Raise a Glass to my BC sisters...or not?

I think the latest revelation has to do with the over use of alcohol and not the occasional cocktail or Wine with dinner/friends/family.
I did do the libations before cancer, so then I now occasionally I think conflictingly I caused my own cancer problems. This is during a very low self confidence between zero to three self rating. or so.
HOpe this does not sound too goofy.

I was also a fruit, veggies, and exercise nut. Still do 2 out of the 3. Heeheeeheee. I do some exercise but not as I used to do. Since cancer,lots and lots of things changed, as we all know.

Yes some days I want to do everything perfectly to stop the reccurance if possible to fend it off again. (it would be the 3rd time if happened again).


I do think about it in conflicting manner and occasionally still have a wine with dinner out. I think there is nothing wrong with having a spirit of wine or other during the holidays! I think that is very normal and that is what we all want to be as normal with the rest of our surroundings and families, friends.etc.

Here is to you or should I say:
Here's looking at you! Happy Thanksgiving.
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year.

Take care and ease up on your conflicted thoughts.
roxanne53

In my limited research and experience, I do not think anyone has convinced me yet that there is anything we can do or not do to guarantee that we will get cancer, not get cancer, not get it again, or whatever. There are no guarantees! My Sister used drugs, alchohol, and tobacco as a teenager and young adult. She stopped all of it cold turkey, except for a daily glass of red wine when she became pregnant. At that point she became a near-total vegetarian (still the occasional fish and dairy). When that child was a teenager she got breast cancer. She was a survivor for 6 years on earth, now she is cancer free in heaven. I have never smoked or done illegal drugs, and have only had the occasional wine cooler or spiked punch on holidays with family. I have been moderately healthy in my diet (I'm about 60lb overweight and do enjoy red meat and fried foods and fast food restaurants weekly, along with my stir-fry veggies and salads). Guess what? I have breast cancer! If hers was caused by the smoking and alcohol, what was mine caused by? If mine was caused by the poor diet, what was hers caused by? If I become a teetotalling vegetarian, can you tell me conclusively that I will not have a recurrence? From what I read and hear from Drs, the answer is no.

So...I still have not answered your question. Basically, my motto is "everything in moderation". If you enjoy a glass of wine (or whatever) when you celebrate, do it! You have a lot to celebrate...You are not dead yet! I don't think you are jeopardizing your chances any more than the rest of the folk are. If it helps you feel a part of what's going on, and if it gives you a chance to relax, the lower stress and positive feelings will counteract whatever negative effect there may be. There is a lot of evidence that laughter and a positive attitude go a long way to helping people with many different medical conditions.

Have a thankful Thanksgiving
Have a Christ-filled Christmas
Have a Happy Hannukah
Have a sensational Celebration of whatever type you choose.

seof

Claudia
I agree with everyone - I don't drink at all and here I am. I can't believe they're talking about the occasional drink or even the occasional wild night out, so I say enjoy!

I personnally have an almost unnatural fear of dairy products and chickens!! I stick with Organic Dairy, eggs and chicken (don't eat much meat). I'm terrified of feeding my cancer with the hormones that they give the cows to produce more milk and the hormones in the feed that they give the chickens. I don't care about the rest of my food, or alcohol but regular dairy products just plain scare me.
CHEERS!
She

Before BC, I drank and smoked. I'm not ashamed to say that I had a blast in my 20's and early 30's, and -- after all that's happened -- I'm glad I did. Did drinking and smoking cause me to get my BC DX at age 34? I'll never know. I'm adopted, so I have no family history to base that factor on.

What I do know is that all the girls that were drinking and smoking with me in their 20's and early 30's, didn't get DXed with BC. It's a crap shoot. We can sit around and second guess our past and current life styles and tear ourselves apart or we can just live. I choose to just live; however, in more moderation.

I say, have the drink, Ms Claudia. If it weren't so early, I'd have one with you!

Hugs,
Kim

Claudia,

The way I see it is drink and be merry. Live everyday to your fulless.

Cheers to ya.

Jackie

chenheart said:

You know the old saying "You can't pick your family, but you can pick your Friends?" You women are such incredible friends~and I am so honored to have met you. I must say that I'm not too crazy about the venue, but you honor me, humble me ( when I need it!!!) make me laugh, and mostly, you all let me know that I am ALIVE and a SURVIVOR, with much to celebrate.
Thanks for your sage words; you have no idea how much I love hearing your take on all of my inane ramblings. You have no doubt saved me untold millions in therapy expenses!
Hugs,
Claudia

I'll DRINK to that! You gals are all right on, eat, drink and be merry.....we've been thru enough and to sit and have a glass of wine with friends or family....well that isn't going to make or break us. I don't drink to excess (anymore) but my friends come by and bring their fav wine and we pour a glass and toast to "good health and good friend" so enjoy, and Happy Thanksgiving to all you Americans, we've had ours here in Canada. God bless us ALL!