Husband stage IV in hospital...I'm having trouble with unknowns.

MOE58 said:

ANOTHER SPOUSE COPING
hi pnak,

I know how you feel being a spouse trying to cope with cancer, i too am a spouse of a 45 year old man that worked anywhere from 45 to 6o hours a week. Never sick always outside from sun up to sundown, he was having a hard time swallowing and complaining about his upper stomach doctors thought it was his gallbladder, sent him for test until it all came back as negative. then was sent for a upper GI and thats when we found the cancer he has Esophogeal, stage 2 and is operable. We both have cried, asked why us, etc. It is a very hard thing for a spouse to go through, fortunately we don't have any kids at home so I can only imagine what you are going through with kids. He is a very kind and considerate man, but some days he just lashes out and nothing you do will please him, Therefore I just have to do the best I can. Somedays are easier than others but having the house and living on 7 acres my job duties get over the limit sometimes plus i hold down a 40 hour job.

I know you are probably having a hard time not being there with your husband at the hosptial, have you checked with the cancer society to see if there is someone that can help with the kids while you are at the hospital? Is there a High School student somewhere close by that maybe will help you with no family willing to help?

Also, here in our state there is help fiancially for utilties, and food, if no income is coming in? Do you all have health insurance for him?

Has the doctors said how long his survival rate is? How long has he had this and how did you all find out?

Also, there is a chat place you can check in on alot of us chat with one another and it has really helped me alot a another cancer person recommended it to me and i have learned so much, from just chating you might try that also.

I am here to talk and listen as I am a spouse also

My name is Lori but my online is Moe

GOD BLESS

Lori