update on husband (Kapper48)

carriek05
carriek05 Member Posts: 7
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
I am dropping a little note because Pat has been driving me absolutely crazy about getting on here because he wants me to tell everyone hi and wants to tell you all that he hopes everybody is doing good and he is thinking about you all.
As you may have noticed, he hasn't been on here in quite a while. He's been in and out of the hospital since the beginning of January with one problem after another. He's actually in the hospital again now and has been since Friday. Losing alot of weight, vomitting for the past two weeks, and in a lot of pain. They're working on getting everything under control but it's been a slow process.
I don't want to sound ignorant, but I probably won't be posting on here for a while. To be quite honest, I just don't have the time to sit down and type everything that is and has been going on with him the past couple of months. Between trying to take care of my house, my animals, my kids and Pat I just don't have the energy to do it. I have to keep up with his caring bridge site otherwise my phone rings non-stop with people wanting to see how he is doing and to sit and type all that and then come here and type the same thing is just too much for my brain right now as my brain is just fried.
If any of you are interested in keeping up with him or sending him a little note here and there, you can go to his caring bridge site. I try to update it daily or at least every other day. You can go to www.caringbridge.org and then type in patrickkapper where it says "enter site name".
I want to say thank you to all of you that have been there for him over the past couple of years. He really cares alot about all of you. He makes me get on here every single day to read your posts to him so we'll still be lurking in the background to keep up on everything that's going on with all of you. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers and know that although he hasn't posted in a while, he is thinking about you all every day.
Well wishes to all - Pat and Carrie

Comments

  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625 Member
    hello
    Hi Carrie,

    Crud! I was wondering how Pat was doing & am so sorry to hear that he (and you) has been having such a rough time- I'm really sorry to hear it. Please know that I think about you and Pat and I will be praying. I completely understand how it's tiring and overwhelming to write out what's going on, then feel you have to do it all over again on another site. You've got so much going on- you just need to give yourself the time and attention to yourself and you need rest too, or you'll end up getting sick or something.
    I will plan on checking his caringbridge site, as you suggested.

    Take care & God bless you both-
    Lisa
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    Hi Pat and Carrie
    Pat, you and family come first. Thank you for the update.
    I hope he gets out of the hospital and back to feeling good as can be as soon as he can. It's a rough road but it's not something he can't do!
    Wishing the best for you both.
    -phil
  • dianetavegia
    dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
    Carrie and Pat,
    I've been concerned and watching for an update. Thanks for the link to the Caring Bridge site!

    Hope Pat is much better and back to posting again soon!

    We miss you,
    Diane
  • coloCan
    coloCan Member Posts: 1,944 Member

    Carrie and Pat,
    I've been concerned and watching for an update. Thanks for the link to the Caring Bridge site!

    Hope Pat is much better and back to posting again soon!

    We miss you,
    Diane

    Sending positive thoughts to you and Pat
    Do what you need to do; never been to Caring Bridge site, maybe I'll try it. Wishing Pat less pain and more success in his fight and hoping you don't burn out trying to manage everything.....Steve
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    Pat, Carrie & Family
    I think of you and your family daily and check your caring bridge site when I sit down at the computer in the evening after work. Tell Pat I have it my favorites. Everyday I keep hoping that if they can get that darn pain under control then Pat would finally start to turn the corner on the rest of it. It is so hard to fight when you are in in a lot of constant pain. From our family to yours, we wish you the best. Carrie, I am very even tempered and it takes a lot for me to get angry but, if it was my George, and he was in the pain Pat is in, I think I would grab that doctor and tell him unless you want to sing like a soprano, do something and do it now. Take care - Tina and George
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    geotina said:

    Pat, Carrie & Family
    I think of you and your family daily and check your caring bridge site when I sit down at the computer in the evening after work. Tell Pat I have it my favorites. Everyday I keep hoping that if they can get that darn pain under control then Pat would finally start to turn the corner on the rest of it. It is so hard to fight when you are in in a lot of constant pain. From our family to yours, we wish you the best. Carrie, I am very even tempered and it takes a lot for me to get angry but, if it was my George, and he was in the pain Pat is in, I think I would grab that doctor and tell him unless you want to sing like a soprano, do something and do it now. Take care - Tina and George

    Tell
    Pat that i am thinking of him and wishing him a speedy recovery.

    michelle
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    Pat and Carrie :)
    Thanks Carrie for the update!

    You've got a lot of plates in the air alright - I hope Pat will be feeling better very shortly and that things will ease up some for you guys. Thinking of you both :)

    -Craig
  • Crow71
    Crow71 Member Posts: 679 Member
    Pat and Carrie - Thanks for
    Pat and Carrie - Thanks for the update. I'm sorry to hear of all your troubles, but I know you will come out of this just fine. Post here when you can, but don't worry about not posting. Take care of you and yours first. Just know that we're all here for you. Sending you sparks of healing.
    Roger
  • sfmarie
    sfmarie Member Posts: 602
    Carrie
    I am sorry you are carrying such a heavy load. You are a great support and wife to Pat, and I love that you read him these posts daily. That just breaks my heart, this journey everyone is on here is so heartbreaking. I pray Pat gains his strength again, begins eating, stops vomiting, and is out of the hospital soon. YOU also need to take care of yourself. Perhaps someone from your community or family can step in for a day or a few hours and you can get some much needed rest. I want to thank you for keeping us posted and responding to my PM. You are in my prayers.
  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    Hi Carrie,
    Thanks so much

    Hi Carrie,

    Thanks so much for taking time out of your crazy schedule to update us. I am so sorry Pat is having a rough time; I have been wondering how he is doing. I hope he is feeling better soon!
  • Fight for my love
    Fight for my love Member Posts: 1,522 Member
    You and your family are in
    You and your family are in my prayers.I hope everything will be under control soon.Take care.Wish you all the best.
  • dorookie
    dorookie Member Posts: 1,731 Member
    Please Tell Pat
    to stay strong and get better soon. I will be praying for him and for you Carrie, you are such a wonderful and strong woman, with alot on your shoulders. Please take some time to take care of yourself as well.
    God Bless you
    Beth
  • idlehunters
    idlehunters Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    dorookie said:

    Please Tell Pat
    to stay strong and get better soon. I will be praying for him and for you Carrie, you are such a wonderful and strong woman, with alot on your shoulders. Please take some time to take care of yourself as well.
    God Bless you
    Beth

    Hey Pat!!!
    I hope you are feeling better soon. We have all been wondering about your status.... Thank you Carrie for the update. We miss you Pat!!!! Get well!!

    Jennie
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    So sorry
    Hi, Pat and Carrie.

    I'm sorry things are so rough. I'll be praying that things improve very soon.

    I think you're absolutely right to back down from posting right now. You have much bigger fish to fry. Thanks for the caringbridge info. We'll try to keep up with y'all there.

    You're in our thoughts...

    *hugs*
    Gail