I Upset the Wife Today

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  • hopeful and optimistic
    hopeful and optimistic Member Posts: 2,339 Member
    ejn said:

    Although it might be true
    Although it might be true that the wife suffers too all my wife wants to do is complain about how everything affects her. I have to disagree and say right now one week before surgery it is more about me than her and I cant stand to hear it. It is getting pretty bad and I doubt that she will even pick me up at the hospital. I know I cant leave without a ride and they wont let me leave in a cab. I have no family or freinds here since I have lived here for a short time. I wonder if there are any services available for a ride home from the hospital.

    I hope that you get support,
    ........you can contact the social worker at the hospital........and explain your situation.....there are other men who regularly have operations, and do not have support...... the hospital can make arrangements.

    I hope that you wife will be there for you.

    Ira
  • lew_in_marietta
    lew_in_marietta Member Posts: 14

    I'm pretty new to this, but
    I'm pretty new to this, but I'm already having disagreements with the wife. I've always gone out of my way to keep from upsetting her, but this is too important. It's my cancer and I'm going to make the decisions.

    Having said that, my sister-in-law's friend has started taking a supplement that he says completely stopped all his hormone side effects. I'm sure it's been mentioned here before, but I'll find out tomorrow and post it.

    Lew

    Forget the supplement
    I'm sorry I posted about this supplement before researching it. His wife is a distributor for a pyramid type line of products and I don't think the claims are credible.

    Lew
  • GatorDad
    GatorDad Member Posts: 6
    Wife
    You're sorry you upset your wife because you told her how you felt about your treatments? Dude - perhaps a testosterone shot instead?

    My wife found incontinence and ED too much to deal with and left. Take care of yourself. If your wife supports you great, if not, do what you need to do.
  • Trew
    Trew Member Posts: 932 Member
    GatorDad said:

    Wife
    You're sorry you upset your wife because you told her how you felt about your treatments? Dude - perhaps a testosterone shot instead?

    My wife found incontinence and ED too much to deal with and left. Take care of yourself. If your wife supports you great, if not, do what you need to do.

    I know some times we have no
    I know some times we have no other choices, but to suffer with the physical stuff you have and have your wife runoff- you are one tuff dude, fella.

    This PC thingie is no easy cancer- I can see that more and more every day.

    And I sure would like a few shots of testosron- maybe a double!
  • GatorDad
    GatorDad Member Posts: 6
    Trew said:

    I know some times we have no
    I know some times we have no other choices, but to suffer with the physical stuff you have and have your wife runoff- you are one tuff dude, fella.

    This PC thingie is no easy cancer- I can see that more and more every day.

    And I sure would like a few shots of testosron- maybe a double!

    not tuff
    Not tuff at all. Like everyone else here, I have no choice in the matter. The wife was (is) an alcoholic. My condition was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

    Bottom line: do what's best for your own health. It's OK to try to involve those around you and it's OK to seek their advise and counsel. However, making any medical choice based on how it effects others is an exceptionally bad idea. This is one of those times in life where *you* have to put *you* first.

    cheers & beers,
    Chris