Mother said to only have a few weeks to live, think she has stage IV

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  • sunflash
    sunflash Member Posts: 197 Member

    It's ok to be all talked out.

    She can sense your presence.  My cousin played some of my aunt's favorite music when she was in the state your mom is.  When my wonderful friend was dying, I just sat by her and either held her hand or rubbed her head.   If you can't be in the room very much, it's ok.  You can always go in, say Hi or give her a kiss and leave.  You are such an inspiriation Tristag.   I am still praying for you and your family.  And I know there are alot of other people thinking about you and praying for you.

    Jeanette

    Dear Tristag, 
    I am so sorry

    Dear Tristag, 

    I am so sorry for what you're going through, and  am holding you close to my heart and in prayer along with all the others here. 

    Remember, there is nothing you can say or feel that will separate you from God's love. He understands and loves you unconditionally, no matter what. When you don't "feel" Him, He's still there, loving you and your mom, and is ready for you to draw strength and comfort from Him when you're ready to. Everybody is different in the way they grieve, so please don't feel guilty or stressed over your feelings right now. There is absolutely no right or wrong way to express your grief. 

    One of my favorite scriptures is Isaiah, 41:10.......

    "So do not fear, for I am with you;

    Do not be dismayed, for I am your God.

    I will strengthen you and help you;

    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."

     

    Your mother must be an incredible peson to have raised such an outstanding and caring son. I know she and your dad are both so proud of you! 

    Thank you for having the courage to reach out to us.....you have incredible strength.....more than you even know. 

    Sending my love!

     

     


       



  • Judemo
    Judemo Member Posts: 167 Member
    sunflash said:

    Dear Tristag, 
    I am so sorry

    Dear Tristag, 

    I am so sorry for what you're going through, and  am holding you close to my heart and in prayer along with all the others here. 

    Remember, there is nothing you can say or feel that will separate you from God's love. He understands and loves you unconditionally, no matter what. When you don't "feel" Him, He's still there, loving you and your mom, and is ready for you to draw strength and comfort from Him when you're ready to. Everybody is different in the way they grieve, so please don't feel guilty or stressed over your feelings right now. There is absolutely no right or wrong way to express your grief. 

    One of my favorite scriptures is Isaiah, 41:10.......

    "So do not fear, for I am with you;

    Do not be dismayed, for I am your God.

    I will strengthen you and help you;

    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."

     

    Your mother must be an incredible peson to have raised such an outstanding and caring son. I know she and your dad are both so proud of you! 

    Thank you for having the courage to reach out to us.....you have incredible strength.....more than you even know. 

    Sending my love!

     

     


       



    Tristag, how are you? Thinking about you and your mom

    How are you? 

  • It happened to Me
    It happened to Me Member Posts: 206 Member
    Judemo said:

    Tristag, how are you? Thinking about you and your mom

    How are you? 

    Just letting you know.

    Hi Tristag, just wanted you to know that we are thinking about you and praying for you and your family.

    Jeanette

  • SUNGRANNY
    SUNGRANNY Member Posts: 81 Member
    Loving thoughts and prayers to you Tristag and your family

    Dear Tristag,

    As a woman with stage 4 cancer and a mother I am so very impressed by you. Your mother raised a fine daughter and I'm sure both your parents are proud of you.

    I am glad that Hospice is there to help, and hope there is a counselor or minister that you can talk with. When people go through grief and anticipatory loss as you are, people often go through a range of emotions - anger, guilt, denial, sadness, and eventually acceptance. A person can feel one way one day, and another on the next day (or moment) - emotional roller coaster.  

    Some other thoughts - is there a support group for daughters that you might be able to attend? (Hospice should know.)  Even if she seems "out of it", you can talk, sing, pray, to your mom - you never know what might reach her.  And as much as you can, may you remember the good times and the precious memories you have.

    May you and your family be at peace,

    NO NEED FOR YOU TO ANSWER THIS MESSAGE - I KNOW YOU HAVE TO OCCUPY YOUR MIND AND HEART.

    Sungranny

  • It happened to Me
    It happened to Me Member Posts: 206 Member
    SUNGRANNY said:

    Loving thoughts and prayers to you Tristag and your family

    Dear Tristag,

    As a woman with stage 4 cancer and a mother I am so very impressed by you. Your mother raised a fine daughter and I'm sure both your parents are proud of you.

    I am glad that Hospice is there to help, and hope there is a counselor or minister that you can talk with. When people go through grief and anticipatory loss as you are, people often go through a range of emotions - anger, guilt, denial, sadness, and eventually acceptance. A person can feel one way one day, and another on the next day (or moment) - emotional roller coaster.  

    Some other thoughts - is there a support group for daughters that you might be able to attend? (Hospice should know.)  Even if she seems "out of it", you can talk, sing, pray, to your mom - you never know what might reach her.  And as much as you can, may you remember the good times and the precious memories you have.

    May you and your family be at peace,

    NO NEED FOR YOU TO ANSWER THIS MESSAGE - I KNOW YOU HAVE TO OCCUPY YOUR MIND AND HEART.

    Sungranny

    Sungranny

    Tristag is a 18 year old young man.  Just wanted you to know.  He is pretty incredible.