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kktylo
kktylo Member Posts: 17
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
I'm Vicki and I was just diagnosed July 2nd, 2009 with Stage IV Colon Cancer at the age of 34. I just celebrated a very happy 35 birthday, but the chemo treatments are starting to wear me down. I am scheduled for 12 treatments and just finished cycle 7. My husband of eight years just left me for another woman a week ago leaving me three children to raise on my own. So, fatigue and depression have been taking over me. Anyways, it's great to find such an insightful and supportive group.
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  • AnneCan
    AnneCan Member Posts: 3,673 Member
    Welcome
    Hi Vicki,

    Welcome to this board. I am sorry you are going through all this! Fatigue from chemo is very tough to deal with & I am not sure what your cycle is like, but when I am at the bottom fatigue-wise, I try to remember "this too will pass". Sunday I was exhausted all day & did very little, yesterday & today I am feeling quite wonderful. I hope you have some help with the kids, my advice is to take the help people offer you & take it one day at a time.

    Best wishes!
  • dianetavegia
    dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
    Oh Vicki.... no....
    That is so very sad. I'm so very sorry to hear this. Do you have family who can help with the children? That just breaks my heart.

    May I pray for you and your family?

    I completed 12 txs of FOLFOX in mid August. You're taking more meds that I needed so I cannot pretend to understand how you feel ....... Gosh, again, I'm so sorry to hear this.

    Diane
  • daydreamer110761
    daydreamer110761 Member Posts: 487 Member

    Oh Vicki.... no....
    That is so very sad. I'm so very sorry to hear this. Do you have family who can help with the children? That just breaks my heart.

    May I pray for you and your family?

    I completed 12 txs of FOLFOX in mid August. You're taking more meds that I needed so I cannot pretend to understand how you feel ....... Gosh, again, I'm so sorry to hear this.

    Diane

    wow.
    It's hard to know what to say there. I certainly hope you have some help, how old are the kids? What an awful thing to have happen. Everyone here will give all the support we can, these guys are great with answers, someone always has an idea. Where are you at? I read that you are doing FOLFOX. you will certainly need some help, more than likely at the end of the treatment, and by the 2nd or 3rd for sure.

    If I was anywhere near you, you'd have my help...I couldn't imagine going through all you are going through. Chemo is an emotional rollercoaster on it's own.

    Anyway, welcome to our family..

    Sherrie
  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625 Member
    I'm here
    Hi Vicki,

    I'm so sorry to hear of all the difficulties you're going through. Cancer treatments in of themselves are more than enough, then to have to deal with your husband leaving. I just want to reach out and give you a big hug right now! I guess a cyberhug will have to do. Where do you live? I'm in the San Diego area in California. Let people know where you are and I bet there will be someone on this board close to you. It's neat because I've found out there are 4 people from this board who live near to me. I've met one so far and have formed a friendship. It's very nice to have the support of someone who knows what you're going through nearby. Do you have a support system of friends and/or family there? If not, I urge you to seek others out and possibly find a support group to attend. This place here on the board is my support group- everyone's great! But I know it's not the same as having someone to go to lunch with or talk on the phone with.

    You take care and feel free to PM me anytime. I'm saying a prayer for you and your children right now.

    Sending blessings your way through prayer,
    Lisa
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  • mommyof2kds
    mommyof2kds Member Posts: 519
    So sorry to hear of your
    So sorry to hear of your diagnosis and family issues. I hope you have some close family of friends to help you through this. You can vent on here whenever you need to. God Bless. Petrina
  • Fight for my love
    Fight for my love Member Posts: 1,522 Member
    I am really sorry to hear
    I am really sorry to hear what you are getting through.I hope you have family or friends who is close by to give a hand.You are in my prayers and I hope everything will be fine with you.Please remember this board is a place where you can find comfort,assurance,knowledge and attitude.If you need to whine and vent,this is a good place for you too.Take care.Hugsss.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17
    AnneCan said:

    Welcome
    Hi Vicki,

    Welcome to this board. I am sorry you are going through all this! Fatigue from chemo is very tough to deal with & I am not sure what your cycle is like, but when I am at the bottom fatigue-wise, I try to remember "this too will pass". Sunday I was exhausted all day & did very little, yesterday & today I am feeling quite wonderful. I hope you have some help with the kids, my advice is to take the help people offer you & take it one day at a time.

    Best wishes!

    Thanks for the welcome. I am
    Thanks for the welcome. I am about to start Cycle 8 of folfox on Wed. It seems to get harder and harder each time to recover from the fatigue. I just keep pushing along because my children need me. I have my mom, but her health isn't the greatest either. fortunately, I have a younger brother who is great with my kids and watches them when I have my treatments. Otherwise, I have been pretty much on my own.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17

    Oh Vicki.... no....
    That is so very sad. I'm so very sorry to hear this. Do you have family who can help with the children? That just breaks my heart.

    May I pray for you and your family?

    I completed 12 txs of FOLFOX in mid August. You're taking more meds that I needed so I cannot pretend to understand how you feel ....... Gosh, again, I'm so sorry to hear this.

    Diane

    Thanks Diane. I am in cycle
    Thanks Diane. I am in cycle 8 of my folfox and I am trying to stay strong. Prayers are welcome of course..the more prayer the better. I appreciate it :0)
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17

    wow.
    It's hard to know what to say there. I certainly hope you have some help, how old are the kids? What an awful thing to have happen. Everyone here will give all the support we can, these guys are great with answers, someone always has an idea. Where are you at? I read that you are doing FOLFOX. you will certainly need some help, more than likely at the end of the treatment, and by the 2nd or 3rd for sure.

    If I was anywhere near you, you'd have my help...I couldn't imagine going through all you are going through. Chemo is an emotional rollercoaster on it's own.

    Anyway, welcome to our family..

    Sherrie

    I have my mom and my
    I have my mom and my brothers, but we just moved to AZ in March so I have no friends here. It's really difficult as my kids are only 10. 5, and 1 year old. We are in AZ about 20 minutes from Phoenix. It would be great to connect with someone locally that understands. I thank you for your kind words and welcome they added a little hope to my day.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17
    lisa42 said:

    I'm here
    Hi Vicki,

    I'm so sorry to hear of all the difficulties you're going through. Cancer treatments in of themselves are more than enough, then to have to deal with your husband leaving. I just want to reach out and give you a big hug right now! I guess a cyberhug will have to do. Where do you live? I'm in the San Diego area in California. Let people know where you are and I bet there will be someone on this board close to you. It's neat because I've found out there are 4 people from this board who live near to me. I've met one so far and have formed a friendship. It's very nice to have the support of someone who knows what you're going through nearby. Do you have a support system of friends and/or family there? If not, I urge you to seek others out and possibly find a support group to attend. This place here on the board is my support group- everyone's great! But I know it's not the same as having someone to go to lunch with or talk on the phone with.

    You take care and feel free to PM me anytime. I'm saying a prayer for you and your children right now.

    Sending blessings your way through prayer,
    Lisa

    Lisa, we just moved from CA
    Lisa, we just moved from CA to Az in March. Just before my diagnosis in July. I hope to be able to join a support group, but I have had quite a year. On memorial day, my only car went up in flames. Thankfully, I got myself and the kids out before anyone was hurt. So, Cancer was the icing on the cake. Thanks for your words of encouragement and your prayer.
  • Mike49
    Mike49 Member Posts: 261
    Welcome and sorry to hear
    I was so saddened to hear your story, you are very strong but what a load to carry. I find it so sad thar your husband left when I know how priceless my caregiver is to me. I hope we can bring you strength as friends on this board.

    Mike and Jenny
  • Mike49
    Mike49 Member Posts: 261
    Mike49 said:

    Welcome and sorry to hear
    I was so saddened to hear your story, you are very strong but what a load to carry. I find it so sad thar your husband left when I know how priceless my caregiver is to me. I hope we can bring you strength as friends on this board.

    Mike and Jenny

    We are in AZ too
    I just noticed you are in AZ we are too. If we can connect please let us know, we have 3 kids here too. We live in the East valley. Where abouts are you?
  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    Sorry
    I'm sorry to hear about all your problems,I pray that they get better.I know of other spouses who left when they were dx.Fatigue and depression are part of the side effects of the treatment and they will pass,but you have to get some medication for the depression,iron pills and vitamins B&C helped with the fatigue but they took awhile.I'll pray things get better.
  • mom_2_3
    mom_2_3 Member Posts: 953 Member
    Vicki
    I am sorry you have found this board under such circumstances. I was diagnosed last November with Stage IV at the age of 39 and we also have three young children. I understand from that perspective what you are experiencing. But your recounting of your husband's betrayal has honestly brought me to tears as it just seems so unfair.

    I want you to know that you are not alone. That I and the other members of this board are here for you. If you ever need to talk please PM me and I will send you my telephone number. Please come here as often as you can to share in your story for as you do so, you will find you also help others even as you hopefully help yourself.

    As others have also promised, I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    Amy
  • daydreamer110761
    daydreamer110761 Member Posts: 487 Member
    mom_2_3 said:

    Vicki
    I am sorry you have found this board under such circumstances. I was diagnosed last November with Stage IV at the age of 39 and we also have three young children. I understand from that perspective what you are experiencing. But your recounting of your husband's betrayal has honestly brought me to tears as it just seems so unfair.

    I want you to know that you are not alone. That I and the other members of this board are here for you. If you ever need to talk please PM me and I will send you my telephone number. Please come here as often as you can to share in your story for as you do so, you will find you also help others even as you hopefully help yourself.

    As others have also promised, I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    Amy

    bumping this up
    so that maybe someone in AZ will read it - I notice that there is already one, but AZ isn't a small place.

    I can relate in the way that I had recently left my husband and moved here to MN. I am in a relationship, but it is fairly new, and I have to admit that I was worried that he wouldn't want to stick around (thank goodness I was way wrong). My kids are teenagers, but I also didn't know anyone here. It was a bit lonely, but I made wonderful friends here on the boards, and also at my treatment center. I hope all goes well for you. I agree with another poster that it is much harder to loose someone you love than to go through the cancer, but what a double whammy!
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17
    Mike49 said:

    We are in AZ too
    I just noticed you are in AZ we are too. If we can connect please let us know, we have 3 kids here too. We live in the East valley. Where abouts are you?

    We are in the West Valley
    We are in the West Valley -Goodyear.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17
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    Patricia
    I am sorry to hear that you have been hurt too. I just struggle being alone..I've never not had someone by my side and although I know I can do it, it's frightening and does make me feel more vulnerable. Hope you have better days as well.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17

    So sorry to hear of your
    So sorry to hear of your diagnosis and family issues. I hope you have some close family of friends to help you through this. You can vent on here whenever you need to. God Bless. Petrina

    Petrina
    Thanks. I'm so glad to have found this forum. It makes me feel not so alone. I have my mom and my youngest brother babysits for me during Chemo treatments. I have been very lucky in that respect.
  • kktylo
    kktylo Member Posts: 17

    I am really sorry to hear
    I am really sorry to hear what you are getting through.I hope you have family or friends who is close by to give a hand.You are in my prayers and I hope everything will be fine with you.Please remember this board is a place where you can find comfort,assurance,knowledge and attitude.If you need to whine and vent,this is a good place for you too.Take care.Hugsss.

    Thanks
    I am so glad to have found this board. I was spending days in my bed before finding this forum and now I actually find myself getting up more to live life.