Cancer journey? Cancer battle? What is it?

Options
2»

Comments

  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #22
    Options
    It is what it is

    Jan, don't let others define it for you. I use journey because that's what it feels like for me.

  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    edited August 2017 #23
    Options
    SophDan2 said:

    What concerns me

    Hi Jan,

     

    Don't be so hard on yourself; I've read some of your posts, your're a rock. Even rocks need support!

    Since we're sharing here, what seems to bother me (which it shouldn't), is when you see someone that knows you have cancer, but they are seeing you for the first time. The first thing they say, with that surprised look on their face, "wow, you look great" as opposed to how they imagined you would look. My reply was "I read people, so I know you mean what you say (cause I too know that I look pretty good), but when you say that and don't mean it, I'll know!"

    Just thought us cancer people would appreciate a chuckle.

    You look good!

    When someone tells me that I reply "Thanks, I'm planning on an open casket"

  • jajmom
    jajmom Member Posts: 33 Member
    edited August 2017 #24
    Options
    SophDan2 said:

    What concerns me

    Hi Jan,

     

    Don't be so hard on yourself; I've read some of your posts, your're a rock. Even rocks need support!

    Since we're sharing here, what seems to bother me (which it shouldn't), is when you see someone that knows you have cancer, but they are seeing you for the first time. The first thing they say, with that surprised look on their face, "wow, you look great" as opposed to how they imagined you would look. My reply was "I read people, so I know you mean what you say (cause I too know that I look pretty good), but when you say that and don't mean it, I'll know!"

    Just thought us cancer people would appreciate a chuckle.

    My pet peeve

    Hope you don't mind my chiming in, I've popped over from the anal board....gosh that sounds funny. But seriously what gets me is when someone asks how I'm doing and they don't really want to know! I'll say "Well I'm having some pretty serious side effects from the radiation,  but I am getting my energy back since chemo's done." They say "Well, you look great"!  Um, thanks? It's better to just say I'm doing fine. I guess if I'm looking good on the outside, everything must be okay! 

    Also, I don't refer to my cancer as anything, it's just my life; and life is a journey both good and bad. I'm iiving it, but not always lovin it!

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
    #25
    Options
    jajmom said:

    My pet peeve

    Hope you don't mind my chiming in, I've popped over from the anal board....gosh that sounds funny. But seriously what gets me is when someone asks how I'm doing and they don't really want to know! I'll say "Well I'm having some pretty serious side effects from the radiation,  but I am getting my energy back since chemo's done." They say "Well, you look great"!  Um, thanks? It's better to just say I'm doing fine. I guess if I'm looking good on the outside, everything must be okay! 

    Also, I don't refer to my cancer as anything, it's just my life; and life is a journey both good and bad. I'm iiving it, but not always lovin it!

    You are more than welcome to post here

    in Fact, its great to see you. 

    I know exactly what you are saying. Its even worse in this day and age, when someone asks you how you are doing, and as you're about to answer, they are already looking at their cell phone. 

    If I get really PO'd at them, I say, in a half sarcastic, half truthful way, 'I'm sure you really don't want to know'. OR if its happened too many times in one day I just say 'I've got these awful weeping sores on my backside'. That usually shuts them up and send them running. 

    Come and visit with us again.

    Tru

  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    #26
    Options
    jajmom said:

    My pet peeve

    Hope you don't mind my chiming in, I've popped over from the anal board....gosh that sounds funny. But seriously what gets me is when someone asks how I'm doing and they don't really want to know! I'll say "Well I'm having some pretty serious side effects from the radiation,  but I am getting my energy back since chemo's done." They say "Well, you look great"!  Um, thanks? It's better to just say I'm doing fine. I guess if I'm looking good on the outside, everything must be okay! 

    Also, I don't refer to my cancer as anything, it's just my life; and life is a journey both good and bad. I'm iiving it, but not always lovin it!

    I've popped over from the anal board....

    Your line reminded me of that old joke "I just flew in from Vegas and boy, are my arms tired!"

Discussion Boards