bad news about my cancer

muffingranma
muffingranma Member Posts: 107

I haven't been on for a while I just haven't felt well, and no good news. This is what the surgeon told us. This is my home health aid typying this for me.

    Jerry went to see the plastic surgeon yesterday. He said that to do the surgery he would have to make a large hole and deep and take a large section of muscle from her back, and a large portion from her remaining breast..he said that due to Jerry current health there would be a good chance for her dying on the operating table..and if everything went well she would spend weeks, or months in the hospital recovering and her pain level would ramp up to a level that her quality of life would be greatly affected..there would also be a big possibility that the wound area which would be a large covered hole in her chest would never heal properly..so in the end its up to her what she should do..the doctor said there's no guarantee that doing the surgery would prolong the cancer or not doing it would prolong it..there are just too many unknowns with this cancer..the thing about doing the surgery that is true is that its a massive operation that has the real possibility of killing her during the surgery or afterward. So the next step is to go back to the oncologist and the breast surgeon and make the decision for or against chemo and or what the next steps will be There has ben more cancer show up on her chest. She needs your prayers as she goes to the oncologist doctor tomorrow. God Bless. She will try and be on tomorrow.

Comments

  • hope67
    hope67 Member Posts: 181
    I am so deeply sorry about this bad news

    Muffingranma, you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that you will make a decision that is right for you. I am so sorry for everything you are going through right now, please know that we are with you. Good luck at the appointment.

    Hugs, Carmen

  • aisling8
    aisling8 Member Posts: 1,627 Member
    hope67 said:

    I am so deeply sorry about this bad news

    Muffingranma, you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that you will make a decision that is right for you. I am so sorry for everything you are going through right now, please know that we are with you. Good luck at the appointment.

    Hugs, Carmen

    sending good thoughts

    and energy and hoping you can find a treatment that brings you comfort and peace.

    xoxo

    Victoria

  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS

    Not an easy decision.  Praying that there will be another option, a miracle for you.

    (((HUGS)))

    Monika (from the OVCA Board)

     

  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    Sending gentle hugs and

    Sending gentle hugs and prayers.  I know you will make the decision right for you!

  • SIROD
    SIROD Member Posts: 2,194 Member
    Good luck with your oncology

    Good luck with your oncology appointment tomorrow.  Sending prayers and positive energy.

    Best,

    Doris

  • lintx
    lintx Member Posts: 697
    So sorry to hear this news.

     

    Fingers crossed for the very best decision tomorrow.  Thinking of you.  Linda

  • mariam_11_09
    mariam_11_09 Member Posts: 691
    I am so sorry to hear this

    I am so sorry to hear this news.   Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.  Wishing all the best with the Oncologist. 

  • mariam_11_09
    mariam_11_09 Member Posts: 691
    I am so sorry to hear this

    I am so sorry to hear this news.   Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.  Wishing all the best with the Oncologist. 

  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    HUGs
     
     
    Denise

    HUGs

     

     

    Denise

  • linpsu
    linpsu Member Posts: 747
    hugs

    I am so sorry to hear this.  I hope you make the decision that is right for you.

  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    linpsu said:

    hugs

    I am so sorry to hear this.  I hope you make the decision that is right for you.

    You've got it!

    All of my hopes and prayers for a treatment choice that will be right for you.

    Suzanne

  • RozHopkins
    RozHopkins Member Posts: 578 Member
    Thinking of you here in

    Thinking of you here in Indiana.  XXXXXX

  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member

    Thinking of you here in

    Thinking of you here in Indiana.  XXXXXX

    prayers for wisdom ---

    strength, and courage.  

    Gentle hugs dear Sister.

    Vicki Sam

  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member
    VickiSam said:

    prayers for wisdom ---

    strength, and courage.  

    Gentle hugs dear Sister.

    Vicki Sam

    Wishing you the best

    Wishing you the best in whatever you decide.It's a very hard decision but after your appt you'll know more.

    Why do things have to be so complicated??? I haven't been down that road but I worry someday it could happen to me.

    Thoughts and Prayers to you and your family.

    Lynn Smith

  • Cricket64
    Cricket64 Member Posts: 63
    So many unanswered questions

    Prayers, as you search for answers, to what often are problems with not solutions.