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chenheart
chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
So many new ones have joined our family of Kindred Spirits lately~we sigh that you have had to find us, but of course welcome you with open ♥

You may have noticed, or even posted about the fact that many of our friends, family members, co-workers and neighbors just don't "get it" and make what seem to be ( and sometimes ARE!) insensitive, rude, and dismissive comments about us and how we look, etc.

You don't know me well, but if you hang around the boards long enough,you will notice 2 things about me~I "steal" quotes that I like and apply them to our lives regularly, and I also liken our lives to books/movies! Who knew we would be Stars?! :-) And today, we are friends and schoolmates with no less than Harry Potter and Hermione and the entire gang!

So~ welcome to CSN, also known as Hogwarts~ the boarding school for witches and wizards! Like you, we were truly surprised when we realized that we would be leaving the lives we had known to enter a place so strange and unknown to us. Upon arriving, we were shocked to see how many witches and wizards already live here~ we thought it would be a tiny place, and that we would be isolated and alone. But No! Freshman, Sophomores, Juniors and Seniors, along with a host of professors surrounded us. Though it was frightening being the new one, we looked to the upperclassmen, those graduating, wondering if we would ever survive the curriculum.

Eventually, we settled in, and made good friends with other witches and wizards! Turns out, it's alot like any old school, after all! We know who the smart ones are, the social butterflies, the competitive one, the shy ones, the troubled ones, etc. We come into "home room", say hello to everyone, and hang out with our friends!

Our aforementioned families/friends/coworkers who don't "get it" are, of course, The Muggles. It isn't their fault~they are not part of the Hogwart student body and they really don't know quite how to relate to us. They look at us through different eyes, they are a bit afraid of us, puzzled by changes they see in us, and they want us back the way we were BEFORE we were tapped by the faculty at Hogwarts. Some of our Muggle family members are proud of the achievements we make, and they don't mind meeting our classmates. But some...well, they distance themselves and can't bring themselves to stay connected . It is discouraging...

So, take your seat here at Hogwarts! Know that those here with you are very much like you in ways you never imagined. You are indeed different, but that doesn't make you any less valuable. Educate yourself while you are here,and join in with the extra-curricular activities ! We exchange holiday ornaments, we celebrate birthdays, we visit each other, and most of all, we communicate and connect in important, life-long ways.

Oh, and feel free to borrow the notes and books you find here~ we are all willing to share what we learned in the previous semesters!! Asking questions and copying is actually encouraged!

Hugs,
Chen♥
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  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    Sounds like the beginnings
    Sounds like the beginnings of a book or movie perhaps???? You never cease to amaze me, Claudia. Very nice welcome and introduction to the group. But, I have to ask, do we all get "new" names too??
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    MyTurnNow said:

    Sounds like the beginnings
    Sounds like the beginnings of a book or movie perhaps???? You never cease to amaze me, Claudia. Very nice welcome and introduction to the group. But, I have to ask, do we all get "new" names too??

    That's the beauty of
    That's the beauty of it....you can choose any name you'd like! BTW~ I adore your Betty Boop~ sooo sweet!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • creampuff91344
    creampuff91344 Member Posts: 988
    chenheart said:

    That's the beauty of
    That's the beauty of it....you can choose any name you'd like! BTW~ I adore your Betty Boop~ sooo sweet!

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    My dear Claudia
    What a wonderful story, and all so true. I think in a previous life you must have been a poet or a scholar, and droves and droves of people followed you around like the Pied Piper, waiting to be enriched and entertained by your quick wit and vivid imagination. You are so right that we in this site are a kindred spirit group, connected by one thing. That one thing is HOPE! We all know our diagnosis, we all know our treatment, and we all have tremendous hope that tomorrow will be, and that it will be a beautiful day. I am so overwhelmed with your ability to take a thing like cancer, and turn it into an adventure. None of us ever dreamed of being at Hogwarts, but many of us know that while we are here we are surrounded by so many intelligent, witty, and caring people....like our Chen. Thank you for the uplifting story, and hopefully the newcomers to this site will be enriched by being a part of this community. Hugs to all, especially you Chen.

    Judy
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159

    My dear Claudia
    What a wonderful story, and all so true. I think in a previous life you must have been a poet or a scholar, and droves and droves of people followed you around like the Pied Piper, waiting to be enriched and entertained by your quick wit and vivid imagination. You are so right that we in this site are a kindred spirit group, connected by one thing. That one thing is HOPE! We all know our diagnosis, we all know our treatment, and we all have tremendous hope that tomorrow will be, and that it will be a beautiful day. I am so overwhelmed with your ability to take a thing like cancer, and turn it into an adventure. None of us ever dreamed of being at Hogwarts, but many of us know that while we are here we are surrounded by so many intelligent, witty, and caring people....like our Chen. Thank you for the uplifting story, and hopefully the newcomers to this site will be enriched by being a part of this community. Hugs to all, especially you Chen.

    Judy

    If I had an original bone in
    If I had an original bone in my body I would perhaps be dangerous! But no...I read or see something and adapt it to circumstances around me. This time, it just happened to be Harry Potter and life at Hogwarts! Wish I had the creativity ; I would be writing best selling books which would become world famous along with the movies! I would use the money to fund a Cancer Cure, and help the Haitians while I was at it! Oh well, a 50 foot woman can dream, can't she? Being that tall leaves me with my head in the clouds, evidently! LOL

    Hugs,
    Chen♥
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
    chenheart said:

    If I had an original bone in
    If I had an original bone in my body I would perhaps be dangerous! But no...I read or see something and adapt it to circumstances around me. This time, it just happened to be Harry Potter and life at Hogwarts! Wish I had the creativity ; I would be writing best selling books which would become world famous along with the movies! I would use the money to fund a Cancer Cure, and help the Haitians while I was at it! Oh well, a 50 foot woman can dream, can't she? Being that tall leaves me with my head in the clouds, evidently! LOL

    Hugs,
    Chen♥

    Thank you Claudia
    You always amaze me by your creativity, humor and dedication. Thank you for being here with us.
    Hugs,
    New Flower
  • marilyndbk
    marilyndbk Member Posts: 238 Member
    Chen. What a beautiful
    Chen. What a beautiful story. I never thought of our lives that way but it is so true. I am so grateful I have so many pink sisters to share with. God bless us all. Marilyn
  • cindycflynn
    cindycflynn Member Posts: 1,132 Member
    What a wonderful analogy!
    And so eloquently put, as usual Chen!

    Thank you for posting this, and for all of your support to me and others on this board!

    Cindy
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member

    What a wonderful analogy!
    And so eloquently put, as usual Chen!

    Thank you for posting this, and for all of your support to me and others on this board!

    Cindy

    Chen,
    You have done it

    Chen,
    You have done it again. Just the right analogy for us. And beautifully written. You have described it so well for all the newbies and for us as well. Watch out for lightening with your head in the clouds. Can't have our 50 foot woman endangered.
    Stef
  • jbug
    jbug Member Posts: 285
    Thanks!
    I must say, i do look forward to your posts...in any string. The future that you demonstrate for those of us still in treatment is so awesome. AND, you come up w/great stuff. Thanks again...

    Julie
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    You've done it again!!!!
    You've done it again, oh my dear kindred spirit. I should have that facility and eloquence in writing. I'm sure you will be a best selling author in your next life. Maybe a la Jackie Collins. Hmmmmm! Thanks dear Chen for so eloquently putting into words what our group is all about. Most importantly, letting the newbies know that we are here for them, to give advice, encouragement, cyber hugs and kisses, and most importantly, lending that shoulder to cry on when needed. We are one special group that although we are far away in distance, we are truly united in heart. Hugs, Lili
  • Sunrae
    Sunrae Member Posts: 808

    You've done it again!!!!
    You've done it again, oh my dear kindred spirit. I should have that facility and eloquence in writing. I'm sure you will be a best selling author in your next life. Maybe a la Jackie Collins. Hmmmmm! Thanks dear Chen for so eloquently putting into words what our group is all about. Most importantly, letting the newbies know that we are here for them, to give advice, encouragement, cyber hugs and kisses, and most importantly, lending that shoulder to cry on when needed. We are one special group that although we are far away in distance, we are truly united in heart. Hugs, Lili

    Chen-Claudia, You make my
    Chen-Claudia, You make my day so often. What talent you have and you use it for the good of the rest of us. You have tamed cancer, got it on a leash. I can just see you, 50 feet tall twirling a lasso entangled around the beast, and with a gigantic last twirl above your head, the beast is flung into outer space never to be seen again. Thanks for giving us this vision.
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    I was just thinking to
    I was just thinking to myself "Chen, you did it again"... then I scrolled down and saw that Lili beat me to it!! LOL... Yes dear sweet warrior sister, you have a way with words... As a matter of face right now we are just starting to watch Harry Potter... #5 so we can be refreshed to watch #6 tomorrow....

    I don't think I will ever look at this movie the same way..

    ♥ & hugs,

    ~T
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    taleena said:

    I was just thinking to
    I was just thinking to myself "Chen, you did it again"... then I scrolled down and saw that Lili beat me to it!! LOL... Yes dear sweet warrior sister, you have a way with words... As a matter of face right now we are just starting to watch Harry Potter... #5 so we can be refreshed to watch #6 tomorrow....

    I don't think I will ever look at this movie the same way..

    ♥ & hugs,

    ~T

    I responded to your earlier
    I responded to your earlier post---your sadness touched my heart soooo much, and *dammit*, it didn't post! I hold all of the guilt of the universe in my hands and heart, and when it doesn't post you have no idea how bad I feel...

    ~T....I just want to validate ALL that you feel, and that the only good thing is that you have this safe, non judgemental place to let us know. There is no rhyme or reason, only what is. All I can say is: VENT! B.ITCH WHINE and MOAN~ we all need it, and you voiced it. Bless your heart.

    Hugs,
    Chen♥
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    what a perfect analogy...
    Claudia, all I can say is "perfect!"

    Cat
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    cats_toy said:

    what a perfect analogy...
    Claudia, all I can say is "perfect!"

    Cat

    And that is what I say about
    And that is what I say about your picture...PERFECT!

    Hugs,
    Chen
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    Ah, Chen....you are a
    Ah, Chen....you are a shining star; thanks for sharing your light. xoxoxoxo Lynn
  • Tinabug
    Tinabug Member Posts: 158
    Wonderful Welcome
    Chen,

    Thanks for the wonderful welcome...I consider myself a freshman, but look forward to the day I'm a graduate. Definitely, not the school of my choice, but I couldn't have asked for better classmates. You are all so amazing & I am so blessed to have found you.

    Thanks for the education & wisdom you have all already shared with me at Hogwarts!!!

    Huge hugs,
    Tina
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    Thank you Chen.
    What a beautiful story, it expresses everything so perfectly. I am so happy to have you share your beautiful writings with us. I love it.
    hugs to you my sweet sister,
    Jackie
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    rjjj said:

    Thank you Chen.
    What a beautiful story, it expresses everything so perfectly. I am so happy to have you share your beautiful writings with us. I love it.
    hugs to you my sweet sister,
    Jackie

    I honestly think it all
    I honestly think it all comes from being shy.....in person I am quiet and don't say too much. But on these boards~ I dunno, I can think and re-think and say what is in my mind/heart....I am happy it makes you happy.

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    P.S.
    Whoo hoo~ The Hogwarts magic is working! I woke up this morning in California and there is SUNSHINE streaming through the window! My puppy ran out in the back yard and is practically dancing! Whichever professor did a stop-rain spell~ Thank You! :-)
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    Bumping this up for
    Bumping this up for TraciInLa!