Ok All...

Shayenne said:

Hi Diane!!
Thanks for that, we've asked for assistance before, but apparently, my hubby makes 29 dollars too much to get food stamps, and since we own a 2005 Kia van, we don't qualify for anything, believe me, we've tried, but here we put money in the system, but when you really need some help as well, it isn't there for you.

I don't go to churches, and I don't like asking people for money. We got into this, we gotta get ourselves out of it. My hubby works as a highway construction worker, paving roads, so there is no work for them in the winter, they get laid off in the winters, and back to work in like March, living on unemployment, which still doesn't make ends meet, but it's higher than minimum wage, and too much too get financial assistance, even though it really isn't that much, it's crap. With his pay, we aren't considered low income.

Thanks and I'll miss you as well girl!

Hugsss!
~Donna

WHAT WILL IT TAKE
Donna
You know that I love ya but maybe you should let us talk to HUBBY WES
Don't get mad at me there is some of us that is doing ok on this earth
I will not give my information on the post but it would not kill our out of pockets money
DONNA PLEASE LET US TALK WES TO LETTING US HELP THINKS OF US AS YOUR FAMILY AS WELL
WHAT WILL IT TAKE THINK OF IT AS FAMILY HELPING FAMILY

start a prepay visa and let us send to that

Shayenne said:

Hi Diane!!
Thanks for that, we've asked for assistance before, but apparently, my hubby makes 29 dollars too much to get food stamps, and since we own a 2005 Kia van, we don't qualify for anything, believe me, we've tried, but here we put money in the system, but when you really need some help as well, it isn't there for you.

I don't go to churches, and I don't like asking people for money. We got into this, we gotta get ourselves out of it. My hubby works as a highway construction worker, paving roads, so there is no work for them in the winter, they get laid off in the winters, and back to work in like March, living on unemployment, which still doesn't make ends meet, but it's higher than minimum wage, and too much too get financial assistance, even though it really isn't that much, it's crap. With his pay, we aren't considered low income.

Thanks and I'll miss you as well girl!

Hugsss!
~Donna

Hey Donna, I know how you
Hey Donna, I know how you feel, you and I are in alot of simular boats both healthwise and financially, even the hubby's feeling depressed over change in income. I have had to put my pride aside and let my Church family provide meals. My kids know it will be a very light Christmas and are ok with it like your kids. My point is let people help you, they are offering and it comes from the heart. If this could make your holiday memories special LET THEM DO IT! You are so loved by this board and offer so much to all of us! I love you and Happy Holidays to you and your family. Oh and by the way Sir Spheres is referred out by your Oncologist, it's not a second opinion so to speak, ask your Dr. about referring you to an Interventional Radiologist to see what he can do. I still have alot to do to get to this point in January. Love You, Patti (sorry the last paragraph is from another post that you posted about it being a second opinion)

Shayenne said:

WoW!
You all are such a generous family, but there is no way in heck I can have people pay my bills, I would feel so guilty, my hubby went on early unemployment to help take care of me, he has been with me to every appointment, through thick and thin...and now we're feeling it, I already told my kids Christmas will be light this year, they understand, they're just happy having me here still and I'm so happy to be a part of this beautiful family, I think hubby will ask his mom for money, but doesn't want too...he is depressed, and has been just laying around all day and night, I know he feels like he's the breadwinner, and is helpless now.

You all just brought me to tears, I just didn't want you worrying about me being in a hospital, I shouldn't have the phone turned off long, his mom hates not being in touch with us, it's just our cable, phone and internet is the same bill, and we're a couple months behind, his unemployment wont kick in for another few weeks due to a stupid waiting period they have to go through, so this month, until our taxes come back, will be a killer.

Don't be sad or worry about me, I know you all are fighting this too, and have your own dealings on as well, I couldn't accept money and stuff though, I'd feel really bad, but really, we're ok, we've gotten through this before, just not while I had cancer, and I feel bad that hubby stopped working early because of me as it is. I will be trying to still get on here at the library, as long as they don't repossess my van! LOL!

Hugsss and I really love you all, now I'm going to go cry more!

~Donna

Be Blessed- update
Dearest Donna,

I truly understand how you feel, yet you need to learn to receive. You are a very giving person and now it's time to let someone be blessed by giving to you. It all works out, they bless you and we are all blessed by you being able to stay on the forum. If you don't tell us the amount of your need then I'm sure people will just send something. It would be so much easier if you just let us know. It is very important for all of us to have this forum to stay in touch with each other. I really do understand but encourage you to let someone be blessed by helping you.

My husband and I are going thru similar trials. We have lost our house(long story), sold our furniture, turned in my car but still feel blessed to be here. It has been difficult to have to let people help, we were used to being the givers. Don't steal someones blessing by not letting them help you. I am so happy to be alive and have such a wonderful family. All the things that really matter (family, friends,faith etc.)are still here. I'm blessed to be here.

Please don't deny us the blessing of having you on this forum. Learn to receive. Hugs

God Bless You,

Debbie (gramma)

Update--Who said anything about repaying anything. Remember the saying, Its better to give than receive. Please don't deny anyone the blessing

grammadebbie said:

Be Blessed- update
Dearest Donna,

I truly understand how you feel, yet you need to learn to receive. You are a very giving person and now it's time to let someone be blessed by giving to you. It all works out, they bless you and we are all blessed by you being able to stay on the forum. If you don't tell us the amount of your need then I'm sure people will just send something. It would be so much easier if you just let us know. It is very important for all of us to have this forum to stay in touch with each other. I really do understand but encourage you to let someone be blessed by helping you.

My husband and I are going thru similar trials. We have lost our house(long story), sold our furniture, turned in my car but still feel blessed to be here. It has been difficult to have to let people help, we were used to being the givers. Don't steal someones blessing by not letting them help you. I am so happy to be alive and have such a wonderful family. All the things that really matter (family, friends,faith etc.)are still here. I'm blessed to be here.

Please don't deny us the blessing of having you on this forum. Learn to receive. Hugs

God Bless You,

Debbie (gramma)

Update--Who said anything about repaying anything. Remember the saying, Its better to give than receive. Please don't deny anyone the blessing

Update
Update

Shayenne said:

It's A Hard Position...
....I love helping people! usually we're the ones donating to Toys For Tots and The Salvation Army, and The Veterans, now we're in this really hard position where it happens around the holidays, and that has never happened to us before. I am usually shopping for the kids right now, and now I can't even pay a few stupid bills. They are a couple months behind, too much to ask for, too much to even want to take from anyone, you all are really generous, I just don't know what to do anymore. I know I don't want anyone's money though. I'm glad we were able to pay the electric before that cut off. Unemployment sucks, and you're right Patti, the economy sucks, there are no jobs around here, my daughter can't even find a job, a bunch of her friends can't, who are in college, and some who even have graduated and have degrees now, can't find a job either.

Thanks for the post of the Interventional Radiologist, I may ask my onc about it, I go for chemo next week and we'll see what she says about the spheres. Sounds like it hurts LOL

I will be talking soon! wow....they haven't cut me off yet!!

Hugssss!
~Donna

have to agree with everyone else
Donna--

pls let people help you -- by coming here to let people know you will be offline and worried that people would worry unless you said something, just shows how much you all need each other -- i am a caregiver, but going thru similar financial problems, but have been able to stay afloat with my job and hubby's unemployment

i can honestly say that while i've had no interaction with you before, your presence would be sorely missed -- your photo brings a smile to my face with every post and I too would worry about you

i hope you change your mind and let the people that NEED you around the most, help you!

hugs

jen

Shayenne said:

It's A Hard Position...
....I love helping people! usually we're the ones donating to Toys For Tots and The Salvation Army, and The Veterans, now we're in this really hard position where it happens around the holidays, and that has never happened to us before. I am usually shopping for the kids right now, and now I can't even pay a few stupid bills. They are a couple months behind, too much to ask for, too much to even want to take from anyone, you all are really generous, I just don't know what to do anymore. I know I don't want anyone's money though. I'm glad we were able to pay the electric before that cut off. Unemployment sucks, and you're right Patti, the economy sucks, there are no jobs around here, my daughter can't even find a job, a bunch of her friends can't, who are in college, and some who even have graduated and have degrees now, can't find a job either.

Thanks for the post of the Interventional Radiologist, I may ask my onc about it, I go for chemo next week and we'll see what she says about the spheres. Sounds like it hurts LOL

I will be talking soon! wow....they haven't cut me off yet!!

Hugssss!
~Donna

Everyone
I work for the cystic fibrosis foundation, My son has cf and if I have learned anything from working here is that all it takes is one person who wants to help another and the world is a much better place. Life should be about giving, whether it be through words or even monetarilly. Somehow a bunch of strangers have ended up here in the same boat, and if we don't throw each other a life preserver once in awhile, what kind of survivors would we be? Life if full of choices and the way that I see it is that if I can help make someone's day better, then I want to do it. It is my choice and i feel better knowing I can make a small difference. I am fortunate to have a job right now and terrific benefits so my medical bills are non existant.
May all your holidays be bright and filled with love!
Kathy

pokismom said:

Help
Hi Donna,
Please le me know too if there is anything I can do for you, you are as everyone has said a very special person! Part of giving is learning how to accept help also! Let me know!
Thinking of you......
Donna

CS
I'm wondering if you have taken advantage of the program the cancer society has that will reimburse you up to $250 for gas to go to and from chemo or to hospitals. It does not have to be one pop, but can be accumulated over time. Please check into it if you haven't already. There isn't an income level that you have to be under.