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  • caroleinnkeeper
    caroleinnkeeper Member Posts: 8
    natmcg said:

    caroleinnkeeper
    Ooops did again lol I get a.bit impatient and push the submit twice.
    Chiming out now.
    Nat.

    More....

    I am very fortunate to be just outside of Orlando and only 15 minutes from the fabulous Florida Hospital Cancer Center. The dermotologist who already removed the tumor and got clear bottom margins is excellent. The surgeon who will be taking more to get all round clear margins is also excellent and has seen about 20 cases of DSFP. My derm has only seen 8 in her long career. So, time will tell but as far as having amazing care, I have no doubt that this will be the case. Surgery is set for 4/22 and I am ready for it! I will only have to stay overnight if they do a skin graft. I already have an 8 stitch closure and that was kind of stretching it, so it really depends just how much more they take. I would certainly rather not have it, but we'll just have to see. I am self employeed, have a B&B for 20 years, so any time taken to close the business is not good, but will do what I need to do to heal. 

    Thanks all for your expert feedback! 

  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32

    More....

    I am very fortunate to be just outside of Orlando and only 15 minutes from the fabulous Florida Hospital Cancer Center. The dermotologist who already removed the tumor and got clear bottom margins is excellent. The surgeon who will be taking more to get all round clear margins is also excellent and has seen about 20 cases of DSFP. My derm has only seen 8 in her long career. So, time will tell but as far as having amazing care, I have no doubt that this will be the case. Surgery is set for 4/22 and I am ready for it! I will only have to stay overnight if they do a skin graft. I already have an 8 stitch closure and that was kind of stretching it, so it really depends just how much more they take. I would certainly rather not have it, but we'll just have to see. I am self employeed, have a B&B for 20 years, so any time taken to close the business is not good, but will do what I need to do to heal. 

    Thanks all for your expert feedback! 

    Hi Carole good thing you

    Hi Carole good thing you found this thread - Nat and Jo are very good at helping in here, with answers and comfort. I hope every goes as planed on April 22.

    I went to my GP today and he was very concerned about my swolen lymph node behind the ear. A week a go I had a swolen lymph node in my cheek. In january when i first had the fat tissue tumor that came back with DFSP removed from my hip i also had a fat tissue tumor removed from my neck and since the pathology from the surgery came back with have been removed in healthy skin I have had the recurring though that maybe the tests got swiched in the lab and really it was the one in the neck that had the DFSP and now that my throad has been acting wierd for a couple of weeks... My GP wants to talk to my oncologist and then get back to me tomorrow he wants to see it they can do an ultrasound of my neck if not i have to wait in line for an ardinary referrel and that might take several month.

    I have this mean inner voice telling me " I knew it no one gets over cancer that easily "

  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member
    Lone111 said:

    Hi Carole good thing you

    Hi Carole good thing you found this thread - Nat and Jo are very good at helping in here, with answers and comfort. I hope every goes as planed on April 22.

    I went to my GP today and he was very concerned about my swolen lymph node behind the ear. A week a go I had a swolen lymph node in my cheek. In january when i first had the fat tissue tumor that came back with DFSP removed from my hip i also had a fat tissue tumor removed from my neck and since the pathology from the surgery came back with have been removed in healthy skin I have had the recurring though that maybe the tests got swiched in the lab and really it was the one in the neck that had the DFSP and now that my throad has been acting wierd for a couple of weeks... My GP wants to talk to my oncologist and then get back to me tomorrow he wants to see it they can do an ultrasound of my neck if not i have to wait in line for an ardinary referrel and that might take several month.

    I have this mean inner voice telling me " I knew it no one gets over cancer that easily "

    What can I say
    Dear Lone,,
    I wish I could say something to ease your concerns...but I know no matter what I say you will still worry( as we all would in your situation.)

    Try and deal with facts only. It is highly unlikely that your tests were mixed up. It's only right that your Dr should be.thorough and there are so many OTHER reasons lymph nodes become irritated.
    Remember It isn't anything till the Dr say it is. You say you HAD a swollen mode in your cheek, has this now.gone ? What about the one on your neck is it still swollen?
    I'm asking because I have read that nodes that are affected by cancer do not get bigger then smaller again. So that might be something to ask. Also besides an ultrasound can they do a biopsy? I know someone who had several " pin/punch biopsies on his neck but Im not sure if it was for a lymph node or someother issue...

    I'm hoping you will get in for your tests asap. Surely as it hasn't been that long since your op the oncologist can order the appropriate tests with out you waiting mths. Even your Dr should be able to push things through faster if he is concerned.
    But let's not get ahead of ourselves here. See what the oncologist says first. You can only do one thing at a time. And waiting for things to happen is alway hard.

    Try and stay positive.
    I'm giving you a BIG. cyber hug "O" to try and make you feel better,can you feel that ?? I do a lot of patting on your back when I hug don't I ? LOL .It's the mother in me I can't help it...

    Nat.

    Ps, Jo will pop in soon, .( thats if she has finished watching golf ha ha.)she's sure to have something positive to add.
  • caroleinnkeeper
    caroleinnkeeper Member Posts: 8
    I imagine now everything

    I imagine now everything "odd" we all see will make us think that is something new. I guess we all have to take it one issue at a time and to try not to worry anymore than we feel we have to. Easier said then done I am sure! 

  • Ontario48
    Ontario48 Member Posts: 66 Member
    Lone111 said:

    Hi Carole good thing you

    Hi Carole good thing you found this thread - Nat and Jo are very good at helping in here, with answers and comfort. I hope every goes as planed on April 22.

    I went to my GP today and he was very concerned about my swolen lymph node behind the ear. A week a go I had a swolen lymph node in my cheek. In january when i first had the fat tissue tumor that came back with DFSP removed from my hip i also had a fat tissue tumor removed from my neck and since the pathology from the surgery came back with have been removed in healthy skin I have had the recurring though that maybe the tests got swiched in the lab and really it was the one in the neck that had the DFSP and now that my throad has been acting wierd for a couple of weeks... My GP wants to talk to my oncologist and then get back to me tomorrow he wants to see it they can do an ultrasound of my neck if not i have to wait in line for an ardinary referrel and that might take several month.

    I have this mean inner voice telling me " I knew it no one gets over cancer that easily "

    Find a Sarcoma Specialist

    Hello Lone,  My best advise to you is to find a sarcoma specialist (soft tissue sarcoma).  Here (Toronto) you normally need a referral but i just googled one found her email and told her my situation.  She got back to me the same day and I got all my paper work to her.  I see her on the 7th of May.  A misdiagnosis is not uncommon for this type of cancer.  It can mimick normal fat cells...that's why I've said in the past that this type of cancer is tricky.

    I would hope that the oncologist will get you in for tests quickly as you already have a history if not start calling around and don't accept no for an answer.  Keep us posted and we are here for you.

    Jo

  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32

    I imagine now everything

    I imagine now everything "odd" we all see will make us think that is something new. I guess we all have to take it one issue at a time and to try not to worry anymore than we feel we have to. Easier said then done I am sure! 

    My GP didn't get back to me

    My GP didn't get back to me today - hope he will tomorrow.

    thanks for the hug and comfort - i'll try to see if I can get a biopsy of the lymphnode when the GP calls. The lymph node in the cheek was only swolen for a week so that is totally ordinary behavior - I hope. And yes you're propably right there is a good explanation for the lymph nodes swelling - I'm just overly sensitive and easily stressed right now. I have been trying to read up on how long time a lymph node are swolen when cancer is the course and I can't find anything so I guess it varies.

  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32
    Lone111 said:

    My GP didn't get back to me

    My GP didn't get back to me today - hope he will tomorrow.

    thanks for the hug and comfort - i'll try to see if I can get a biopsy of the lymphnode when the GP calls. The lymph node in the cheek was only swolen for a week so that is totally ordinary behavior - I hope. And yes you're propably right there is a good explanation for the lymph nodes swelling - I'm just overly sensitive and easily stressed right now. I have been trying to read up on how long time a lymph node are swolen when cancer is the course and I can't find anything so I guess it varies.

    It is a matter of believing - right?

    When you're told you are cured from cancer it is mainly a matter of believing right? because the doctors cannot tell if all cancer cell are gone - there can still be a few cells back to course another outbreak of this awfull disease - but you have to believe - I have to believe. I sure hope Jo is right that after the first year this cancer thing won't take up so much space in the thoughts anymore. And the facts about DFSP should make it earsier to believe that we are cured than many of the others awfull cancers.

    And a lot of things should have been going wrong for me to have a cancer speading in my throat - firstly the test should have been switched - very unlikely - second - since DFSP rarely spreads to lymphnodes and not with this speed the cancer should have been misdiagnosed - also unlikely I think - third - you can reraly fell cancer spreading that is one of the things that makes it so scary. All in all it is propably a weird virus that'll pass in a couple of weeks.

    My GP called and said the oncologist would think about what should happen and he might call me in otherwise I'll wait in line - and I think I'll be ok with that, since according to my above statement the chances of this being cancer related are very small.

    I have booket some consultations with a hypnotherapist - first on April 29. and I really hope that help me think less of cancer - I hope it can make me believe :-)

    BTW: Nat what about x-rays at the dentist? how do you do that?

    The best to you all - has anyone heard from Helen?

  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32
    Lone111 said:

    It is a matter of believing - right?

    When you're told you are cured from cancer it is mainly a matter of believing right? because the doctors cannot tell if all cancer cell are gone - there can still be a few cells back to course another outbreak of this awfull disease - but you have to believe - I have to believe. I sure hope Jo is right that after the first year this cancer thing won't take up so much space in the thoughts anymore. And the facts about DFSP should make it earsier to believe that we are cured than many of the others awfull cancers.

    And a lot of things should have been going wrong for me to have a cancer speading in my throat - firstly the test should have been switched - very unlikely - second - since DFSP rarely spreads to lymphnodes and not with this speed the cancer should have been misdiagnosed - also unlikely I think - third - you can reraly fell cancer spreading that is one of the things that makes it so scary. All in all it is propably a weird virus that'll pass in a couple of weeks.

    My GP called and said the oncologist would think about what should happen and he might call me in otherwise I'll wait in line - and I think I'll be ok with that, since according to my above statement the chances of this being cancer related are very small.

    I have booket some consultations with a hypnotherapist - first on April 29. and I really hope that help me think less of cancer - I hope it can make me believe :-)

    BTW: Nat what about x-rays at the dentist? how do you do that?

    The best to you all - has anyone heard from Helen?

    the oncology called - they'll

    the oncology called - they'll see me monday - I guess they don't think cancer that unlikely...I'm so scared again

  • Ontario48
    Ontario48 Member Posts: 66 Member
    Lone111 said:

    the oncology called - they'll

    the oncology called - they'll see me monday - I guess they don't think cancer that unlikely...I'm so scared again

    Hang in the Lone

    Hello Lone, I know its hard but don't get ahead of yourself.  Get all the facts first and then the next steps is working through it.  If its something you will have to deal with it and get through it.  Call in all your supports and draw strength from your kids...they can be very distracting :) .

    Good Luck on Monday.  I am off on holidays for the next week or so.  Will check in for an update when I get back. 

    Jo

    PS, not sure if you guys are getting these posts or not.

  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member
    Ontario48 said:

    Hang in the Lone

    Hello Lone, I know its hard but don't get ahead of yourself.  Get all the facts first and then the next steps is working through it.  If its something you will have to deal with it and get through it.  Call in all your supports and draw strength from your kids...they can be very distracting :) .

    Good Luck on Monday.  I am off on holidays for the next week or so.  Will check in for an update when I get back. 

    Jo

    PS, not sure if you guys are getting these posts or not.

    one step at a time
    Hi Lone & Jo,

    Yep your.post is here, well I.can see it.!!

    Lone look at the.positive...you don't have to wait too long...and the oncologist is just doing his/her job....they need to see you and record your concerns....and maybe do some more tests. But it doesn't mean anything except that they are being thorough....and if there is something to deal with...then that's what you will do.

    Your young,generaly healthy and your chest xray was clear. Btw I don't have xrays at the dentist anymore. Not since I found out about my brain tumor.

    Seeing a therapist should be good fot you. I saw one a few yrs ago and she didn't really hypnotize me fully, but put positive suggestions into my thoughts and she taught me self hypnosis & meditation. It takes a bit of practice but I found it worked when I was told about the tumor and the DFSP. With meditation I can get my blood pressure Down and not take medication. Don't hete wrong on both occasions I felt scared and confused and I cried myself to sleep many nights. But I just kept counting my blessings and trusted that the Drs in both cases new what they were doing. And so far do good.:-)

    You asked about Helen. I was thinking about her&her .husband the other day . I sent her am email.but haven't had a.reply.

    I had contact with an Italian lady last week who's son has DFSP on hid foot....poor boy....only 8yrs I think...she.posted on one of the other older DFSP threads...so I emailed her and invited her to join in here. She said she would but this.site takes a bit of getting use to. It might try another email...see how she is doing...she did mention the drs didn't know much about DFSP.....no surprise there!!

    I'd better go now
    Take care lone try not to think about the " what ifs" and enjoy the weekend.
    Nat.
  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32
    natmcg said:

    one step at a time
    Hi Lone & Jo,

    Yep your.post is here, well I.can see it.!!

    Lone look at the.positive...you don't have to wait too long...and the oncologist is just doing his/her job....they need to see you and record your concerns....and maybe do some more tests. But it doesn't mean anything except that they are being thorough....and if there is something to deal with...then that's what you will do.

    Your young,generaly healthy and your chest xray was clear. Btw I don't have xrays at the dentist anymore. Not since I found out about my brain tumor.

    Seeing a therapist should be good fot you. I saw one a few yrs ago and she didn't really hypnotize me fully, but put positive suggestions into my thoughts and she taught me self hypnosis & meditation. It takes a bit of practice but I found it worked when I was told about the tumor and the DFSP. With meditation I can get my blood pressure Down and not take medication. Don't hete wrong on both occasions I felt scared and confused and I cried myself to sleep many nights. But I just kept counting my blessings and trusted that the Drs in both cases new what they were doing. And so far do good.:-)

    You asked about Helen. I was thinking about her&her .husband the other day . I sent her am email.but haven't had a.reply.

    I had contact with an Italian lady last week who's son has DFSP on hid foot....poor boy....only 8yrs I think...she.posted on one of the other older DFSP threads...so I emailed her and invited her to join in here. She said she would but this.site takes a bit of getting use to. It might try another email...see how she is doing...she did mention the drs didn't know much about DFSP.....no surprise there!!

    I'd better go now
    Take care lone try not to think about the " what ifs" and enjoy the weekend.
    Nat.

    It was good I had a talk with

    It was good I had a talk with the oncologist yesterday because appently I had misunderstood what he told me about the "meat" he removed surgically - it did contain DFSP and therefor there is no risk of the pathology tests being switched between the lump in the hip and the lump in my neck. He made a note in my journal that we should have a talk about my throad/neck when i go for my follow up appointment in July to see if I still have issues. But it could not be the DFSP causing lymph node to swell because DFSP spread through the blood if it spreads, he told me.

    I hope the hypnotherapist can make me confident about my body again - first appointment on monday - otherwise I fear i'll freak out everytime some thing happens with my body.

    I hope you're surgery went well Carole.

    I hope you're all enjoying life.

    Lone

  • caroleinnkeeper
    caroleinnkeeper Member Posts: 8
    Surgery Update

    I had my surgery Monday and things went well. I had already had my tumor removed along with a lot of tissue. She didn't have clear margins, so this was to go in and take more, until margins were clear. I have a 7" long cut, rather narrow now, to heal, but didn't need a skin graft. They didn't know going into it if I would need one or not, just depended on what they ended up having to do. So, I have blocked out this week to just rest and heal, and my next B&B guests are coming in Friday. My husband is being very helpful, but really just resting and icing is the only thing to do right now. Thanks for all your warm thoughts!

  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member
    Lone111 said:

    It was good I had a talk with

    It was good I had a talk with the oncologist yesterday because appently I had misunderstood what he told me about the "meat" he removed surgically - it did contain DFSP and therefor there is no risk of the pathology tests being switched between the lump in the hip and the lump in my neck. He made a note in my journal that we should have a talk about my throad/neck when i go for my follow up appointment in July to see if I still have issues. But it could not be the DFSP causing lymph node to swell because DFSP spread through the blood if it spreads, he told me.

    I hope the hypnotherapist can make me confident about my body again - first appointment on monday - otherwise I fear i'll freak out everytime some thing happens with my body.

    I hope you're surgery went well Carole.

    I hope you're all enjoying life.

    Lone

    Good that you feel better
    Hi Lone,
    I actualy wrote a big post to you two days ago but it didnt go on this board and yesterday i couldnt log on. It kept saying "web page not avaliable" never mind Im here now.
    So it sounds like your appointment went well. But Im a bit confused about what you said about DFSP not going to lymph nodes, dosent blood flow throw lymph nodes?, When I went for my check up my Dr. checked my armpits, neck and groin to see if there was swelling or lumps. Hmmmm. Are lymph nodes and glands the same thing.?... Maybe when Jo gets back from holidays she can help me out.
    Or maybe I could google it. :-\

    So have the swellings/ soreness you had in your cheek and neck gone?
    I think you will be much more relaxed after your visit with the therapist. I know it helped me
    when I saw one, she taught me some easy coping skills, which i still use at times,

    Stay happy &safe,
    Nat.
  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member

    Surgery Update

    I had my surgery Monday and things went well. I had already had my tumor removed along with a lot of tissue. She didn't have clear margins, so this was to go in and take more, until margins were clear. I have a 7" long cut, rather narrow now, to heal, but didn't need a skin graft. They didn't know going into it if I would need one or not, just depended on what they ended up having to do. So, I have blocked out this week to just rest and heal, and my next B&B guests are coming in Friday. My husband is being very helpful, but really just resting and icing is the only thing to do right now. Thanks for all your warm thoughts!

    Good news
    Hi Carol,
    Glad to hear everything went well. Good that you didnt need graft cause then you would have 2 sore spots. Sounds like
    you have everything worked out.

    B&B in FLoriad sou nds like a great place to visit:

    Take care
    Nat,
  • Lone111
    Lone111 Member Posts: 32
    natmcg said:

    Good news
    Hi Carol,
    Glad to hear everything went well. Good that you didnt need graft cause then you would have 2 sore spots. Sounds like
    you have everything worked out.

    B&B in FLoriad sou nds like a great place to visit:

    Take care
    Nat,

    Hi Carole - great the surgery

    Hi Carole - great the surgery went well and you did not have to have skin graft. 

    Jo has earlier wrote that DFSP rarely spreads throught lymph nodes. Lymph modes and lymph glans are according to wiki the same thing and appently my doctor/oncologist or surgeon don't think DFSP can spread through them at all. Maybe it is one of these cases where there is no consensus world wide.

    I wish I was going to Florida this summer - I would love to come and stay at your B&B :-)

    best wishes

    Lone

  • caroleinnkeeper
    caroleinnkeeper Member Posts: 8
    4 days after surgery

    Doing better every day and this is the first morning I wasn't dying to take a pain pill. That is good because B&B guests checking in later, 4pm or after. I have my post-op appointment next week so we'll see what the doctor says. I think I am doing great. The 7" cut is in an difficult area though, high up on the outside of my thigh. I can lay down and stand fine, it is sitting that is tricky as it pulls the area. This too shall pass!Wink

  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member

    4 days after surgery

    Doing better every day and this is the first morning I wasn't dying to take a pain pill. That is good because B&B guests checking in later, 4pm or after. I have my post-op appointment next week so we'll see what the doctor says. I think I am doing great. The 7" cut is in an difficult area though, high up on the outside of my thigh. I can lay down and stand fine, it is sitting that is tricky as it pulls the area. This too shall pass!Wink

    Holiday time for me.
    Hi ladies,
    Sounds like every one is coming along nicely. Once your stitches are out carol you will probably feel more comfortable. Then the healing/itching starts.lol Jo and I both had our DFSP removed from under our left breast. So our problem was trying put to ware bras. Even now six months after surgery I find myself folding one of my husbands hankies(long ways) and placing it between my scar and the bra for a bit more comfort. Funny thing is, thats what I use to do for years to try and ease the iritation my bra caused on and around the tumor.

    I'm going on a crusie for about 2wks then visiting some friends interstate. So may not be checking in or posting for a while. Ihave been in contact recently with a lady in Italy,her 7yr old son had DFSP and she is waiting to find out if he has had a reoccurance. I found her1st post when I was browsing through old threads on here named DFSP. I explained to her that this thread is where more recently diagnosed people are and she said she would like to join in. She has some serious conserns becasue the Drs.dont have experience with DFSP andif her sons results are positive for DFSP they have said they will need to remove a large part of his foot.
    I did ask if she could find a STS specialist (Soft tissue sarcoma) in Italy or at least get a second opinion but as yet she hasnt emailed me back.I know you will all make her welcome if she does post here.

    Stay safe
    Natalie

    PS lone I hope your other appointment went well and you are feeling more relaxed.:-)
  • Ontario48
    Ontario48 Member Posts: 66 Member
    natmcg said:

    Holiday time for me.
    Hi ladies,
    Sounds like every one is coming along nicely. Once your stitches are out carol you will probably feel more comfortable. Then the healing/itching starts.lol Jo and I both had our DFSP removed from under our left breast. So our problem was trying put to ware bras. Even now six months after surgery I find myself folding one of my husbands hankies(long ways) and placing it between my scar and the bra for a bit more comfort. Funny thing is, thats what I use to do for years to try and ease the iritation my bra caused on and around the tumor.

    I'm going on a crusie for about 2wks then visiting some friends interstate. So may not be checking in or posting for a while. Ihave been in contact recently with a lady in Italy,her 7yr old son had DFSP and she is waiting to find out if he has had a reoccurance. I found her1st post when I was browsing through old threads on here named DFSP. I explained to her that this thread is where more recently diagnosed people are and she said she would like to join in. She has some serious conserns becasue the Drs.dont have experience with DFSP andif her sons results are positive for DFSP they have said they will need to remove a large part of his foot.
    I did ask if she could find a STS specialist (Soft tissue sarcoma) in Italy or at least get a second opinion but as yet she hasnt emailed me back.I know you will all make her welcome if she does post here.

    Stay safe
    Natalie

    PS lone I hope your other appointment went well and you are feeling more relaxed.:-)

    Catching Up...

    Hello Ladies,

    Back from a very relaxing week in the hot sun of Cuba.   Nothing to think about or do for a week.  It was lovely and the weather was perfect.  Just catching up on your chats this morning with my coffee (which I had to make myself :).  Nice incision Carole, 7" and no graft.  Glad you didn't have to have that, makes recovering longer and more painful.  Glad all is going well.  Depending on how deep your doc went will determine your heal time.  They took my fascia so my doc says about a year for full heal.  As Nat says, after the stitches come out the incision will feel way better and time helps the skin stretch.  I was hunched over for about a week as it felt like my boob was stuck to my bellybutton, LOL.  I also put polysporin on it until the stitches came out, helped with it drying up and getting tighter.

    Lone, I too am confused as to why your doc says this doesn't go to the lymph nodes. He is right that it spreads via the bloodvessels which is the most common way if it does but it can go via the LN.  I was also a bit confused, you had the DFSP in two sites??  Are your nodes still swollen.  If they continue to be I wouldn't wait until July, you may need a second opinion or go back and show your oncologist some articles on LN spread and insist on a biopsy.  You'd hate to think back and say "crap" I should have done something back then.  Multiple sites is also extremely rare. 

    Jessie was telling me that her doc said "its not a real cancer".  What the hell does that mean?!.  Just goes to show you how rare this is and due to that the docs don't put it high on the priority list.  I know I keep saying this but find an STS (Soft Tissue Sarcoma) specialist.  They understand this type of cancer.  I think skin docs tend to treat it the same way as a carcinoma which is totally different.

    Other than feeling totally relaxed from my holidays I have nothing to report.  Seeing the specialist in a week.  That will mark just over 5 months since my surgery. Like Nat I hate wearing a bra as the incision site is tender, can't wait till that goes away.

    It's slowly warming up here in Ontario.  Going to start cleaning up the gardens today...I love that, very theraputic.

    Cheers for now, Jo

    PS Nat, if you havent' left yet have a BLAST on your holidays!!

  • natmcg
    natmcg Member Posts: 134 Member
    Ontario48 said:

    Catching Up...

    Hello Ladies,

    Back from a very relaxing week in the hot sun of Cuba.   Nothing to think about or do for a week.  It was lovely and the weather was perfect.  Just catching up on your chats this morning with my coffee (which I had to make myself :).  Nice incision Carole, 7" and no graft.  Glad you didn't have to have that, makes recovering longer and more painful.  Glad all is going well.  Depending on how deep your doc went will determine your heal time.  They took my fascia so my doc says about a year for full heal.  As Nat says, after the stitches come out the incision will feel way better and time helps the skin stretch.  I was hunched over for about a week as it felt like my boob was stuck to my bellybutton, LOL.  I also put polysporin on it until the stitches came out, helped with it drying up and getting tighter.

    Lone, I too am confused as to why your doc says this doesn't go to the lymph nodes. He is right that it spreads via the bloodvessels which is the most common way if it does but it can go via the LN.  I was also a bit confused, you had the DFSP in two sites??  Are your nodes still swollen.  If they continue to be I wouldn't wait until July, you may need a second opinion or go back and show your oncologist some articles on LN spread and insist on a biopsy.  You'd hate to think back and say "crap" I should have done something back then.  Multiple sites is also extremely rare. 

    Jessie was telling me that her doc said "its not a real cancer".  What the hell does that mean?!.  Just goes to show you how rare this is and due to that the docs don't put it high on the priority list.  I know I keep saying this but find an STS (Soft Tissue Sarcoma) specialist.  They understand this type of cancer.  I think skin docs tend to treat it the same way as a carcinoma which is totally different.

    Other than feeling totally relaxed from my holidays I have nothing to report.  Seeing the specialist in a week.  That will mark just over 5 months since my surgery. Like Nat I hate wearing a bra as the incision site is tender, can't wait till that goes away.

    It's slowly warming up here in Ontario.  Going to start cleaning up the gardens today...I love that, very theraputic.

    Cheers for now, Jo

    PS Nat, if you havent' left yet have a BLAST on your holidays!!

    NOT A REAL CANCER!!!!!????WHAT THE ****?????
    What a stupid thing for a so called Dr.to say. Obviously hasnt read the stories here(and elsewhere on the net) about people having to have whole parts of their body reconstructed because the DFSP had spread so much..and radiation...and cancer drugs to try and slow it down..
    That just shows how ignorant some Dr.s are.
    Thank god Jess was smart enough go elsewhere.

    Now I have that off my chest. Hello.:-)

    Yes, Im still here, but not for long, we sail out of Sydney harbour tomorrow evening(Sunday).

    Take care everyone
    Nat. B-)
  • www987
    www987 Member Posts: 5
    Worried and confused :(

    Hi everyone.  I wish I'd known about the Mayo Clinic and Dr. Attia before we started treatment. :(  I tried to research DFSP specialists but his name never came up at the time.

    I'm the husband of a DFSP patient.  She's had it on her upper arm and shoulder for at least a decade, which I guess is why none of her doctors seemed very concerned by it.  It only started growing noticeably in the last couple of years, probably due to pregnancy.  Anyway, after finally getting a biopsy done I took her recently to a world-renowned cancer hospital and have had somehwat of a mixed experience.  The doctors we've seen don't sound especially knowledgeable about DFSP and we've been given some contradictory information.  The doctors seemed more concerned with cosmetics than getting rid of the actual cancer (as someone above put it, they seem not to consider it a 'real cancer') and so the surgery was, I felt very conservative.  This resulted (as I expected) in positive margins all the way around.  While they're willing to go back and do it differently this time (cutting away tissue and assessing margins in real time until negative margins are achieved), they seem to prefer simply treating it with radiation and observing it without any further surgery.  My wife also prefers this route because she's terrified of having to do a flap.  It is of course, her decision and not mine, but I think she's entitled to know the risks of this approach.  My feeling is that it's easier to prevent a recurrence now (through more definitive surgery plus radiation) then to have to deal with one later and also deal with the risk of metastasis, which becomes more likely the more you cut through the tumour.  Although radiation has had encouraging results, the data set is very small and so I'm just nervous about relying solely on radiation when we know the margins are entirely positive.

    Has anyone gone through a similar situation (i.e. relying only on radiation to deal with positive margins)?  I feel like we're at a crossroads and I'm terrified of making the wrong decisison.