgery. I also sent you a PM- so you may want to check that.
    Have they ever discussed a peritoneal chemo wash? I'm not sure on the spelling, but it's a heated chemo that they bathe your abdominal cavity with for a few minutes (1/2 to an hour, I think). I would ask about it & inquire elsewhere if they don't do it where your husband goes.

    Do take care-
    Lisa
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #5
    lisa42 said:

    warm thoughts and prayers
    Hi Melissa,

    I'm sorry to hear what was found during your husband's surgery. I also sent you a PM- so you may want to check that.
    Have they ever discussed a peritoneal chemo wash? I'm not sure on the spelling, but it's a heated chemo that they bathe your abdominal cavity with for a few minutes (1/2 to an hour, I think). I would ask about it & inquire elsewhere if they don't do it where your husband goes.

    Do take care-
    Lisa

    Melissa
    I am so sorry that they found other problems i know exactly how you are feeling . I hope he feels better soon and my thoughts are with you and your family.

    michelle
  • Kathryn_in_MN
    Kathryn_in_MN Member Posts: 1,252 Member
    #6
    So sorry
    I'm sad surgery didn't go as planned. Right now Brant needs to focus on healing from the surgery. While he is healing you can explore other options.

    Your family is in my prayers.
  • luv3jay
    luv3jay Member Posts: 533 Member
    #7
    I'm sorry to hear that
    I'm sorry to hear that Brant's surgery didn't go as expected. Fortunately, there are more treatments available to us these days so there is always hope! We are all praying for you and your family!

    -Sheri
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #8
    Sadness
    I am so sorry the surgery did not go as you would have liked. It seems you just can't catch a break. You are at one of the best hospitals so hopefully they will come up with a new treatment plan in the coming days. We are new in our journey here so I don't have anything to offer by way of treatment. Please know that you are in the thoughts, prayers and hearts of the people on this board. Tina
  • Fight for my love
    Fight for my love Member Posts: 1,522 Member
    #9
    Hi Melissa,the news really
    Hi Melissa,the news really breaks my heart.I hope your husband have a quick recovery from the surgery.There is always hope.Take care.
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    #10
    Praying for you
    I just signed the guest book, and you and Brant will be in my prayers.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • mom_2_3
    mom_2_3 Member Posts: 953 Member
    #11
    Thoughts
    Melissa,

    Your family is definitely in my thoughts and prayers. I don't have anything substantive to add to what has already been mentioned (such as HIPEC). The only thing I can offer is that you all remain in my prayers.

    Amy
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #12
    Melissa
    Dear Melissa,
    I am sorry to hear about the cancer they discovered during Brant's surgery. I have read his Caring Bridge site and you are an amazing family with so much love and strength surrounding you. I am praying for your wonderful (and very funny) husband. Let all your family and friends love on you.

    Prayers and aloha to you,
    Kathleen
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #13
    Sorry
    So sorry to hear of what they found in surgery. I hope that they discuss alternative options for you. Thinking of you all.

    Kim
  • sfmarie
    sfmarie Member Posts: 602
    #14
    Heart Breaking
    News. However, don't lose HOPE! My sister was dx 03/09. You can read it under my profile. She also has mets to liver and peritoneum. She was to undergo liver resection but cancelled due to it spreading to lymph. Now, after 3 months on avastin, her abdominal tumors are no longer showing up on the pet scan and the lymph node activity and liver tumors have died and/or shrunk! They have gone 180 degrees in optimism and her onc. thinks after 6 more months of this regime, she can have rfa or resection on her liver.
    I don't know where you live (is is really CA?) I can point you to all the specialists we have seen in CA.
    Happy Holidays and all my prayers to your beautiful family. Your caring bridge brought tears to my eyes, it is soo eerily familiar. Marie
  • Patteee
    Patteee Member Posts: 945
    #15
    hi melissa
    one arm casted
    hi melissa

    one arm casted and in a sling and i suck tying onr handed

    i want you guys to know that DAMNI*Tall came out of my mouth when i read of the cancer spreading. this is so not fair (like cancer ever is?)- but also want you to know and believe the time you seek can be had- don't give up on that, brant, will, you, your marriage, your family, your friends, all of the sunrises and sunsets ahead- they are all worth it and worth going to battle for.

    thanks for letting us share your journey with you if only in a small way.
  • cyndi2324
    cyndi2324 Member Posts: 72
    #16
    I am sorry your husband's
    I am sorry your husband's surgery didn't go well. You all will be in my prayers. I have no answers to your question. I'm at stage 4 more surgery won't help and because I'm a kras mutant no chemo has worked. My Dr. has gotten me into a phase 1 trial at www.startthecure.com that is what I'm doing. My best to your family.
    Cyndi
  • pf78248
    pf78248 Member Posts: 209
    #17
    So Very Sorry
    Melissa,

    I too am the wife of a stage 4 colorectal cancer survivor and I was so saddened to read the post of your husband's recent surgery. You, your precious son, and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers. I was so touched by the caring bridge site at how special your husband is and how wonderful you, your son, and your family and friends are. I have no advice to give but I am sure you are at one of the very best places you can be for expert care.

    Warmist wishes for a better future.
    Priscilla

    Husband David dx 4-08 stage 3C, now stage 4 with one bilobular met to the liver, due for resection at MD Anderson 12-21-09.
  • robinvan
    robinvan Member Posts: 1,012
    #18
    Hi Melissa
    Thank you for posting the link to Brant's Caring Bridge site. It sure sounds like you are surrounded by love and support in New York.

    Tough news on the cancer spread. What's next... I think Ryan said it well in one of his recent posts... Recovery and healing from the surgery will be the immediate priority. Sounds like you are in New York for another couple of weeks. No doubt that will also give some time for the team at Sloan Kettering to consider some options.

    I'm so sorry it wasn't better news.

    Peace and blessings... Rob; in Vancouver

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