Meowycat's mom passed away

Meowycat
Meowycat Member Posts: 66
in Colorectal Cancer #1

My beautiful and courageous mother, Nelly Quiles passed away on January 1, 2015 at 8:55pm at the age of 73. She passed just as she had lived in life,  calm and soft. I was fortunate to be with her as she took her last breath. My poor father came running and sobbed so hard it broke my heart. They were married 44 years but had been together since they were teenagers. His grief is raw.

I'm so happy she is not suffering anymore. She was the strongest person I knew. She was my first friend, mentor, and loved me with all my flaws and faults. I am so grateful for all the good years I got with her. She was an amazing wife and mother.

I shall miss her every day of my life but I will keep her goodness inside me.

Thank you all for your love, support, and help over the past three years. It meant the world to me. At times you all were a better support system than her family.

She will be buried on Saturday the 10th of January, the day before my 43rd birthday.

 

Love you all,

Nellie

 

 

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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #2
    My deepest sympathies

    The loss of a loved one is ever so hard.

    As you have written, missing them never lessens yet we can obtain some solice from the fact they suffer no longer and remain in our hearts forever.

    You face another challenge, that of helping your father through his incredible grief.

    May you both find that time helps to bring the good memories to mind more often than the loss.

    Hugs,

    Marie who loves kitties

  • Easyflip
    Easyflip Member Posts: 588 Member
    #3
    Strength

    to you and your father. Your mom sounds like a remarkable lady, may she rest in peace.

    Easyflip/Richard

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #4
    Dear Nellie,
    My sincere

    Dear Nellie,

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear mother.  May you find peace in the days ahead as you remember her love of life and family.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • Akroger
    Akroger Member Posts: 88
    #5
    Nellie, you and your father

    Nellie, you and your father have my very sincerest condolences. It sounds like you were an amazing daughter and essential source of support to her, especially during her cancer struggle. I wish the very strongest love and strength to you and your father now, and that the goodness she bequeathed upon you will in itself be a source of courage for your whole life.

  • Daisy13
    Daisy13 Member Posts: 43 Member
    #6
    Sending you love and strength ...

    You mother was very blessed to have a daughter as loving and respectful as you Nellie.  She sounds like a simply wonderful person.  You, your father, and your family are in my thoughts tonight. ~ Daisy

  • skeets1961
    skeets1961 Member Posts: 56
    #7
    So sorry

    I pray for peace and strength for your family.  I feel so sad for your father.  May God be with you all.

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #8
    Sorry

    Sorry to hear of your mother's passing and I'm glad that you were there when she passed on.  I'm sorry for your father and you and family.  May peace come to you and always remember the presence of your mother.  You will never forget.

    Kim

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
    #9
    Annabelle41415 said:

    Sorry

    Sorry to hear of your mother's passing and I'm glad that you were there when she passed on.  I'm sorry for your father and you and family.  May peace come to you and always remember the presence of your mother.  You will never forget.

    Kim

    Nellie,  I am so sorry to

    Nellie,  I am so sorry to learn of the death of your Mom. She sounds like an incredible woman who raised an incredible daughter.  I pray that your Dad finds consolation and peace.  My heart aches for all of you. Your love for your Mom is palpable.

    CM

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019 Member
    #10
    Oh, Nellie!

    I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my mom 10 years ago and still miss her everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Lin

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
    #11
    Cyber hugs

    I am sorry that your mum passed, but glad that she is at peace and without pain. 

    You and your father are in my prayers. Take the time to heal, it doesn't happen overnight. 

    Blessings dear Nellie, for a beautiful life, remembering your mum in all you do. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • lilacbrroller
    lilacbrroller Member Posts: 412 Member
    #12
    Trubrit said:

    Cyber hugs

    I am sorry that your mum passed, but glad that she is at peace and without pain. 

    You and your father are in my prayers. Take the time to heal, it doesn't happen overnight. 

    Blessings dear Nellie, for a beautiful life, remembering your mum in all you do. 

    Sue - Trubrit

    deepest sympathies

    Dear Meowycat -

    I am so sorry for your loss. Deepest sympathies.

    Karin

  • Phil64
    Phil64 Member Posts: 838 Member
    #13
    prayers for you and your

    prayers for you and your family. Especially her husband of 44 years. May you all be showered with love during this difficult time of loss. 

  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
    #14
    I am so sorry for your loss.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • fatbob2010
    fatbob2010 Member Posts: 467 Member
    #15
    Peace

    Sorry for your loss and your father's heartbreak.  Wishing you peace and comfort through this difficult transition.

  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 720 Member
    #16
    Deepest sympathy

    She is at peace. 

    Prayers and love to your family.

  • LindaK.
    LindaK. Member Posts: 506 Member
    #17
    So sorry

    to hear about your mom.  While her suffering is over, yours is just beginning.  The grief I am experiencing is something I never knew about.  Be gentle with yourself and your father, give yourself time to grieve and try not to let anyone influence you or your feelings.  Peace, Linda

  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member
    #18
    My condolences to you and your dad, Nellie

    Your mom sounds like she was a really special person.  I'm so glad that you got to spend so much time with her at the end.

    I hope the passage of time brings with it a little peace, and that the good memories will outshine any lingering pain.

    Big hugs~AA

  • Fight for my love
    Fight for my love Member Posts: 1,522 Member
    #19
    Very sorry for this news.

    Very sorry for this news.

  • Godsgoodgraces
    Godsgoodgraces Member Posts: 5
    #20
    So sorry

    I am sorry for your loss.

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #21
    I'm very sorry for your loss.

    I'm very sorry for your loss.  She sounds like the perfect mom.

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