Chadwick Boseman

abita
abita Member Posts: 1,152 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1

is it normal that when I read the article saying he died from a 4 year battle with colon cancer, i counted out how long it has been since my diagnosis. 

It is all so arbitrary. He was stage 3, but it progressed to 4. Make you wonder how that happens even when you are fighting it. I was thinking earlier today how the beautiful JanJan was just shy of that blinking 5 year mark when she succumbed. The medicine I am on now worked for her, but because her rash would get too painful to continue. My rash gets bad sometimes. I have cream but I don't use it because I don't want to get it on my cat's fur. Today, it has a bit of oozing, and I was thinking how horrible it was that JanJan was affected so much worse.

Anyway, my musings upon reading about the young vibrant Chad Boseman passing from colon cancer. And my wondering if I will get that miracle I pray for and somehow will be one of those that is "cured" by chemo alone so I can fulfill my goal of living to be an old cat lady.

 

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  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #2
    You are You

    You are on a different journey than anyone else that you know or read about.  Anyone can receive that miracle they are wanting.  Everyday new medicine is being tried, new studies always, new testing.  That is what is so good about the USA and the pharmacutical industry is they are always testing.  JanJan did go through a terrible ordeal and she fought every step of the way, but you can beat this.  You can keep doing what they tell you if you are able.  Just keep fighting and keeping that great attitude that you have.  Wishing you the best and hoping that your sores lessen.  Maybe ask if there is something else you can use where it won't affect your animals.

    Kim

  • SnapDragon2
    SnapDragon2 Member Posts: 714 Member
    #3
    I did the same thing and

    I did the same thing and thought where will I be in 3 yrs.  It is very normal unless we are abnormal :)

  • Tueffel
    Tueffel Member Posts: 327 Member
    #4
    Different

    Somehow his death affected me different than all others before. Probably because he was not only a great actor but also his disease is affecting me different now because my dad. I got a little bit more afraid, worry more but my dad is different than Chadwick.

    Still I am surprised how much strength he had. Chemo, surgeries while filming superhero movies and training for fight scenes. Many here will probably say that some days they are just too tired and only sleep.

    At the end we normal people can just hope and pray that ourselves or our loved ones will make it. 

  • Tom M.
    Tom M. Member Posts: 223 Member
    edited August 2020 #5
    Tough times

    It always gets to me when I see someone who has passed from cancer. All of us here put up with tough times at some point. We all react differently to the treatments. I guess you can say that for  every sickness there is. Accept, trust, fight, laugh and love. Always stay up beat. Never be affraid of anything. 

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,280 Member
    #6
    For me it just re-enforces

    For me it just re-enforces the fragility of life; that ability, money, fame may get you the best care, and the help that others don't receive, but in the end we're all bound by the same frailties and things that may take us down or dramatically alter our course. That he choose to keep working was a testament to his drive and love for what he did. RIP Mr. Boseman................................................Dave

  • PamRav
    PamRav Member Posts: 348 Member
    #7
    Abita

    I think it's human nature , i did the exact same thing   3.75 yr since my diagnosis and currently in chemo for lung and liver mets.  

    i cannot fathom how he was able to act through chemo and its effects.    So very sad.  I hope someday soon there is a cure for all of us. 

  • Kazenmax
    Kazenmax Member Posts: 463 Member
    edited August 2020 #8
    I was diagnosed the same year

    I was diagnosed the same year as Mr Boseman as stage 3 as well. We both progressed to stage 4. My reaction was to feel guilty that I am 68 and still alive and he was so young and passed. He did so much in the past couple years and all I did was get through it. I guess it's survivors guilt. But there must be a reason so I will continue. Love to you all.

    k

  • Allidoisyoga
    Allidoisyoga Member Posts: 37
    #9
    I was doing the same thing

    He was diagnosed, same age and same stage as me.  It makes me wonder.... is this how long I have? The unknown is so scary. 

     

    There are no words how this must feel to his friends and family.  Rest in Peace Chadwick. 

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
    #10
    Allidoisyoga said:

    I was doing the same thing

    He was diagnosed, same age and same stage as me.  It makes me wonder.... is this how long I have? The unknown is so scary. 

     

    There are no words how this must feel to his friends and family.  Rest in Peace Chadwick. 

    Let that thought pass from you

    I could name, literally one by one, many forum members who were diagnosed the same time I was, who have passed away; yet here I am, plugging on.  

    Of course it 'could' be you, but we just have to think 'it won't be' and roll with it. 

    Tru

  • Allidoisyoga
    Allidoisyoga Member Posts: 37
    #11
    Trubrit said:

    Let that thought pass from you

    I could name, literally one by one, many forum members who were diagnosed the same time I was, who have passed away; yet here I am, plugging on.  

    Of course it 'could' be you, but we just have to think 'it won't be' and roll with it. 

    Tru

    Thank you

    Your posts and words are such an inspiration and gift to me and this community.  Thank you for listening.  Have a beautiful day friend.  

  • Tom M.
    Tom M. Member Posts: 223 Member
    #12
    Roll with it

    I like thar Tru. "Roll with it" That's the best advice.

     

  • abita
    abita Member Posts: 1,152 Member
    #13
    There is an article in Access

    There is an article in Access that says he had laporscopic surgery in March for cancer that had metastasized. That the primary cuse was organ failure and the underlying condition colon cancer. I know I should remember that every case is different but I can't help but look at any details to see any similarities to my case. Which mets are removed that way? For my liver surgery, not only was there a very large j shaped cut, when i asked the surgeon why my rubs seem to heart week later, he explained that they pull them back for the surgery, so, of course they hurt. I can say, organ failure does scare me with all we go through chemo wise.

  • abita
    abita Member Posts: 1,152 Member
    edited September 2020 #14
    I just realized, he must have

    I just realized, he must have started chemo if his surgery was in March. I guess not everyone does mop up chemo. 

  • feckcancer
    feckcancer Member Posts: 189 Member
    #15
    David Bowie

    David Bowie died when I was 3/4 through my treatment. different cancer but it still hit me really hard. 

    I can remember the day after lying on the radiation table silently crying for him (and probably me too) .

    Every time i fundraise for cancer i wear star earrings in memory . ( his last album while he was sick was called black star).

    i cried about him for a long time. my counsellor said it was because it was easier to cry about him than me being so sick, & my Mother & my cat who also died around the same time which probably was true but didn't & still doesn't make it any easier.

    Take care. Stay Safe

    love from one cat lady to another. xx

  • Bears70+
    Bears70+ Member Posts: 5
    edited September 2020 #16
    Stage 4!

    Stage 4 and still strong.  The fight is worth it! 

  • Bears70+
    Bears70+ Member Posts: 5
    edited September 2020 #17
    Bears70+

    So sorry to have skipped over a quick introduction.  Going on 5 years of treatment and all worth it.  Diagnosed stage 4 Dec. 2015.  2016there was  7 months Folfox, 2 plus years on 5 FU only.  Surgery and radiation, Folfire 6 months, immunotherapy the past  11 months.  It has been worth the fight and I am doing well, but not NED.  Regardless of the treatments there has  been no reason to stop the fight.  In 2015 the immunotherapy was not available.  I have not found that my time runs out at 3 to 5 years.   You never knoww what new treatments are just around the corner.  Keep up the fight.  Bear

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
    edited September 2020 #18
    Bears70+ said:

    Bears70+

    So sorry to have skipped over a quick introduction.  Going on 5 years of treatment and all worth it.  Diagnosed stage 4 Dec. 2015.  2016there was  7 months Folfox, 2 plus years on 5 FU only.  Surgery and radiation, Folfire 6 months, immunotherapy the past  11 months.  It has been worth the fight and I am doing well, but not NED.  Regardless of the treatments there has  been no reason to stop the fight.  In 2015 the immunotherapy was not available.  I have not found that my time runs out at 3 to 5 years.   You never knoww what new treatments are just around the corner.  Keep up the fight.  Bear

    Welcome to the forum, Bear

    It seems like you have been through the ringer, and still have that 'go to' attitude. 

    Look forward to getting to know you here on the forum. 

    Tru

  • Bears70+
    Bears70+ Member Posts: 5
    #19
    Trubrit said:

    Welcome to the forum, Bear

    It seems like you have been through the ringer, and still have that 'go to' attitude. 

    Look forward to getting to know you here on the forum. 

    Tru

    I do  not consider it being

    through a ringer.  I got nearly 5 more years with 7 wonderful grand children.  It will lbe 5 this Christmas.  .   The prospect are looking good for  2 more years.  Grandson graduates from high school next May and I will  pray to be there.  Not much time now to look at this site as the schools are closed and I have 3 grand daugters here daily for school via the computer. I think grandpa and I will pass second and fourth grade again.  Don't know about grade 7.  (4 girls and 3 boys)  Good thing the kids are in gifted classes and don't need much help.  The girls keep track of the bear collection in the room known as the Bear Room.  My grandson started this 18 years ago.

    My diagnosis for the mutant gene was not known until August 2016. 1 to 3% do not get the agressive form of my mutant gene.   The rest of those unlucky enough to get the gene do not last 6 months to a year with my particular mutant gene.  Here I am nearly 5 years later. This is why they put me on 5 FU for over 2 years following surgery in 2015.  They thught they had all the cancer at surgery.  NOT!  It raised it head again May 2018.  Yes, with tests the mutant gene was still there.  I am an odd case in that 1 to 3% that my the mutant gene is not agressive! I fall into that group.  The 5FU kept it under control almost 2 1/2 years.  Several chances to try to get rid of it, but it is still here.   

    Have a nice evening.  Bear

     

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    #20
    Duration

    Some of us have been surviving for a long time.  Look when Annebelle joined our special group.  I was 77 when I joined-am currently 88 with no end in sight. As the bible says "we know niether the day nor the hour"

    So just live it a day at a time!  Good luck to all of us!!!

  • abita
    abita Member Posts: 1,152 Member
    edited September 2020 #21
    danker said:

    Duration

    Some of us have been surviving for a long time.  Look when Annebelle joined our special group.  I was 77 when I joined-am currently 88 with no end in sight. As the bible says "we know niether the day nor the hour"

    So just live it a day at a time!  Good luck to all of us!!!

    Are you NED?

    Are you NED?

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