A difficult post
This is the most difficult news I've had to share on this board. With tears in my eyes and deep sadness in my heart, I have to tell you all that Helen, daylady, passed away on Monday.
I last heard from her last week. The fatigue she described in her last post had not improved nor had her appetite. In addition, what seemed to be lymphedema had made her legs and abdomen swollen. She said that she felt she was in someone else's body.
According to her husband, she went to the ER on Sunday night. There were multiple issues, and in the end, her body just had too much to deal with.
Though Helen and I lived only a couple of hours away from each other, we met halfway around the world in Germany, kindred spirits in a foreign land. There are no words to describe how much I will miss her spirit, her laugh, and her determination. She was a sounding board, a cheerleader, a confidant. I cannot believe that she is gone.
Rest in peace, dear one.
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Another angel got her wings
i have to admit, this is the hardest part of being a part of this board. But the Fellowship outweighs the anguish so I continue to lurk. My heart is completely broken for her family and friends as well as for all of us who had the pleasure of knowing her virtually. Thanks for letting us know, Chris.
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I am so sorry to hear that. I
I am so sorry to hear that. I was hoping that she would get her strength back and have a lovely Thanksgiving with her kids and grandkids. My heart breaks for them. From her posts it sounds like she has accomplished a ton, loved and was loved, and lived a very full life. That's all we can hope for, isn't it? With or without the cancer diagnosis.
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This hurts!
Helen was so generous with everyone even though she was coping with so much. She really wanted to have this holiday season with her family and the timing of her passing is going to be so hard for them. I really wish this had turned out different for her; she certainly did everything possible to have that result. She was a lovely person and the world is a little sadder place now without her. My condolences to you too Chris; it's got to be harder to absorb this when the relationship got to be in person and you are struggling with metastasis yourself. Sending you a big ((hug)).
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Chris, thank you for sharing
Chris, thank you for sharing the sad news with all of us. My eyes are welling up with tears thinking how it is just can't be real. This is hard, but why we need each other. I pray for a cure for all cancers.
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D*mn It All
Dammit, this wasn't supposed to happen. Helen was supposed to rally, enjoy the holidays with her family, and go on to the next, best treatment. We were supposed to continue enjoying her company for years and years. I'm shocked and saddened that the story I worked out in my head isn't the story we get in reality. She was such a vital force on this board and her voice will be missed by everyone. Condolences to her family, and to you too Chris - I know how close you were and I'm so sorry you had to get the news from her husband. Thank you for letting us know.
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I'm so sorry. I haven't been
I'm so sorry. I haven't been here long, but read her post the other day, and hoped she would have a wonderful holiday with her family.
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So Sad
Helen was such a fighter, I can't believe this happened. It is so sad she is no longer with us.
But she's in good hands with the angels.Takingcontrol58
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Oh Chris. This is
Oh Chris. This is heartbreaking. I just can't find the words right now....
Rest in peace sweet Helen.
Love and Hugs to All ,
Cindi
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DAMN IT! I HATE THIS DISEASE!
DAMN IT! I HATE THIS DISEASE!!
Love,
Eldri
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Chris, I am so sorry to hear this sad news about Helen
This is the most difficult part of being a member of this Board. Like a child who believes in fairy tales and “happy endings“, I want so very much for each of us to remain healthy and strong. It breaks my heart to know that Helen didn't get to spend the holidays with her family. My condolences to you, Chris, who met her and to her supportive and loving family. My Dad died 4 years ago tomorrow and right after I received my UPSC diagnosis. Thanksgiving and my birthday towards the end of November seem less joyful to me ever since.
Warm Wishes,
Cathy
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Hi Chris: I am so sorry to hear of Helen's passing. I will keep Helen in my thoughts and prayers. I feel so bad for her family and that she will not be able to spend the upcoming holidays with them. May she rest in peace. Helen fought our disease valiantly and traveled so far to get help with the disease.
On another sad note, I lost my first cousin 5 years ago today to brain cancer (glioblastoma) he fought the disease for almost 2 1/2 years. He was young only 73. I still miss him a lot and think of him. He enjoyed travelling a lot and took a lot of cruises. He lived in Maryland about 2 hours from me, and he came down a couple of times a year to visit with my Mom and myself and took us out to lunch along with his younger brother. I know of a couple of famous people that have had this type of brain cancer and that is a rare cancer as well.
Chris, it will be hard for you as well. I will keep you in my prayers also.
Cheerful
a/k/a Jane
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RIP Helen
With all my heart I believe we come from God (SWT) and we return to Him. It is a wonderful plan. We can only grieve and miss someone if we feel love for them and for others that do. Love exposes us to the pain of loss, but it's temporary. I think we will one day have the joy of meeting eachother and will realize how worth it love really is.
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So sad
So difficult to read this, but thank you, Chris, for posting.
Suzanne
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She will be missed.
I don't often write anymore, but she and Editgirl inspired me with their Germany treatment. Damn Damn, I though she had beaten it. I PM'd her in September telling her how inspiring she was, I was facing a scare, and her posts and treatments had given me hope. I am numb, thinking about all you wonderful ladies past and present, many of who I went through treatment with, only to have them face more devistating news. I'm OK, my liver mass was written off as benign mass, but I know it's only a day, week, month away from striking me! I can only offer prayers for Daylady, and all of us. Love and peace Nancy.
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Nancy, I'm glad to hear fromunknown said:She will be missed.
I don't often write anymore, but she and Editgirl inspired me with their Germany treatment. Damn Damn, I though she had beaten it. I PM'd her in September telling her how inspiring she was, I was facing a scare, and her posts and treatments had given me hope. I am numb, thinking about all you wonderful ladies past and present, many of who I went through treatment with, only to have them face more devistating news. I'm OK, my liver mass was written off as benign mass, but I know it's only a day, week, month away from striking me! I can only offer prayers for Daylady, and all of us. Love and peace Nancy.
Nancy, I'm glad to hear from you!! But I'm glad to hear you're doing ok. Please keep us updated.
Love,
Eldri
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