Cancer Sucks BIG TIME!

debrajo
debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member

Saying goodbye to a dear friend, 54 years old, to Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer.  Houston told her a month ago there was nothing else they could do.  She chose to go to Cancer Centers of America in Tulsa, Ok.  They pulled out all the stops, enclouding SIX surgeries, radiation, targeted radiation, diet, ect.  She has been through pure HELL!  She is in systemapitic multiple organ failure.  Liver has stoped, one kidney has stoped, one kidney at 20% and going.  The family has been called.  Doctors say 3-5 days.  We are still praying for that mirical   She is on enough liquid morphine that she is able to hold her grandbabies and say goodbye to her kids and extended family.  Sorry for the downer, but I'm just so damn mad and sad!  Debra 

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  • Kaleena
    Kaleena Member Posts: 2,088 Member
    Prayers

    Dear Debra:

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend.   That poor girl going through all of that.   My prayers are out to her and her family and a special hug to you too, Debra.

    Kathy

  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    Kaleena said:

    Prayers

    Dear Debra:

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend.   That poor girl going through all of that.   My prayers are out to her and her family and a special hug to you too, Debra.

    Kathy

    Adding my prayers

    So sorry to hear about your friend, Debra.  And I so agree with you - cancer sucks BIG TIME!

    Hugs,

    Suzanne

  • Abbycat2
    Abbycat2 Member Posts: 644 Member

    Adding my prayers

    So sorry to hear about your friend, Debra.  And I so agree with you - cancer sucks BIG TIME!

    Hugs,

    Suzanne

    My condolences, Debra

    Debra, I couldn't agree more:  Cancer SUCKS big time!  Your friend is in my prayers so that she finds peace and that is true, for you, too. What a terrible loss and at a fairly young age.  As I travel this cancer journey, I am often reminded that none of it makes any sense.  There are so many awful and terminal diseases that people can get that make no sense to me and it breaks my heart to see others suffer.  Hopefully, Hospice is involved in your friend's care and is keeping her as comfortable as humanly possible.

    Take good care of yourself, Debra.  You are in my thoughts,

    Cathy

  • It happened to Me
    It happened to Me Member Posts: 206 Member
    Abbycat2 said:

    My condolences, Debra

    Debra, I couldn't agree more:  Cancer SUCKS big time!  Your friend is in my prayers so that she finds peace and that is true, for you, too. What a terrible loss and at a fairly young age.  As I travel this cancer journey, I am often reminded that none of it makes any sense.  There are so many awful and terminal diseases that people can get that make no sense to me and it breaks my heart to see others suffer.  Hopefully, Hospice is involved in your friend's care and is keeping her as comfortable as humanly possible.

    Take good care of yourself, Debra.  You are in my thoughts,

    Cathy

    So Sorry to hear that Debra

    So totally agree with all the posts.  Breaks my heart.  I hope she is in no pain and is able to say good-bye to all her loved ones.

    Jeanette

  • Ro10
    Ro10 Member Posts: 1,561 Member
    Debra

    I agree with you totally that cancer SUCKs big time.  It is especially hard when someone is so young.  I too hope your friend has hospice to keep her comfortable and help her family through the process.  You and her family remain in my prayers.  Glad you can come here and be mad and sad.  We certainly understand.

  • debrajo
    debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member
    Thanks

    Thanks everyone...she passed this morning.  We were all on line with her niece who was updating us minute to minute.  She fought it til she passed, assuring everyone there she was not dying and for them to go home.  This whole cancer bit is just wrong on so many levels.  DAMN CANCER! Yell

  • ConnieSW
    ConnieSW Member Posts: 1,677 Member
    debrajo said:

    Thanks

    Thanks everyone...she passed this morning.  We were all on line with her niece who was updating us minute to minute.  She fought it til she passed, assuring everyone there she was not dying and for them to go home.  This whole cancer bit is just wrong on so many levels.  DAMN CANCER! Yell

    Debrajo

    I am so sorry.

  • Kaleena
    Kaleena Member Posts: 2,088 Member
    debrajo said:

    Thanks

    Thanks everyone...she passed this morning.  We were all on line with her niece who was updating us minute to minute.  She fought it til she passed, assuring everyone there she was not dying and for them to go home.  This whole cancer bit is just wrong on so many levels.  DAMN CANCER! Yell

    (((Hugs)))

    So sorry for your loss.

    Kathy

  • Judemo
    Judemo Member Posts: 167 Member
    Kaleena said:

    (((Hugs)))

    So sorry for your loss.

    Kathy

    Debrajo

    So sorry for your loss. I'm sending you a hug.

  • Ro10
    Ro10 Member Posts: 1,561 Member
    debrajo said:

    Thanks

    Thanks everyone...she passed this morning.  We were all on line with her niece who was updating us minute to minute.  She fought it til she passed, assuring everyone there she was not dying and for them to go home.  This whole cancer bit is just wrong on so many levels.  DAMN CANCER! Yell

    Debrajo

    my deepest sympathy.  Wishing peace and comfort for all of you.  

  • cheerful
    cheerful Member Posts: 261 Member
    So Sorry for your loss

    Debra:

     

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost a friend to Peritoneal cancer stage 4 in January - she was 63 years old.  I actually met my friend when I was going through chemo over 3 years ago.

      My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

    Jane

  • debrajo
    debrajo Member Posts: 1,095 Member
    cheerful said:

    So Sorry for your loss

    Debra:

     

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost a friend to Peritoneal cancer stage 4 in January - she was 63 years old.  I actually met my friend when I was going through chemo over 3 years ago.

      My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

    Jane

    Thanks again

    Thank you all so much, I can always count on you all!  Now to get through the wake,Rosery, funeral mass, and burial.  Lots to do to get the family through, but we'll make it, crying and laughing!  She would have liked that!  She was the kind to show up at a funeral wearing a clown nose and pointy hat!  Laughing

  • ConnieSW
    ConnieSW Member Posts: 1,677 Member
    debrajo said:

    Thanks again

    Thank you all so much, I can always count on you all!  Now to get through the wake,Rosery, funeral mass, and burial.  Lots to do to get the family through, but we'll make it, crying and laughing!  She would have liked that!  She was the kind to show up at a funeral wearing a clown nose and pointy hat!  Laughing

    Oh,

    I like her.  Celebrate her life with bells on.

  • nempark
    nempark Member Posts: 681
    so sorry debra!!!!

    I know how you feel. In time you will feel better.  Take care of yourself, she is resting peacefully.

  • molimoli
    molimoli Member Posts: 514
    debrajo said:

    Thanks again

    Thank you all so much, I can always count on you all!  Now to get through the wake,Rosery, funeral mass, and burial.  Lots to do to get the family through, but we'll make it, crying and laughing!  She would have liked that!  She was the kind to show up at a funeral wearing a clown nose and pointy hat!  Laughing

    my condolence Debra

    I am sorry to hear of your loss, I pray that the creator will pick you  and her family up and carry you all over this hump. Thanks for being there for us all. we are hugging you ,feel it?

  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    nempark said:

    so sorry debra!!!!

    I know how you feel. In time you will feel better.  Take care of yourself, she is resting peacefully.

    My condolences, Debra

    May your friend rest in peace.  I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Hugs,

    Suzanne