IF I GIVE UP WHAT KIND OF SISTER WILL I BE

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SMILES1001
SMILES1001 Member Posts: 23
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
thanks you guys have been so helpful to me despite your own personal issues. im so greatful for this opportunity. but maybe your right i guess when the time is right she will tell hell it took her 4 months to tell me she has cancer i guess another 4 to tell me the rest. I hate to close this case but im working with nothing besides you lovely strong women. Im tired of playing private eye it just makes me feel weaker everytime i hit a dead end corner but i can tell u guys this we are only 27 years old in the prime of our lives bestfriends since out the womb we always had secrets but we always shared them with each other. for my sister to keep this a secret means its way more than meets the eye thats why im so worried. but i called her today to check up on her and she said she was feeling pretty bad stomach was hurting i asked her did she take the antibotics that doc prescribed you know what she said... No i dont want 2 they make me feel like a zombie! I was lost for words i have a million thoughts going through my mind and of course all bad. Could my baby sister by approx 2 mins apart be given up the fight before it even starts.

she has to start chemo and all she says is my hair and how she wont be beautiful to her husband! How can i trust her to go to her appointment tomorrow. i dont want to be so hard on her because i think thats why she is keeping it a secret from me because she knows ill be right on top of her. i dont know im so weak....

IM CRYING HYSTERICAL RIGHT NOW I FEEL LIKE I HAVE THIS MONSTER!

YOU WOMAN ARE SO STRONG HERE I AM HEALTHY ACTING AS THE WORLD IS COMING TO AN END AND I READ YOUR POST OF COURAGE AND STRENGTH..... IM JUST REALLY EMOTIONAL RIGHT NOW IM SEARCHING FOR THE WHY AND WHAT AND THE ONLY PERSON THAT CAN TELL ME WONT ( MY OTHER HALF ) LITERALLY MY TWIN~

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  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
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    GIVING UP
    I surely don't think you should give up, just give it a rest. And maybe you can tell your sister about this website so that she might want to visit sometime. It might eventually lead to her realizing there are others experiencing this as well, and she can get some peace in all of this. In turn, she might open up to you.

    I'm so sorry, I wish I had some more answers for you. You know your sister best - just follow your heart.

    Hugs and Prayers,
    Monika
  • SMILES1001
    SMILES1001 Member Posts: 23
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    A FORMER POST
    'I would have done anything for one more day with my husband and family. I'm gonna leave this world kicking and screaming and if someone I loved was giving up, I'd drag their butts kicking and screaming, too!'

    I agree im not going to lay off of her im going to get the answers and im going to get them today.

    i cant remeber the name of the person who said that but thanks for that because im heading to sisters house now and i plan to do some serious talking.

    thanks guys but i need to rest i need to sleep and since i found out this whole mess i lost weight cant sleep cant even smile when i should i have to get closure and today is the day.

    wish me luck no matter how it goes at least i know and at least i can help my sister my twin..
  • paula2
    paula2 Member Posts: 162
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    SMILES1001 said:

    A FORMER POST
    'I would have done anything for one more day with my husband and family. I'm gonna leave this world kicking and screaming and if someone I loved was giving up, I'd drag their butts kicking and screaming, too!'

    I agree im not going to lay off of her im going to get the answers and im going to get them today.

    i cant remeber the name of the person who said that but thanks for that because im heading to sisters house now and i plan to do some serious talking.

    thanks guys but i need to rest i need to sleep and since i found out this whole mess i lost weight cant sleep cant even smile when i should i have to get closure and today is the day.

    wish me luck no matter how it goes at least i know and at least i can help my sister my twin..

    I wonder if this the first stages of shock for both of you.
    As time passes, you can depend on things changing. You and your sister will not always be in this high emotional chaotic state and will start to see some things you can do. Approaching the big picture every day would exhaust anyone. As you are able, you will break up the big problem of cancer into smaller, what first?, what can I do now? kinds of questions. There are resources from American Cancer Society telephone operators to friends and family who may have some experience or suggestions to offer..and many, many more. Groups are forming in towns of any size. Find support everywhere you can.
    You can best help your sister by starting to learn about what you can do or need to do next. My partner needs constant reassurance that I am okay. I'm not always able to give him that..and we both get scared. But if he holds my hand and says I'm here for you, I love you....that is everything. It is also in the moment, because the moment changes..and fortunately, we do too.
    Prayers and good thoughts to you and your sister.
  • kris43
    kris43 Member Posts: 275
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    take a deep breath
    Everyone deals with the news they have cancer in a different way. Your sister is in denial right now and that will get her no where. I hope you really did go to her house to confront her - and if she STILL decided not to give you details then at least you did everything you could. I believe it is now in your best interest to gather information for yourself - so that you know the signs of ovarian cancer, talk to your own doctor, be sure to get your check ups, maybe look in to genetic testing, etc. Life is going to be hell and unsettled and unnerving and scary - but it does continue to go forward - with or without your sister telling you everything. She needs you. At least if you have information for yourself - when she does decide to talk you will know what she is talking about.

    Take care and please let us know how it goes. You are all in my thoughts.

    Kris

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